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AIBU?

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AIBU to want to not have to clean the toilet before every use???

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LizzyBennet1813 · 02/07/2014 08:51

OK, possibly tmi here but this is something I find really irratating & when I bring it up with my partner he makes me feel like I'm being unreasonable so I would like your thoughts.

Whenever I want to use our toilet I have to clean it because he always leaves pee all over the seat and I'm not just talking a little drip here and there.
This morning I came down from using the loo & tried to not sound naggy and just jovially said, 'you really need to learn to aim' he sighed and said 'next time I go you can watch & you will see it has nothing to do with aim, sometimes it just changes direction, we can't control it' so I said 'fair enough but can you at least clean it up afterwards' he claimed he didn't notice anything to be wiped.
Similar conversations to this have occurred in the past.
Am I being unreasonable? do all woman have to put up with this? I know it's not a huge deal but its really annoying!!

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Luggagecarousel · 02/07/2014 08:53

I have teen sons. I stand over them and make them clean it up. I have told them no one will ever want to marry them if they don't!

They never caused this much mess on the seat when they were little!

WeirdCatLady · 02/07/2014 08:56

I thought all men were trained to lift the seat? Might be worth trying this instead. Otherwise, I'd have to go with nagging each and every time. To leave the toilet like that is disrespectful and gross.

coralgrimes · 02/07/2014 08:57

YANBU! it's disgusting! DP never leaves it like that. Keep on at him it's not on

beccajoh · 02/07/2014 08:59

Why doesn't he put the seat up? Or sit down? My husband has never peed all over the seat! Treat him like the child he's being and don't let him out until he's checked there's nothing to clean up. Do you have more than one loo? Padlock one for your own use perhaps

KnackeredMuchly · 02/07/2014 09:00

Urgh! Tell him to come and watch you wipe it - and he will see how easy it is to wipe the seat!!

Cheeky fucker, I would not tolerate it.

NoraRobertsismyguiltypleasure · 02/07/2014 09:02

Not normal, possibly quite common, but it's just laziness to not bother wiping it up. If he says he can't see a nything then before you go make him go back up and wipe it up. If you keep doing he has no incentive to do so. If he has such trouble with it changing direction then he needs to sit down to per.

Bouttimeforwine · 02/07/2014 09:13

Lift the seat and still wipe up any mess. Gross.

TulipOHare · 02/07/2014 09:16

Why on earth can't he lift the seat?

I have never had to deal with this (and I grew up with a dad and four brothers!)

Even 6yo DS manages not to do this! So YADNBU!

littlemisssarcastic · 02/07/2014 09:17

Luggage Do you actually stand over your teenage sons while they're having a wee?

FraidyCat · 02/07/2014 10:30

If he can't avoid making a mess, (a) he needs to sit and (b) if he doesn't sit, he needs to clean it up himself.

Finola1step · 02/07/2014 10:33

He's a lazy fecker.

CocktailQueen · 02/07/2014 10:34

lol at this! My 7yo has never done this - and if his aim is off, he will clean off. Get your dh to lift the ruddy seat. Or pee sitting if his aim is that bad. Yuk.

Tell him you don't want to have sex with him because you've been cleaning up his wee and that doesn't put you in the mood??

Minesril · 02/07/2014 10:36

I find it utterly repulsive and would never live with someone like that. I cannot understand why men feel they need to stand anyway. My husband sits - far, far more civilised.

Most men seem to have some 'manly' idea of marking their territory, I suppose, with a disgusting expectation that someone else will clear it up. A bit like a puppy.

TryDrawing · 02/07/2014 10:37

My 2yo dd leaves the seat like that because she is potty training. That's the only acceptable excuse for anyone to do so, imo. I take it your partner is not 2 and potty training?

GoringBit · 02/07/2014 10:38

Why on earth would he think it's okay to leave the seat with urine all over it? Which, as far as I'm concerned, it bloody well isn't.

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 02/07/2014 10:39

Um, stating the obvious, why isn't he lifting the seat?

TinyTear · 02/07/2014 10:39

Take photos every time and show him a nice collage at the end of the week

idontlikealdi · 02/07/2014 10:40

My husband used to do this, and if I went for a wee in the middle of the night would end up sitting in piss and wouldn't turn on the light.

I told him if he did it again and didn't clear up I would be using his toothbrush to clean it up with - seems to have worked so far.

toolonglurking · 02/07/2014 10:46

I had a flatmate who 'couldn't help it'. I explained to him that I no longer wished to walk through his piss on the bathroom floor every morning.

He moved out not long after this conversation. It may have had something to do with me explaining to him (a doctor!) that he is a dirty tinker and he should sit down and pee like a girl if he isn't man enough to wipe up his own piss.

I have since had 2-3 male flatmates who all manage to get it in the toilet, which leads me to believe its your partner being a lazy arse.

flipchart · 02/07/2014 10:47

Bloody hell, ozone husband and two teenage sons and nothing like this.

Filthy git!!

flipchart · 02/07/2014 10:48

Obviously meant one husband on my previous post.
I'm doing some right typos today!!

Haggischucker · 02/07/2014 10:50

Yup, filthy!

Mine raises seat, and then wipes down rim and any floor spray too, he's well trained! ;)

deckthehalls1188 · 02/07/2014 10:53

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trikken · 02/07/2014 10:57

Yanbu at all. Ds is the worst for this. It annoys me no end. I dont want a wet arse every time I sit down on the loo. I make him go back and clean up every time but the message still hasn't got through yet!

FayeKorgasm · 02/07/2014 11:03

I would take photos, each and every time he does this, and post them on FB/Twitter/Instagram, so all his lovely friends can see what he is like.

What a filthy bugger.

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