To stop hosting all the time?

[CeliaFate]

In our circle of friends and family we are always the hosts and it's starting to irritate me.
The work that goes into hosting 20+ people, not to mention the cost is too much.

We normally host get togethers 4 or 5 times a year - for birthdays/Christmas.

Only one person brings booze, a couple of the others may bring a plate of fairy cakes or similar. Most people bring nothing, not even a bottle of wine.
I know we're lucky to have the space for everyone, but it's costing us a fortune each time and a lot of work preparing food and cleaning before and afterwards.
AIBU to stop doing it? I know the dc will be very disappointed, but I'm fed up of people taking advantage of our hospitality and never reciprocating - I don't expect an invitation to their house, but perhaps suggest a pub lunch and organise it, rather than a "oh we must get together in the summer".

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Well - if they don't have the room, they could either suggest an outdoor venue for a picnic, or a pub (with everyone paying their own way), or they could ask, really nicely, whether you would host again, as long as everyone pitched in, so you didn't have to do any extra work, AND they all brought the food with them, so you didn't have all the expense.

I have hosted big gatherings for groups I am a member of, but the other people have always provided ample amounts of food and drink, and have done the clearing up afterwards. Yes, I have to clean and tidy beforehand, but that's no bad thing - I am no domestic goddess, and tend to clean when I have something or someone to clean for, iyswim - and I like the fun of the party without having to leave the comfort of my own home - it satisfies my social side and mollifies my hermit tendencies at the same time!