To get annoyed when parents spell their kids name wrong

[HelloSteve]

...and then they get annoyed when people constantly spell their names "wrong" (aka the right way)? Or buy personalised items with their names spelt their way?

Not really a big deal I know, but I what do you expect when you give your child a name spelled in a way to be yoo-niq?

Over the past couple of weeks I've heard of a Emma-Leigh, a Sophy and a Jordyn. I can't help thinking 'poor kids they're going to have to go through their whole lives having to correct people'. It seems people don't think about that though.

I know a woman who has two grown up daughters called Jemma (I assume they meant for that to be Gemma) and a Hollie (again, I assume Holly) and she always gets annoyed when people don't ask and just assume they're spelt Gemma and Holly, but I don't know why. She should have expected that/be used to that now? I know she would constantly get irritated when the kids were at school and received Christmas cards/party invites with their names spelt wrong but honestly I have little sympathy. What was she expecting when she spelt her kids names wrong?

Your thoughts?

my dh's name is maugan, you would be amazed how many different spellings he gets, he loves that his name is different and loves when people make an effort even if they spell it wrong, everyone seems to remember that it is spelt differently but cant remember how.

I wanted to leave a letter out of dd2s name it would have been correct I forgot when I went to register her and left it In

Isabel. Isobel. Isabelle. Isobelle. Isabella..

What's the difference, all perfectly acceptable.

I can never remember which of my friends used Eliot and which Elliot and which Elliott. By the time I've tried each one they all look wrong.

I think if you choose a name with variant spellings (I didn't, but my girl name would have) you have to acceptthat people won't necessarily remember which, because 90% of their interaction with your baby will be spoken where spelling doesn't matter.

And it's that point that baffles me. Louseigh isn't distinct from Lucy in speech, so you aren't giving your child a unique name by creating a new spelling. You're just setting them up for unnecessary bother and possible prejudice.

Issac makes me twitch.

yanbu. Dh really wanted to give dd a so-rare-as-to-be-almost-inexistant spelling of an already rare name, and I put my foot down.

incidentally, a very generous interpretation of "Aimee" is that it borrows from the (old-fashioned) French name "Aimée", meaning beloved?..

I know a Dene (AKA Dean) and also a KC (I kid you not, that is her name. AKA Kacey).

I also know Shanade (AKA Sinead) and Teighla (AKA Taylor)

Emma-leigh is surely the " correct" spelling?

Sophy and Hollie and Jemma are also all long established "correct" spellings.

I don't like "Shivorn" much, but to be fair, it is easier to spell then "Siobhan"

Many names have equally valid variants. I'm not a fan of totally made up names, or invented spellings, but you get used to them if you know the person, and some are actually quite nice!

I once had an argument with a teacher at primary school as he thought I was spelling my own name wrong.

My name is Jemma. It's not spelled wrong at all, it actually is a legitimate alternative spelling of Gemma. Just because a name has two spellings and one is more commonly used than the other does not make the less common spelling "wrong".

I'm not actually bothered when people spell my name wrong though as I can understand it. Most people these days do actually ask whether it's with a G or a J.

On the other hand my dad does get annoyed when people spell it Gemma and I do find that odd. I do think he should have expected that when he gave me the less common alternative spelling. I remember when I used to get Christmas cards at school, most of them would spell it Gemma and he used to get annoyed that "people couldn't spell my name right"

If I saw 'Harleaux' I'd assume it referred to more than one Harleau

Does not normally bother me but there where 3 Isaac in DS1 class in primary all spelt different, cards where a nightmare, and now I have trouble remembering the most common spelling without google. I have a correct spelt name but it does not read how spelt, as a child I hated it, having new teachers or supply trying to guess it was embarrassing. It's a bit more common now so does not happen quite as often.

Dita is Maugan meant to be Morgan or Maughan (pr Morn)?

I would pronounce Aimee as Emmau or Aimay depending on how French I was feeling so totally different name to Amy pronounced Aymee.

But then I pronounce Esme as Ezmay not Esmee.

Feebee

YABU . Who decides a names correct spelling?

It's very rude of you to criticise their choice of name.

Sorry Emmay obvs

Its more annoying for the child!

Me and my brother are called Jak and Kimberlee.Fucking annoying,plus our surname is spelled different to the normal way too.

"Amy" also means beloved. Aimee is a valid and well established alternative spelling, in fact may predate "Amy"

Forgot to say that even though I don't get annoyed when people spell my name wrong, I do get slightly irked when people pronounce it wrong. I've had people assume my name is Jenna, or worse Jemima, when they're reading it (this has even happened when it's been typed up, so you can't blame bad hand writing). I guess because they just see the J and maybe the e afterwards and the a at the end and just assume "Jenna" as they're obviously not expecting Jemma to be spelt that way.

I have a fairly common name which is always always always spelled incorrectly. it drives me insane!! think similar to holly and hollie. My name is commonly spelled with a y but my parents opted of ie instead.

having to repeat 'its hollie with an ie' every single time a form/ paperwork is being filled out gets really really tedious. People who have known me for years will spell it incorrectly in cards and stuff. even worse if friends talk to me on FB they will spell my name wrong even though it is literally right there in front of them.

My niece is an Emma-Lee. Meant to be hyphenated. In reality we just call her Emma.

My daughter is Lorelai which is more commonly spelt Lorelei. Both are correct though

My oldest son is Erich, which is the proper German spelling according to my exDH. My brother was an Erik and I've known a few Eric's and even one Eriq!

I've never had a problem with people spelling my own name until I moved over here. Apparently the girl spelling of Ashley is Ashleigh? So over here I am a boy.

YANBU

Feels like a kind of betrayal to me, but I'm pedantic about words. Purist even.

Also I think it's about parents being a bit grabby, the child's identity is being designed by the parent and not the child itself. It's like stamping your mark on them. Being a parent is about guardianship, not ownership.

I think you have to accept that people will sometimes spell your name incorrectly. However it is usually fairly easy to check whether somebody is a Catherine or Katherine and once you know you should use the correct spelling.

oh so does "Amy" originally come from "Aimée"? like a vintage medieval misspelling? never knew that :-p

YABU in the sense that people can give their kids whatever name they like, and can spell it however they like.

But YANBU about them getting annoyed if it's then spelled wrong. Plenty of names have different spellings (Katherine, Claire, Ann, Stephen etc), there are so many names where people just default to the spelling they are most familiar with. Unless you are dealing with a Dan or a Matt or something, it's hardly a biggie if someone gets a name spelling wrong on the first attempt.