To have expected a call

[Flexly]

Last night was DH's works leaving do. I haven't heard from him since 5pm yesterday. Admittedly he's done this before, this is the 3rd time in the last 3 months which drives me insane. Both with worry about home and early morning child care.. We both work full time and DH does the mornings, and me the evenings.
So, it's almost 730 and I haven't heard from him. His mobile was a work phone which he handed back yesterday so I have no way of calling him. Out of the 2 colleagues of his I know, one said he left before DH and the other hasn't answered my call or text.
Am I being unreasonable to be so flipping angry/worried..how long do I leave it before doing something (I know not what?)?

Are you kidding me!! How are you not foaming at the mouth

Should he have been at work today? Could you have called his work to ask his colleagues, if not can you contact them through FB or any other way?

Seriously OP this is disgusting behaviour and really disrespectful

I hope he turns up soon, you must be out of your mind with worry

WashinfFanatic or whatever you're called: half a dozen times in over 15 years does not mean I am getting what I deserve

Ignore washing fanatic. Talk about victim blaming!

42? Firstly I'd be worried then after a while that would turn to anger and almost hoping that he had concussion and was in hospital because I would be looking for some amazing excuse for him not calling.

What are you going to do when he comes home?

Where the hell does he go for that time?
This would be a total deal breaker for me. It's completely irresponsible and disrespectful.

What is he like normally?

Blooming heck Flexy - hope he's alright. That doesn't mean you shouldn't give him verbal whiplash, but the least he could have done is call. Other than angry, how are you?

Is your "d"h home yet?

Have you rang local police/hospitals?

PI would be incandescent.

Any news op?

god, I'd go fucking crazy about this.

Thanks ladies. He texted half an hour ago, due home at any time. The sad thing is he thinks he's justified "...after 14 years at x I went on a bender. Sorry" was his response. Not good enough. Fuming that his family didn't cross his mind once, fuming he didn't think us important enough to at least let us know he's ok, thinking this is the last time I can put up with this.
Need to sleep. Thank you for being there and words of comfort and advice.

OMG. A bender is getting pissed and rolling in at 3am.
This is off the scale.
Hope you get some sleep.

Good luck with whatever you decided to do next. MN will be here to support you.

Urgh id lock the door and put the key in the other side.

a bender isn't a problem though, is it? it's the fucking lack of respect and why couldn't he have taken the time to send a bloody text before that?! urgh what a knob, sorry.

What. A. Cunt.
I'm betting you could have (just about) accepted a bender, had there been text or phone conversations on occasions throughout. With that text he's got his pre-emotive strike in to make you feel like you're in the wrong already.
Ugh. I wouldn't let him in.

I wonder where he's been all this time. Glad he's still alive anyway.

Do not put up with OP it's not right you and your family deserve better. What if you had needed to get hold of him urgently during this time? Hope you get some rest and feel able to deal with him

What a horrible creature. This goes waaaay beyond garden variety carelessness or selfishness.

What if you'd had an accident or emergency whilst he was away doing... whatever??

I would be livid! What if the situation had been reversed? What would he do if you disappeared off the face of the planet for 30+ hours?

Ask him how he'd feel if he'd been the one left at home while you went out for all that time with no contact. Would he think you were 'justified' if it was the other way round?

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If DP ever did this (not that he would), he would find his bags on the doorstep and the locks changed. I wouldn't put up with that.

Send him to go and stay somewhere else for a while.