To wonder what puts you off a thread in AIBU and probably means YABU as a result?

[Vintagejazz]

For me it is a long opening post running to several paragraphs, with heaps of back story and confusing references and a cast of thousands including friends A,B,C, and D.

Yes IABU because I know the OP sometimes wants to give full details to get the best replies and to avoid being accused of drip feeding. But I usually click out of those threads as soon as I see the length of the opening post.

What's Sharonish???

What does Sharonish mean? Am quite new...

I hate loads of unnecessary back story that could be summed up succinctly.

Parking threads!

I quite like the ones where the OP doesn't listen to anyone else and continues to believe - and gives ever more vociferous reasons as to why - they are not BU despite everyone else telling them they are - and why they are - very much BU.

I also tend to skip over the ones that are one great enormous paragraph because I do find those difficult to follow.

Finally, Facebook AIBUs: if you don't like it don't use it, and if are going to use it, if you don't like what someone posts on it, ignore them or block them - there's nothing else to say really.

Sharonish - well, there was a thread, which I will attempt to find, started by a posted called mario somethingorother, which was amazing. All about a red wine stain on the wall, a dead wasp, and Sharon who was shagging her boyfriend.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1212449-dh-threw-wine-at-the-wall/AllOnOnePage

If I see an OP declaring they are a regular but nc followed by Naice ham/penis beaker/yoni etc etc I click straight back out. It says to me " I'm not brave enough to say this under my normal name but be warned, you had better be nice to me or else, I'm not a stinky newbie ya know hmmmph. " I could be overthinking that tbh. :o

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I received an email in work once telling me that someone couldn't come in and needed a day's leave. It went on for ages, rambling about gas meters, next door neighbour complaining about something, school needing something sorting out and then right at the very end, in the last sentence it said "oh and my dad dropped dead last night so we're all a bit flustered".

OH dear Booooooooo, I may have inappropriately snorted at the end of your post! Poor person, they must have been in a right state.

If you mean is there a way someone presents something that could make me just go yabu cos theyve irritated me then no, there isnt. My opinion is on the facts/points/content/meaning / whatever of the op and i wouldnt just go well yabu cos you didnt put paragraphs in or whathaveyou.

LOL Thumbwitch That thread is brilliant.

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I was only actually half reading - I had another screen open and as putting the holiday request in as I thought the 15 or so other issues were a reasonable justification for asking for a day's leave at short notice. Then I just caught sight of the last sentence and did a "WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAT???" - nearly missed it altogether! Good job I didn't email her back with something flippant like i have done before

Just read the Mario/Sharon/Bagda/Adam thing - omg! Did anyone find out who/what Bagda was?

I roll my eyes at the 'my daughter said the teacher did/said this..." and the parents refuse to acknowledge that some children lie, make things up or just misread situations!

Their child is always right and if the teacher allegedly screamed at the child and threatened to hit them with a stick then it must be true....

Non-aibus like yours, for a start.

Putting "to wonder" in front of something does not make it an aibu. It's pretty simple...if the answer doesn't start with yabu or yanbu its not an aibu.
You are far from alone in your ability to work out this simple formula though.

Then there's another one, that may or may not be by the same poster... www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1498923-Shouting-at-me-in-the-supermarket

Hectate I took it to mean what makes you just exit the thread, not automatically think UABU.

What makes me think that URBU is when people give perfectly valid reasons why the OP is BU and then the OP either comes back with more made up info why they think they are right.

Along the lines of:
AIBU to keep dc off school?
URBU
Well dc said they felt sick
URBU
They were sick a week ago
URBU
Well they're now on a drip in hospital and the A&E dr said they'd never seen a child so sick... So see I was right...

Anything to do with Facebook...

ah, ok, I misunderstood then.

People fighting makes me exit a thread. Getting nasty, making personal comments, being insulting, correcting your grammar because they can't think of an actual comeback, etc. I just can't be arsed with scrapping. I suffer enough of that in RL, I can't be doing with it on the bloody internet too.

Agree with that Hecate - as soon as I sense someone wants an argument with me I walk away - thankfully I've got better things to do than argue with strangers on the internet.

I am trying to be like that as well shake but sometimes my instincts or annoyance with the snarky poster let me down. But I do try to think 'would I waste time with someone this rude/aggressive in real life' and if the answer is 'no' then walk away from them.

Oh don't be such a stickler Grockle. I like the creative way some posters slip fun/interesting topics into AIBU.

Vintage - I'll reply to them once & then that's it - they can go & find someone else to annoy - they're not wasting my time.

One huge long unpunctuated paragraph, as someone else said, where the OP cannot be bothered to break it down into sentences etc. If the poster wants to be understood, they need to put a little effort in, and not rely on overuse of ??? and !!!

I can cope with confused posts where the OP is clearly in a distraught lather, though. Just. If I'm not too tired.

That's about it.

I really, really hate reverses. I never post on them, they just bug the liver out of me. Really long OPs with no paragraphs, just can't be bothered reading them and superfluous, pointless information that's either a stealth boast or just random shite that has no purpose to the thread.

Anything about how crap MN is now.

'AIBU to think MN isn't funny any more? :('

YABU, loads of people are laughing. Bugger off to site stuff.

Exactly Meh!

I love the Sharon thread.

What gets me in AIBUs are references to previous (long-deleted) topics which everyone's supposed to know about - e.g.

"AIBU? Woman at school gate refused to buy a raffle ticket and the prize is really good. I think I've been snubbed."
"Sounds like you've been Wendy-ed."
"Wasn't there something about this last July?"
"That thread got deleted IIRC."
"WTF is a Wendy?"
"Oh come on, everyone knows that thread and I hope the OP of last July's post isn't upset by your allegations. I think you're being disingenuous as well as insulting TBH."
"Didn't the other one go tits up? Because I think it had the perfect solution."
"Which other one?"
"I'm going to ask disingenuousposter to leave the thread now. You are not being helpful and undermining the OP."
"Yes. I've seen the light now. I've made up my mind and I will be the stronger person - I shall LTB and make him admit he's having an affair with her!"

Eh???