thread police, yes you.

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aibu to ask what you get out of pointing out to the OP 'what is the AIBU'

AIBU to think that you have nothing better to do.
AIBU to think why didn't you just stick to MNHQ T&C and report.
AIBU to think you just want the attention.

Agree with Idontseeanyicegisnts. I've suggested to a couple of posters that they use Relationships as well as AIBU, because there seem to be some very sensitive, sensible posters there. I've always assumed that a thread can be in more than one section at the same time, I hope that this is the case.

I really ,really miss all the' mean girls' that used to be here.They were sensible.
Are they banned or namechanged?

They should change AIBU to "Fancy being told you're a twat?" Then everyone knows where to post if they're in the mood to be moderately abused by strangers on the Internet."

If you're genuinely wanting advice or people to be pleasant to you it's probably best to post elsewhere.

In does seem that AIBU has taken over as THE place to post on any and every subject.

Has anyone mentioned MN royalty, cliques or mean girls yet?

Second thread on this subject in as many days.

Yes, please DIE THREAD, DIE.

Tweasels
I have long been campaigning for the renaming of AIBU as Petty Gripes, but I think I like your suggestion even more!

I can understand posters advising other posters to put their concern on a more appropriate area of the forum so they will get the best possible advice.

But posters jumping onto lighthearted or fairly innocuous threads demanding to know 'why is this in AIBU'? really need to stop taking the forum so seriously.

There are two posters in particular who seem to be constantly moaning and whinging about threads in AIBU not being AIBUs. Seriously, if the title doesn't interest you, just don't open the thread. If you open it and realise from the first post that it's not what you consider and AIBU then click out of it.

Thread police are up their with grammar police protagonists

I imagine them to be snidey little busy body curtain twiticher types wearing Mrs Mangle masks at their keyboards.

"Wearing Mrs Mangle masks"

I'm going to report this thread to HQ and ask them for their definitive thoughts on this question.

They seem unwilling to be pro-active about all the complaints about aibu, meanwhile their website is littered with arguments on both sides.

Makes us look like a bunch of juveniles.

To all the posters who have been with MN since the start...was AIBU always like this?

I don't marginalise or pigeon hole posters on Mumsnet by their opinions on where posts should be. I just think you're all a bunch of fuckers. I'm tolerant and magnanimous like that.

AIBU didn't exist. It was lovely then.

That proves a point, the fact that someone even has to say get the thread moved, because of all the cattiness, flaming, unsupportive posts is a massive of the problem. And honestly why would anyone in their right mind want to flame a poor mother for asking for help!! Who in their right mind? No wonder intelligent people Hide AIBU.

The big problem with MN is that, because we aren't allowed to do TAAT, unacceptable behaviour never gets discussed or stopped, unless you want to be a habitual reporter. Which quite frankly I don't have the time or inclination to do. i know how to behave, I think there are lots of people on here who just don't. and they just flame /swear as a defence.

I agree I hope this thread gets pulled.

People who post to be spiteful and biting will be like that on any board. It's not AIBU, that's just the most popular venue.

I like the posters on AIBU just as I like them elsewhere. I see some biting responses here and I see other posters pulling them up as mean and unhelpful. I see very unhelpful and judgemental posts on relationships board and that is a great shame as posters there are vulnerable.

Some people obviously feel they like to have some kind of 'ownership' of the various boards here. Sad.

Aibu started in about 2008ish, I think.

It is quite clear that new people joining think that in order to post a question on Mumsnet it has to start with the question Am I Being Unreasonable?

It is an embarrassment.

It takes much less time and effort to report a thread than it does to start another thread about it

Marylou62 I've been here a long time and AIBU used to be the place to discuss something which really divided opinion. Obviously it tended to get heated but it was still interesting to read. You did have to be quite robust to start a thread and be prepared to be told in no uncertain terms that "Yes YABU".

You could choose to stay away if you weren't in the right frame of mind and just have a nice thread in Chat.

"AIBU to have chips for dinner" type threads do irritate me.

I have reported the thread, not because I want it deleted, but because I want to hear the thoughts of someone senior at HQ on this subject.

It does, HoneyDragon but some just want to be goady/kill time/have a jab at someone. You just can't get that 'satisfaction' from merely reporting.

Some people are so horrid to others, i was totally floored when I came on here by how nasty some people are to strangers who've said the wrong thing, or is overreacting, or being a bit silly, but harmless.
It's the same people I remember their names and disregard their advice in future.
I dont know what has happened to make them that way, it might be something tragic so I try to feel sorry for them, but it makes me sad that there are people like that around and I hope my children never come across them

Marylou62 I think what has happened (as an unintended consequence) over time AIBU is the section with high volume traffic, so when someone is in a crisis their first port of call is often AIBU in the belief they will get lots of eyes on their request for quick responses. Agreed, it isn't in the right section, but shouldn't the emergency trump that, so that people just read the cry for help and deal with it. Cant people interpret this?

The post I mentioned was that sort of situation, had it gone on Teenage section it may have sat there for hours with 1 or 2 responses. But that wouldn't have helped the immediacy of the poster's situation.

Thanks thornrose. I must admit I am new here and couldn't quite understand some of the nasty replies. So AIBU has always been a bit of a bunfight.? I can understand now why some MNetters feel that some posters should move. But when you log in to MN, AIBU is the first thing you see...in big letters...so maybe newbies don't understand its the 'wrong' place to post. Maybe you are all right and should start another 'page' and leave AIBU to evolve!! I'm off to chat!!