All men are crap with money

[womblesofwestminster]

DH just said this to me. He says that all the men he has ever known have been crap with money and that women are better at managing a budget.

AIBU to assert that the ability to manage a budget is not gender specific?

Are there differences in how men and women manage their money?

My DH is horrendous!!

When the time comes for us to fully amalgamate our finances it will be me who is in charge of them.

Of course they're not! Dh is a financial advisor and does all our financial big stuff - investments, mortgages, pensions - but I do the small stuff eg changing insurance and leccy suppliers for the best deal. He has the bigger picture and the plan, I don't (and I don't really care, I trust him to do it).

I dont know many men good with money thats why most women run everything and hold the purse strings.

Totally agree with Precious - lots of men and women are bad with money.

I just can't understand people setting up home, having children etc etc without agreeing on the fundamental aspects of budgeting - but it seems plenty of people do . I just don't think I could respect someone who blew the family budget or wasted money on gaming or whatever, & I wouldn't expect my DH to respect me if I spent out on expensive hair cuts or clothes (sorry to use sexist stereotype spending attitudes ).

My DH and I share the same -frugal attitude towards finance, but it enabled us to pay off our mortgage in our early 40s and for me to be a SHAM (by choice) for 14 years. .

I dont know many men good with money thats why most women run everything and hold the purse strings

yeah, all those rich women running the world

I just can't understand people setting up home, having children etc etc without agreeing on the fundamental aspects of budgeting

agree. MN regularly has me baffled about this issue. so many relationships were the basics (that are actually the most important factors) haven't even been discussed before setting up home! WHY? I just don't get it. 'love' isn't the only thing that matters!

princess have you really only met two men who are bad at maths? Were you raised in a convent?

No, I just know a lot of really smart men (and women!). Although, I am open to the fact that since I am so terrible at math that perhaps my definition of good is a very low bar to reach.

I suppose there must be but I never meet any of then. The vast majority of women I know give their men allowances and sort the rest. Thats the way you obtain a lot of assets imo. I cant even think of one man I know that even passed GCSE maths.

Thats the way you obtain a lot of assets imo. what is? giving men an allowance?

where do you live meliisa that you don't know any men with math GCSE and what jobs do they have?

yanbu

In our house, YANBU.

DH isnt great at budgeting, wouldnt know what savings we have, what our mortgage amount is etc. He is the sole earner, likes his job, but is disinterested in managing his accounts.

Mainly scaffolders, lorry drivers, plumbers, builders, plasterers etc so mainly decent wages but they dont really need maths.

Totally same bowlersarm dh has no idea who our mortgage is with, how much it is, any of the companies we are with, how much our childrens savings are, how to log on online or telephone banking. He just says tell me what Im allowed and thats good enough for him.

Tell him you'll teach him how to be good at finances. Get a wall calendar and mark off an hour twice a week for the next 6 months for you to go over your finances and produce a budget. Then you can move on to grocery shopping, getting quotes for insurance, utilities etc., Practice makes perfect!

Yanbu - my dp discovered when we were buying our house (recently) that he was earning 3k more than he thought he was. Being on a significantly lower salary I was agog at this.

But also yabu - my stepdad is great at all things to do with tech, DIY and budgets. He budget for hypothetical events. Amazing.

I'm not brilliant at matha. I enjoy basic mental maths, and keeping track of spending in straight forward ways. Most men I know are very good at higher maths. DD could budget for big business. Of course there are no male maths teachers, economists, purchasing/procurement managers or accountants.

My DH is crap with money. He buys loads of shit. He has a Harley-Davidson, so he buys all crap related, but never using them.

DH looks after the money in this house. I am rubbish with money. So not gender specific at all.

Both my DH and I are really good and very responsible with money. It was one of the many virtues that attracted me to him after, admittedly, going out with some useless-with-money dudes before.

That's complete crap, what he's said.

In my family, my father and I are careful with our money, my brother is tight as a gnat's arse and my mum and sister were profligate spenders, even with no money to spend. No gender specificity there then.

He's just looking for an excuse to be lazy and hand it off to you because he CBA.

YANBU. He's talking crap - many men I know are pretty superb at making money work and living within their means.

No, your DH is a lazy arsed cop out, hiding behind daft statements in order to get him off the hook of needing to learn some basic life skills

My DH is great with money - we both are

My DF is great with money, better than my DM was

My DGF was fantastic with money, as was my DGM

My DU is fantastic with money

My DB is rubbish with money & would also come out with this sort of cop out bullshit

So your DH is VVU

What a silly statement. Gender is irrelevant. My parents are both crap with money, don't earn much, and are disorganised.

DH and I both earn decent money & it's all pooled; I am quite organised and do things like negotiate our mortgage rates etc and decide how much we can afford to save each month, suss out best deals for things we need for the house but am quite profligate (piss away money on takeaway coffees and new shoes); DH leaves structuring our finances and admin to me but is pretty tight. So we have different but complementary strengths (and weaknesses).