thread police, yes you.

[ICanSeeTheSun]

aibu to ask what you get out of pointing out to the OP 'what is the AIBU'

AIBU to think that you have nothing better to do.
AIBU to think why didn't you just stick to MNHQ T&C and report.
AIBU to think you just want the attention.

"Get this moved" is not the same as "Bugger off". The thread stays in existence, everyone who has posted can still see it on TIO, but it is now visible to non-AIBUers and will get more helpful and informed responses. It is an entirely valid and constructive piece of advice.

"That's not an AIBU/So what's your AIBU?" are a bit twatty, although sometimes the OP is asking for it.

daisy btw really poor form to drag another OP's thread into here. She was clearly distressed and it should be left to lie.

Depends where you're logging into, Marylou - if you enter just the URL then it takes you to the home page

Omg, people will start an argument about anything!

^^

Saying things like that just widens the divide between old and new posters.

It doesn't matter what MN was like 5 years ago - things change and evolve. Are you still exactly the same as you were 5 years ago?

It is quite clear that new people joining think that in order to post a question on Mumsnet it has to start with the question Am I Being Unreasonable?

It is an embarrassment.

I was referring to this quote.

Marylou You'll soon find your way. Tellyaddicts is a great topic for me. Chatting to people who like the same programmes is a bit of fun and you start to see the same people and get to know them.

That's fine, but if this is what HQ want, then could they please clarify it and scrap all the other talk topics?

Sites don't really work at their best if half of the users navigate them one way and half of the users navigate them the other.

Surely the best place to talk about things when you want to hear HQ's thoughts on the matter is Site Stuff? That's the one section that the mods absolutely definitely monitor. This thread is an absolute perfect example of something that should be there rather than actually in AIBU!

Was that to me, Mintyy?

Mintyy, apologies I don't want it deleted, sorry I was a little too strong in how I worded it.

I expect MNHQs stock answer will always be "report a post you think is against MN guidelines". Gosh that could become a 24/7 job! They dont want to do over-kill and sanitise the boards to the extent they become uninteresting.

The other day one of MNHQ had to say (on a benefits thread, of course!) "please abide by MN guidelines, because at this rate I will have to delete most of the posts on this Thread!").

That was a classic bunfight, mind you

Mumsnet is not

The fifth emergency service
A crisis centre
Crisis Management
Google
A therapist
Or
Under and obligation to help anyone

It is a chat forum.

If people need help they would do well to search the appropriate boards, where people with an interest in that field may post to discuss related issues amongst peers and those interested.

If they are lucky over a reasonable period they will get one or two measured useful responses.

Or people can post with their ego for "traffic" on a board set up predominantly for discussion and debate over real or hypothetical scenarios where people will post opinion rather than fact.

On no account should any poster be penalised for not running to fire with tea and sympathy for every crisis.

Saying things like that just widens the divide between old and new posters

What divide?

I just went on chat and its just the same as AIBU!!!! I didnt know!!! I am leaving this site now as I have always had a phobia about confrontations and have actually felt really sick when I thought I posted something quite innocent and got a bullying, sarcastic reply. I did leave MN for a while but really missed it. I thankyou all for your patience with this newbie and lots of questions have been answered for me. Maybe someone should post something for new posters to warn them?!! As it had never been clear to me...all that nastiness....Will miss all you nice posters, maybe see you on Chat? BYE. xxxx

Marylou, I usually click on Active Conversations first. So just under where it says Mumsnet Talk at the top of this page, there is a subheading Talk: and then a subheading Threads: with Active being the first button along.

If you click on that then you get a list of all the current "active" conversations across all Topics, so you have more chance of having a live chat, iyswim.

If you post an answer and want to go back and see how the thread evolves then click on Threads: I'm On. Its a good way to keep tabs on where you are posting.

fairy, with all due respect, I mentioned the thread as a valid example to illustrate a point. i was being respectful to the poster, if you re-read my post I was illustrating the irony of posting for traffic and getting advised to move elsewhere, that's all. That is not inappropriate!

I repeat the reason I didn't mention the point on the other thread was to ensure I did not to detract from the OPs emergency, because I am able to keep my opinion to myself in the best interests of a poster in difficulty.

My post history also shows I have never sworn or been unkind to any poster, so I think it proves it can be done, to have an opinion without tearing into another person.

What annoys me is when a couple of posters are being rude, personal and obnoxious and no one calls them on it. I try to wade in when I see that kind of carry on as I know how upsetting it can be when you're being called names, having your words twisted etc by a couple of deeply unpleasant posters and no one else comes on to help you out.

Seriously, if you have issues with the way some posters tend to behave on AIBU, say it at the time. If enough people do it, the really bitchy, nasty posters might start to realise that just because they're on the internet annonymously it doesn't mean that any kind of behaviour is acceptable.

Just a last post...thankyou thornrose...I am a telly addict too...see you there....things to learn places to be!!

Sorry..me again!! Thankyou summerbreezing for saying that. I was deeply shocked and upset only this week with a sarcastic, and rude reply to something I said to a poster which I thought was good advice. I was more upset that no one came to stick up for me. Sorry to go on but I understand now and will no longer go on AIBU. Definitely goodbye now. xxx

One of the first threads I read on here was a fairly inoffensive one where a poster was pondering on the large volume of toys that children have nowadays and wondering if they'd be better of with fewer and left to use their imagination more. I could not believe how nasty and personal and spiteful it got. You would have thought the OP had said that all children should be give a bag of coal from Santa or somesuch.

It made me quite wary of posting on here and I still remember the names of a couple of the nastier posters and tend to give them a wide berth. However, they seem to be very popular and admired on here. Sometimes I wonder if, being Irish, I just don't 'get' certain nuances but then I read a thread like this and realise I'm not on my own.

I agree with everything HoneyDragon just said.

People keep whinging and whinging about MN but yet, they stay, to whinge some more. It's not compulsory to be here. If a post isn't strictly AIBU, you can either click report, click the red cross in the corner or click hide.

I agree it should always be challenged. It's horrible.

What I don't understand is the posters who leap into a thread just to say, "What is your AIBU question?", but then go on to chat on the thread.

Surely if you feel that strongly about threads being in the wrong topic, you wouldn't want to encourage them by chatting on them