to think this is bordering on neglect

[oxfordcomma75]

So we have 3dc. 9, 7 and 20 months. Dh is not exactly hands on with them anyway but two issues occurred today.

Dh got some tools out of the cupboard and dropped a screwdriver on the floor. Fortunately I saw before 20 months dd could get it.

I went out for an hour to pick dd1 up from brownie camp. I returned to find dh upstairs. Ds in study on pc and dd in playroom with door shut. She can't open door and it's a hot conservatory. Ds apparently shut the door on her as she was annoying him.
So I challenged dh who claimed he had only been upstairs for a few minutes. The look of ds face said otherwise.
Aibu to find it hard to trust him with dc again. He has history for neglecting to change nappies etc too but he always seems to have an answer. Ie didn't want to wake her etc.

I agree, though perhaps not a case of persistent neglect but her dh is failing to safeguard their very young child, other posters are probably talking of their experience with older children. Toddlers, you need eyes in the back of your head and then some.

And really, who thinks its clever to leave screwdrivers hanging around where you have a 7yr old obviously with little idea of safety given he's locked his dsis in a hot conservatory and a probably wobbly on foot 20month old. Might not be sharp like a knife but it could still cause injury.

it is not a 7 year old responsibility to mind his sister but i would think he should not actually shut her in a room when door had been left open, i would have told a 7 year old for shutting his wee sister in a room

People are trying yo justify themselves about leaving children on their own that is ridiculous that isnt the same asa parent not supervising children enough so they arenot safe, the op childten werenit being watched by tgeir dad thr op probably feels she cant trust their dad to look after them, popping into the kitchrn to make lunch is different

wasn't it ds on the pc not dh? What was dh actually doing?