To get annoyed when parents spell their kids name wrong

[HelloSteve]

...and then they get annoyed when people constantly spell their names "wrong" (aka the right way)? Or buy personalised items with their names spelt their way?

Not really a big deal I know, but I what do you expect when you give your child a name spelled in a way to be yoo-niq?

Over the past couple of weeks I've heard of a Emma-Leigh, a Sophy and a Jordyn. I can't help thinking 'poor kids they're going to have to go through their whole lives having to correct people'. It seems people don't think about that though.

I know a woman who has two grown up daughters called Jemma (I assume they meant for that to be Gemma) and a Hollie (again, I assume Holly) and she always gets annoyed when people don't ask and just assume they're spelt Gemma and Holly, but I don't know why. She should have expected that/be used to that now? I know she would constantly get irritated when the kids were at school and received Christmas cards/party invites with their names spelt wrong but honestly I have little sympathy. What was she expecting when she spelt her kids names wrong?

Your thoughts?

I know of a Charlie-Leigh. I have no particular issue except it isn't exactly easy to say. It sounds like Char-lee-lee more often than not.

Whilst discussing Michael, we shouldn't forget Meical. Which I duly did when writing wedding invites to my family in North Wales

It pisses me off when people assume that someone has chosen a different but still acceptable variation of a name, be that spelling or pronunciation. For example Louis/lewis. Louis, pn Lewis is the English pn. Lewis is an English varient if the original English name Louis.
www.behindthename.com/name/louis
It doesn't bother me what other parents call their children. We chose traditional family names. My ds1 was named after his Cornish great grandfather, Louis.

Merrymouse, Hebrew has vowel sounds, just doesn't include them in writing. it is no harder to transliterate than any other language.

That should say pisses me off that people think it has been done to be different or stand out. Its their way of judging others.

unrealhousewife I also remember the Alessi twins being interviewed () and Gillian said her name was pronounced incorrectly as her mum had only ever seen it written down.

I know someone with a Phebe. Not sure if it was deliberate alternative spelling or if they didn't know how to spell Phoebe.
As said previously, it's definitely a name. It's also a character in Shakespeare's As You Like It.

brdgrl sorry, I don't agree a name is spelled correctly just because that's the way the bearer spells. There have been some hideous mis-spellings on here.

How so you feel about double barrelled first names and surnames? I find it ridiculous to have a double barrelled first name and use it all the time, people go outbid their way to pick odd names

Gillian with a hard "G" is relatively common. I know 2 and the singer Gillian Welch pronounces it like that.

I have an Isaac.

While i wouldn't mind him getting things addresses to
Isaac, Isac, Isaak, Isak etc I get very annoyed by
Issac, because that isn't an alternative, that is just a miss spelling, if you spelt it this way you should pronounce it as a short I, like in Israel.

My ds is Isaac. I genuinely thought that was the only way to spell it in this country, but we get Issac, Isacc, isac, Izak........never mind! Dd2 is a Daisy. Can someone please explain to me how you can shorten Margaret and end up with Daisy? They don't sound anything like each other!
I am a Katharine and people always get it wrong even when I tell them how it's spelt. Even my degree certificate had Katherine until I sent it back to be changed. I have been called Kate all my life. Why couldn't my parents just have put that on my birth certificate and been done with it?

Velocity - Marguerite is the French for Daisy, so Margaret = Daisy. (I am not sure how Peggy comes from Margaret though.)

brdgrl sorry, I don't agree a name is spelled correctly just because that's the way the bearer spells. There have been some hideous mis-spellings on here.
Sigh. These are proper names. I can call my kid "Fxertsut" if I choose, and that's his name. The correct spelling of a person's name is unique. It doesn't have to match with a fixed standard. Names of individuals are by their very nature unique and the variation on existing names has always been rapid.

Mistakes in transcription aside (where a parent intended a different spelling and there was a departure from what they intended) - there is no issue here.

As well as that, many of the names used as examples of "misspellings" on here - as other posters have been pointing out - are not unintentional "errors", but deliberate choices reflecting (gasp) a different cultural heritage. I despair of the UK sometimes, I really do.

Margaret gets Peggy via Peg via Meg.

Look in a mirror - say Peg, say Meg. Nearly the same. That's how.

There's a Pheobe at ds2's nursery. The first time I saw it printed by her peg I thought the staff had spelled it incorrectly in error, but that is actually her name..

As a teacher of 36 years I have come across loads of interesting names. One which stays in my mind particularly is Dayszeee.
I have recently noticed a trend in infant schools of names with apostrophes eg D'nyelle

Merrymouse, Hebrew has vowel sounds, just doesn't include them in writing.

That was what I understood - my point wasn't that there were no vowel sounds in Hebrew but that when you make the choice to use the letter 'o' or 'u' in the English spelling of the name 'Jacob' you are by necessity making an interpretation, not directly writing what was in the Bible.

Equally there often isn't a common agreed English spelling for contemporary names and places that are usually written in another script.

Jacob is the usual English spelling, but the spelling varies hugely across Europe and many countries put a 'u' in the second syllable.

I might get annoyed if they spelt the name wrongly rather than wrong......

Why would you have an opinion on another parent's choice of name? What business is it of yours?

but the language is spoken, so we know how it is pronounced. Anyway, that should have read doesn't ALWAYS have the vowel sounds written in, it does sometimes.

What's wrong with "Pheobe"

Brdgrl "Daisy" spelled "Dayszee" is appalling. I really don't care if that makes me snobbish or it's cultural imperialsim.

As for sighing about British attitudes given Germany, Sweden, China and Japan and I believe also France restrict names I doubt it's a peculiarly British attitude.

Argh "Phoebe" of course.

A name is correctly spelt when you have spelt it the way the bearer of the name tells you to. Simples.

This. Can't stand people who get snobby over names. People like different stuff, get over it.

I wouldn't know if the pronunciation of Hebrew has stayed the same over the centuries but the pronunciation of English certainly has. The pronunciation and spelling of all the names all over the world based on the original Hebrew name certainly aren't the same.

As I posted earlier, the Hebrew 'Shoshana' became Susannah, then Susan and Suzanne.

Many names appear in the Bible in more than one form - Joshua and Jesus are actually versions of the same name, Yeshua.

I have a Finlay (pronouced Fin-Lay). I am Scottish. In Scotland, Finlay and Findlay are both correct and the most obvious spellings.

We live in England. His teachers spell it Finley and pronounce it Fin-Lee, which makes my fucking teeth itch. DH has, under duress, pronounced it Fin-Lee. No, No, No, No No (he won't make that mistake again!). I don't care if DH's delicate English tongue can't get round it. His name is pronounced Fin-Lay. I also hate that all those stands of mugs and door plaques and christmas decorations never have his spelling.

I also have a Cameron, born in Scotland and named when I never expected to move away. We now live in Yorkshire. Who knew Tykes would pronounce it Camran; add to that his Asian friends, who all have a brother or cousin called Kamran. I am seriously considering changing to his middle names of John or Alexander. Oh, wait...

OTOH, our neighbour is French and always sends a card to my DD using the French variant of her name; I love that and would never be offended.

And I'm a Jacqui, which to me is the more natural diminutive of Jacqueline (pronounced jack-e-leen) than Jackie. I'm past caring how anyone spells it though, but it used to wind me up when I was 14.