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whatnowstupid · 27/06/2014 12:55

Bought a property 8 years ago with ExP. He had limited funds so we bought as tenants in common 72% 28% with me having larger share. We are now splitting up, we have a dog. Because he kept banging on about would have to rent, couldn't share dog etc. I felt bad and offered to split our house sale proceeds 50/50. After a bit of "Oh no that's too generous", he accepted, found a flat and said he would be able to give me 10,000 back, then changed his mind at flat needs some work done. Since then he's still banging on about being hard done by, will I commit to having dog when he goes on holiday etc and generally making my life as miserable as he can (has very nasty streak). We are renting together until we both buyseperately (which was a mistake but seemed to make sense at the time. WIBU to change my mind. The amount I would be givng him is 73,000

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IMurderedStampyLongnose · 27/06/2014 21:56

DO NOT GIVE HIM YOUR MONEY!!!!

Bouttimeforwine · 27/06/2014 22:05

I know she shouldn't have to give him 50% of the capital gain, but she wants to help him and that is a compromise that is more than fair.

Personally, the fact that he didn't want to leave his share to ds, would mean that I'd feel like the majority of you guys. Especially as he hasn't contributed 50% of the monthly costs.

I was just looking at it from her angle and finding a compromise for her, but yes, it is very more than fair.

PersonOfInterest · 27/06/2014 22:15

Why do you want to give all this money to a man you no longer like love? Legally and morally its not his.

Is there something else you're not telling us? Do you feel guilty or frightened about something?

trixymalixy · 27/06/2014 22:17

WTF?!?!? Renege!! Don't give him your money!!!!

BanjoKazooie · 27/06/2014 22:39

If you really feel that you have to help him don't just give him the money. Use the extra money you were going to give him to help him buy his new house as tenants in common. With the house ownership apportioned appropriately between the two of you . It would be a long term strategy but at least your son would get the money eventually.

(I might not have explained this that well but hopefully you will understand what I mean Blush )

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