to think McDonald's once per week is ok?

[NeeNawNora]

Two of the dc do an activity which doesn't finish until 6.45 on a school night so we usually have McDonald's. This consists of a chicken nugget happy meal and water and is term-time only, as well as being followed by walking our dogs. They eat very healthily the rest of the time with no chocolate/crisps/sweets and so on unless we go to the cinema, which is rare.

One of the dcs is borderline overweight and frommy previous marriage. ExH has said McDonalds should be banned from dcs diet, yet when he takes her for tea he takes her to an all you can eat Chinese or carvery, lets her eat as much as she likes, drink coke and have a big dessert. Aibu to think that's not a better alternative and that McDonald's once per week is ok?

I am not keen on McDonald's myself, but I can't see 1 Happy Meal a week causing any harm.

YANBU.

Not necessarily, Worra. Her lifestyle with him is very sedate - watching tv and playing on the ds - which lends itself to snacking, whereas here she's active and so doesn't think about food so much. If she gets bored the first thing she will think to do is eat. Whereas I'd distract/occupy/delay/offer a healthy snack, he lets her choose when and what to eat. She eats 7/8 meals per fortnight with him with multiple (endless) snacks in between and no exercise whatsoever

If your gp thinks she's fine, then I wouldn't worry or change anything you're doing.

If her dad has a problem with her weight, could you arrange for him to speak to the gp for reassurance.

Given that her father is feeding her such a crap diet, I think YABU to take her to McDonald's on a weekly basis. If she otherwise always ate well then it would be different.

I haven't referred to it as being a treat and dd doesn't see it as such. It's convenient is all.

Lesshaste he thinks I'm a hypocrite for suggesting he cut back on buffets/icecreams/sweets/chocolate/cakes/crisps/desserts etc for dd yet I take her to McDonald's.

So she eats 7 or 8 meals with him in a fortnight and approximately 33+ with you?

Even with the extra snacks, a child who does shit loads of exercise like yours does shouldn't be overweight.

half hour on the trampoline before school, scoots/bikes/walks 2 miles to school, does a sporting activity four times per week plus the walk home from school and between 1-2.5 hours trampolining every evening - not to mention 4 hours swimming at the weekend and miles of walking our dogs.

But if you are the OP I'm thinking of, then you've started at least 3 other threads on this subject...and the answers are normally broadly the same mix.

I think once a month or less is more appropriate. I would probably have something easy prepared and ready to go when you get home instead. Not trying to make you feel bad but McDonald's is not an appropriate meal ever. It is however ok as a very occasional lapse in judgement;)

I wouldn't, I think mc ds is terrible

I would jut go home and cook tbh. But then we never eat until 7.30-8pm so 6.45pm seems early. My 3 and 4 year olds wouldn't eat it, and just wait until later for dinner.

I think by the sounds of it all snacks and meals should be reviewed both what you and her father feed her. Too much of any food will make anyone gain weight

Actually seeing last posts I would never take her to fast food places. You say that 7/8 days out of 14 she is already eating crap with father

Really, that much exercise??

Chinny rec on.

I swerve McDs because I am opposed to what is serves and what it represents. But thats a political POV. Similar to boycotting Nestle.

I think your DDs dad is the problem here.

I agree with wiltingfast

If he's over-feeding her by that much, then I think you have no choice but to cut out the McD's at home.

I get what you're saying, and it does sound as if he's contributing more to the problem than you are. But assuming you want your daughter to be a healthy weight more than you want to win a battle of wills with your ex...

YANBU, DS (4) attends weekly swimming lessons 20 miles away and we have a chippy for tea on the way home, partly because swimming doesnt finish till 6.30 so it's quick, and partly because we just enjoy it.

i think if they are otherwise active and have a decent diet, macdonalds once a week is ok, it's no worse than giving chocolate/crisps on a daily baisis, which many children have small amounts of at lunch/after dinner treats.

I guess that it is not really affecting her health/weight to have McD happy meal each week but I would not do this. It is sending the wrong message to both your DC - the message that fast food places are fine to eat at regularly - not just now and then - every week as an evening meal. In due course as you know, they move past happy meals and onto the more salty, fatty options with soft drinks like coke and fanta. McD's hooks them in with the happymeals stage which doesn't seem so bad.(I do take my DC to Mcd's but only as an occasional thing, eg as a stop off on long car journeys).

It is also making it more difficult for you to try and get exh to modify the diet when she is with him. It might not seem fair but at the end of the day if that is what it takes then it is in the interests of your DC. If you stop the McD's then he cant accuse you of feeding them fast food and so you will at least be able to say you are doing all you can. When you ask him to do his bit as well then he wont have the mcdonalds ammunition to throw back at you.

I detest MCD because of all the preserves in it so I def wouldn't feed it to my kid and I'd say once a week does seem a lot.

It sounds a bit much to me especially as your dc is bordering on over weight. Would it be possible to prepare a meal earlier in the day or eat a cold tea.

For fucks sake nooby

Can't you check the date on the breads your dragging up before you post on them.

How many zombie threads do you want to go into trending in one day.

It's very bloody annoying.

Top tip for you if there is a red warning it means it was done years ago

What the fuck are you at, Nooby?? Resurrecting shite food threads left, right and centre?

Stop resurrecting these zombie threads! very, very irritating.

It's obvious they're doing it to piss everyone off in a form of trolling. Just report.

Your child is borderline obese they should not be eating McDonald's every week.
Maybe once per month.

I think it's no different really then someone cooking chips and nuggets/fishfingers at home for tea once a week.

The only other option apart from fast food would be a lunch box but calorie wise macdonalds big macs have less calories then naice sandwiches and naice pasta salads.

Oh it's a zombie thread fgs.

ffs just read the whole thread before realising when it was posted :/
Is there any way MN can get the zombie warning to remain even after several people have posted?