All men are crap with money

[womblesofwestminster]

DH just said this to me. He says that all the men he has ever known have been crap with money and that women are better at managing a budget.

AIBU to assert that the ability to manage a budget is not gender specific?

Are there differences in how men and women manage their money?

From personal experience, I am hopeless my DH is good. I cannot budget for toffee.

no.

too dumb a remark to bother with, really!

He should meet my DP who is fantastic with money, has a long term plan to retire in his mid forties and despairs of my financial incompetence.

Are they? What about men who work in finance?

I think it's idleness and seeing household stuff as women's work, rather than an inability to do maths based on the fact you have a penis.

My dh is excellent with money - he runs a very tight budget, knows what has gone out and what's coming in, and can keep track of the broad picture in his head. He has a series of spreadsheets and knows how we will be able to save the money we need to top up the dses' university maintenance loans from now until ds3 graduates in 2018.

Your dh his making a daft and unsupportable generalisation - but you can tell him from me that I am not extrapolating this to state that all men make daft generalisations!

YANBU. It is not.

Men and women don't manage money differently. People manage money differently.

My DH also has a spreadsheet! I'm pretty good with money but he is even better.

Dh has shown me his spreadsheet - all the numbers jumble up in my he'd, and my brain dribbles out of my ears.

My head, not my he'd. Damn you, autocorrect.

Yup, my DH has spreadsheets too.

I'm so crap with money, I pay him 'housekeeping' and just spend the rest

Dh has a spreadsheet for the 00 gauge P2 locomotive model kit I bought for him. It lays out every step and tool needed to build this beautiful model. Has he built the model? Has he buffalo!

My DH wasn't frivolous with money, but didn't know how to manage if well. He's had to learn those skills as an adult whereas I was taught them from an early age. Absolutely nothing to do with our gender, but possibly quite a bit to do with our upbringing.

I m guessing he also thinks men are rubbish at cooking, cleaning, childcare and any other thing he can't be arsed to do.

Or is he saying we need a female Chancellor?

My dh is very sensible with money, in fact in would call him 'tight', I'm not as sensible.

Considering that pretty much all the money in the world belongs to men i think your DP is mistaken (and possibly just trying to shirk responsibility)

My dad taught me how to budget. The thought of not having my spreadsheet fills me with horror.

Btw if he insists on being so shite at budgetting i'd call his bluff and take over control of all the finances, bank cards, cheque books etc making him ask for every single penny and successfully justify what he is buying.

I agree, it is upbringing, not gender.

No, it's not specific. I am better at budgeting, I have more experience then DH and use moneysavingexpert for a few things. My cousin is super organised, has many excel forms for their budget and he is very good at managing money- he has more experience then his DW. My friend and her DP are equally shit with budgeting, they spend too much too fast and never save, then they try to borrow off people when they run out- neither can manage money and since both have a great wage, neither want to.

Yanbu being financially astute is absolutely not gender specific.

My DP is like MollyB's and plans to semi-retire in 10 years (late 30's) and retire fully in his 40's. I am a disaster money wise would live hand-to-mouth and never have any savings if left to my own devices. I have only improved with a bit of coaching and budgeting advice from him.

In my personal experience men are a bit better with budgeting money. I have only met two men that are bad at math.

That said, both can learn it. I have dyscalculia, and I can still budget. It's nothing to brag about, but I can budget.

princess have you really only met two men who are bad at maths? Were you raised in a convent?