Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To have expected a call

90 replies

Flexly · 26/06/2014 19:27

Last night was DH's works leaving do. I haven't heard from him since 5pm yesterday. Admittedly he's done this before, this is the 3rd time in the last 3 months which drives me insane. Both with worry about home and early morning child care.. We both work full time and DH does the mornings, and me the evenings.
So, it's almost 730 and I haven't heard from him. His mobile was a work phone which he handed back yesterday so I have no way of calling him. Out of the 2 colleagues of his I know, one said he left before DH and the other hasn't answered my call or text.
Am I being unreasonable to be so flipping angry/worried..how long do I leave it before doing something (I know not what?)?

OP posts:
AnyoneForTennis · 26/06/2014 19:28

I'd be both furious and suspicious

Deal breaker for me I'm afraid

mommy2ash · 26/06/2014 19:29

so its been over twenty four hours since you have heard from him? he should have really checked in by now. what happened the other two times.

CoffeeTea103 · 26/06/2014 19:29

I would be livid. Is he 18 years old? A grown man with a family behaving like this. Seems like he has form for it. Yanbu, utter disrespect for you.

WashingFanatic · 26/06/2014 19:30

5pm yesterday? I would go ballistic...I cannot describe how ballistic...if dh went on a night out and I hadn't heared from him 24 hours later.

You have caused this yourself by enabling and allowing this behaviour tbh.

pictish · 26/06/2014 19:31

You are definitely not being unreasonable! What a cock!
So he went out last night and as yet has not come home or let you know what the score is?
And left you high and dry regards childcare?

I'd be furious!!

Groovee · 26/06/2014 19:32

I'd be furious! What were his excuses the last time.

brunette123 · 26/06/2014 19:32

His behaviour is unreal. This is all I can type as I am getting wound up just thinking about it.

Tangerinefairy · 26/06/2014 19:33

Crikey, that is more than taking the piss! Where on earth is he? Was it meant to be an all nighter?

QOD · 26/06/2014 19:33

Really? Wtactualf?

WipsGlitter · 26/06/2014 19:33

24 hours? I would go mental.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 26/06/2014 19:34

Wow, and he does this regularly?!

I couldn't be with dh if he did this to me. Where's his sense of responsibility for his dcs?

AnnieLobeseder · 26/06/2014 19:34

It perhaps wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me the first time, though DH would certainly feel my wrath for a number of weeks. But if it was a regular thing like you describe - absolute deal-breaker. It's utterly fucking disrespectful.

Helpys · 26/06/2014 19:34

If he's not dead or in a coma I'd be making arrangements to LTB.
Seriously. There is no excuse for going AWOL for 24 hours.

AnnieLobeseder · 26/06/2014 19:35

My DH would come home to find his suitcase packed and on the front doorstep with a note not to come home until he had come up with something pretty bloody spectacular to make it up to me.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 26/06/2014 19:38

Did you know in advance that he would be staying out all night?

If not, and you expected him back to drop off/sort out the DCs this morning, I would be absolutely furious!

How old does he think he is? Who did he think would sort out the DCs - given that it sounds like you need to leave for work before they go out? Confused

Really hoping that the night away was pre-arranged, and you are just angry because he hasn't checked in yet today.

hashtagwhatever · 26/06/2014 19:39

Poor you.

What did you do with the dc's this morning in terms of child care.

Tangerinefairy · 26/06/2014 19:39

It is so inconsiderate it is unbelievable. If he did this often I would also LTB. I could not cope with that behaviour.

londonrach · 26/06/2014 19:40

24 hours. Awful call the police and report him missing. Have you checked local hospitals (hoping not to worry you op)

YellowTulips · 26/06/2014 19:43

Quite frankly I would be furious.

YANBU

Xcountry · 26/06/2014 19:46

I would make him pay, Fuck off for a whole week and leave him with the kids and the worry. That'll bloody teach him. I suspect when you do I will hear you from my end of the country and expect his ears will be ringing. I (and I suspect everyone who has posted above me) will be giving you a high five when you do.

Xcountry · 26/06/2014 19:46

when you do hear from him I mean - or if he makes an appearance.

YellowTulips · 26/06/2014 19:47

X - high five for the suggestion Smile

Flissity83 · 26/06/2014 19:48

Ignore WashingFanatic, it's not your fault. You're not his mother. He should have the decency/respect to get in touch. I wouldn't know how to feel in this situation. But it would certainly be in the direction of FUCKING FUMING.

boredofdinosaurs · 26/06/2014 19:48

Was yesterday his actual last day of work or was he supposed to be at work today?

Berryglitter · 26/06/2014 19:50

My dp is 20 (toy boy) and he wouldn't behave like this. I'd be livid and packing his bags, especially as he's done this before. It's disrespectful of you, your child/children and home.