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AIBU?

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To think it is literally not possible to be "offended" by poor grammar and punctuation as some posters claim.

219 replies

ElleBellyBeeblebrox · 16/06/2014 20:30

Honestly, who gives a shit? The amount of smug wankery on here sometimes is unbelievable. Is there really any justification for snarking at someone about their use of full stops,( other than to try and make yourself look like a smartarse.)

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limitedperiodonly · 17/06/2014 18:10

There's a very confusing one involving the word buffalo. You have to remember that a buffalo is a town in New York state, an animal and a term for intimidating people, much like ridiculing them for writing loose, when they mean lose.

WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal · 17/06/2014 18:16

Limited, to be honest I think you should apologise for your last comment to me. I have explained, so please stop being so bloody rude. Is it so hard for you to empathise?

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 17/06/2014 18:25

Limited is right, people are much more relaxed about mathematical errors, and in fact, being bad at maths is often seen as a boastful thing.

I was Shock the other day, when I read that there are nurses, ie. degree educated people, that struggle with things like:

If the patient needs 30 mg of drug X and the tablets are 15 mg each, how many tablets do they need?

Shock Shock Shock If that story is even 1% true.

limitedperiodonly · 17/06/2014 18:31

Limited, to be honest I think you should apologise for your last comment to me. I have explained, so please stop being so bloody rude.

WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal Is that a variant of 'did you mean to be so rude?', because if it is, you know what the answer is going to be, don't you?

TillyTellTale · 17/06/2014 19:04

limited

I take it the answer is going to be, "actually, I'm sorry. Just because you posted on the thread to answer the question posted in the title and admitted that you do find ungrammatical posts offensive doesn't mean it's reasonable for me to continue getting at you when you have come back and clarified that you don't pick on people for ungrammatical posts".

Right?

Because I really, really hope it is. This forum is full of people competitively groaning about how offensive they hate normal OED words like moist and gusset. I think it's okay for someone to admit badly-constructed sentences make them feel a bit funny.

WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal · 17/06/2014 19:05

You are laughing at a characteristic of my disability. Pretty disgustingly rude, so no I wasn't asking.

WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal · 17/06/2014 19:07

Ah Tilly - I think I need a little version of you on my shoulder to explain to other people how I see the world. How do you do that? Flowers

TillyTellTale · 17/06/2014 19:16

didn't bother saying "YABU- neurology is more complex than you know OP". I knew however carefully I phrased it I'd be jumped on by people wanting to be superior.

And just joined in with the mocking of people whose corrections are unmotivated by disability, and have everything to do with wanting to feel superior.

I have an odd feeling of déjà vu here in this post. Odd that...

TillyTellTale · 17/06/2014 19:18

Oh, phone missed off the start
Why

Similar disability. I just didn't bother saying "YABU- neurology is more complex than you know OP".

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/06/2014 19:18

Poor spelling, grammar and punctuation give me that 'fingernails down a blackboard' sensation. I do think these things matter, when they get in the way of people communicating effectively - grammar, spelling and punctuation mistakes can cause misunderstandings - and that's not a good thing.

But I don't think I have the right to start correcting someone else's posts or other written work unless they have asked me to.

ElleBellyBeeblebrox · 17/06/2014 19:30

whybehappy
I hadn't considered there might be a sensory/neurological reason that people genuinely found it offensive. I'm sorry.

I do think the MAJORITY of people who complain about it are just smug, superior knobbers.

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Lesleythegiraffe · 17/06/2014 19:48

I'm not a smug, superior knobber but I do like to see good standards of spelling and grammar.

Maybe I'm old fashioned and these things don't matter to younger people.

Unfortunately a lot of teachers don't know how to use proper SPAG so kids will never learn it

Pagwatch · 17/06/2014 19:51

There is a huge difference between liking a beautifully presented, artfully crafted post and being the kind of twat who corrects other posters.

The first is fine. The second is twattery.

ElleBellyBeeblebrox · 17/06/2014 19:52

Liking good standards isn't a problem, the problem is when people try to pick apart and shit on other posters!

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WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal · 17/06/2014 20:02

I do think the MAJORITY of people who complain about it are just smug, superior knobbers.

Absolutely Elle, and I think that's the point actually. It is MY PROBLEM therefore I wouldn't ever complain to someone that what they are saying to me reads like mouldy bananas because that's really rude!

I thought of an example for the non-believers; say the word 'Gong' out loud. You know how the back of your tongue rises up to block the back of your mouth like a little gag? It's a bit like that feeling.

daisychain01 · 17/06/2014 20:23

No I'm not prepared to read another word because you put a comma before brackets

Only kidding. It's really anal when people leap on someone's spelling and grammar I think just get a life!

But I admit I enjoy a well displayed post with decent space and paragraphs for readability.

Pagwatch · 17/06/2014 20:30

In fairness I think a lot of my posts are the written equivalent of rotten bananas

limitedperiodonly · 17/06/2014 20:33

WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal and tillytelltale I was defending people who have things to say but don't express themselves terribly well and are put down for that, so WTF are you attacking me?

I'm struggling to understand your point of view why and I will not accept that I have done anything wrong.

You said this:

'I have sensory issues - honestly the sound a feel of very poorly written sentences offends me. It's the way I can imagine it feeling on my tongue.'

I find that a strange concept but more importantly, your sentence is poorly written.

Then you added this, which I found baffling given the above because it's an even more poorly written sentence:

'a is meant to be and, yes (typo), but I didn't actually claim myself to be perfect in grammar - just that very poorly written sentences physically offend me. It is like gagging on a mouldy banana or something.'

WTF is that meant to mean? Are you having a laugh? If you're not 'perfect in grammar', why criticise someone else's?

ElleBellyBeeblebrox · 17/06/2014 20:37

Mine are mostly bunkum too.

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candycoatedwaterdrops · 17/06/2014 20:37

Even if you do have an issue that means you find poor SPaG offensive, you don't have to comment on it.

7Days · 17/06/2014 20:41

WhyBeHappy has said it a few times now, Limited she doesn't criticise others.
But she does find it offensive. She's not attacking you - it's a bit much to turn the tables like that.

ExitPursuedByABear · 17/06/2014 20:43

If I see a rotten banana I make banana teabread.

Pagwatch · 17/06/2014 20:45

That's so inspiring Exit

7Days · 17/06/2014 20:47

I must get that put on a motivational poster Exit

GrannyOnTheSchoolRun · 17/06/2014 20:48

I just wish I had so little to bother about in real life that 'poor' grammar etc bothered me.

Or do I?