AIBU to wonder if people who end up divorced had an inkling when they got married?

[Dukketeater]

As I approach my wedding I have a feeling that it really will be 'til death do us part... Maybe I am being naive but I know he is the one I want forever. We have been together for 10 years and have a toddler and I have never had a feeling that I wouldn't want to be with him.
Obviously I hope he feels the same or what would be the point in marrying?

But as more and more people around me are separating and divorcing, WIBU to think that at least one party went into the marriage not 100% sure that this was really it for them?

If any of you are divorced/separated can you tell me if you feel that either you or the ex went into it halfheartedly or knowing it wasn't right or did it develop over time?

I feel like people say too often nowadays 'it might not last' but I really think, on my part at least, that it will last in our case...

Like a couple of posters above, the man I married was not the man I divorced - but of course he was in many ways and in retrospect the signs were all there - but we don't live our lives knowing things like that:-) I never thought I would be divorced and after 24yrs thought we were an example of how to make a marriage work despite significant differences. He, however, met "the love of his life" and initiated a divorce. .

If I hadn't married him I wouldn't have the life, family and friends I have now so no regrets though .

i suspect they do, I had nagging inkling as I accepted enagement ring but I wanted to have babies

oh the guilt

I initially wanted to say I knew with xh. But thinking about it, I didn't at the time. We hadn't had a perfect path but we had come through it and I felt we were in a good place. I knew there were issues with xmil but thought if my dm could cope with her mil I could. Boy was I wrong, but mainly because people had shielded me from her worse excesses and ultimately it came between us.

Hopefully I have my eyes open with dh. I know there's issues but we were together for a long time and had kids before we got married, so hopefully there aren't any nasty surprises to come!

1st marriage - I think I had the opinion that it was "the done thing" and we wanted the same things. Depending on my mood on reflection I can describe it as anything ranging from dull and boring to "he was a dick". But who cares.

2nd marriage - he's my everything. It's a really stable loving relationship. I hope nothing changes, but I honestly think we'll be ok.

With my DH I just knew,si did he.
I was smile in your sleep kind of happy.
I'd never been more certain about anything.
we had 16 years together 12 of those were married. I would have liked longer and so would he. He died, six years ago.
I have a fantastic fiancé, we've been together 4 years, we've had some hugely difficult challenges, mainly due to my ongoing bad health and having 3 teenagers with autism.
A lot of the things that have happened to us would have been enough to break up a family.
we are still madly in love still excited to see each other,we find laughter is always hidden amongst the challenges.
One of these daysy we WILL get married.
There's a fairly equal balance of married and divorced in my circle of friends.