AIBU to want to not have to clean the toilet before every use???

[LizzyBennet1813]

OK, possibly tmi here but this is something I find really irratating & when I bring it up with my partner he makes me feel like I'm being unreasonable so I would like your thoughts.

Whenever I want to use our toilet I have to clean it because he always leaves pee all over the seat and I'm not just talking a little drip here and there.
This morning I came down from using the loo & tried to not sound naggy and just jovially said, 'you really need to learn to aim' he sighed and said 'next time I go you can watch & you will see it has nothing to do with aim, sometimes it just changes direction, we can't control it' so I said 'fair enough but can you at least clean it up afterwards' he claimed he didn't notice anything to be wiped.
Similar conversations to this have occurred in the past.
Am I being unreasonable? do all woman have to put up with this? I know it's not a huge deal but its really annoying!!

Didn't people used to say that you should rub your dog's nose in any messes it makes? OP I realise your DH is not a dog but maybe you could try rubbing his nose in his wee? Perhaps if he is that close to the wet seat he will be able to see the mess he's left behind.

Dh is another sit down pee-er. No way would I put up with the mess!

Could you pop one of those toilet training floating balls in the loo? When he asks why say "well, clearly you need help aiming".

thenightsky if you get a steam cleaner wear a mask the first go at the loo

My DS is a sprinkler, I really must get on with making him clean up after himself. He has only just mastered flushign and is banned from cleaning after a poo

He sounds crap.

He can't be bothered to lift the seat, and he can't be bothered to wipe it.

He just thinks he can piss all over you I guess.

Your husban pisses all over the seat every time and leaves it for you to clean up? That is fucking rats. How disgusting.

Not sure if have got to the living together stage with someone who can't wipe their own piss up.

Probably time to go hard-line. If he can't piss like a man he needs to sit down to have a wee. Or you call him back every time and stand over him while he wipes it up. Or you start taking a piss in his sock drawer or in his shoes.

Or maybe this is his way of saying he really wants you to golden shower him during sex? Next time take a massive piss all over his face while you're DTD and tell him no sex without face-piss unless he starts clearing up after himself.

YANBU

He is being slack. Taking the 'piss' in fact.

He needs to either sit down to pee (DH and DSs do here) or wipe up his mess afterwards.

It's disgusting, and I wouldn't stand for it.

I have 2 pre-teen boys who are not perfect with aim and one is lazy re the lifting the seat... they are dragged back and told to clear it up EVERYTIME! the last time I had to call one back, they were both told "they would be cleaning the bathroom in future daily if it happened again..." so far so good... but I like the using the their toothbrushes (problem is I dont always know who the messy one is).....

Adults certainly should not be doing this....

Mumyum leaving a shitty toilet for your cleaner to clean is gross. How could you do this?

the last time we ever saw a puddle of pee on the back of the loo, DH gave each of the DSs a piece of toilet paper each and they had to wipe up a third each.

It's been pristine ever since.

That is disgusting. I've never known a man to piss all over the seat and not clean it up. Did your DH's parents let him get away with that when he was a child? I know my father would have gone nuts if my brothers left a mess.

flossy when I was pregnant was the only time DH ever scrubbed a toilet. I'd have to get pregnant again before he'll do an encore. So not happening soon. And as I told him, I refuse to literally clean up his shit. And given when the cleaner first came I told her the reason for having her was to do the chores I wouldn't, and DH pretends doesn't exist, she's been totally prepared and agreeable on that score. And she gets paid to do it, I'm not!! The downstairs toilet for guests DH is not allowed to use, he uses family bathroom, I use en suite. At least she knows it's not my shitmess!!!

My OH did this and also, even worse IMO, would leave the bowl caked in poo after he'd been (even after flushing).
Literally years of nagging did not change this behaviour until one day I just snapped and went completely fucking bat shit crazy, complete with screaming and tears and o packed a bag to leave.
I couldn't handle him not cleaning up his own shot and then making it out to be MY problem.

It's fine now. I'm not proud of the crying but he knew that I was serious.

TheBloodMan I can so totally relate - did you see my posts further up the thread? I'm very pleased to announce that this morning he double flushed. I told him as the cleaner has gone on holiday for three weeks and if he left a dirty bowl I would assume he's leaving it for me as there is now no one else to clean. And if he leaves me his shit to scrub from the toilet I think that is highly disrespectfulof him. He actually looked shocked. Result. For now!!

Does he have a genital piercing? This can affect stream direction (making his story plausible).

Either way, he needs to clean up after himself. Tell him whether he sees it or not he needs to learn to put the seat up OR he's expected to wipe the seat EVERY time he uses the bathroom. I have a bottle of windex touch-up which is perfect for this very thing.

He's being very disrespectful.