to give ds the same name as his cousin?

[KarasKite]

Am due in a few weeks with ds. Bil has a three year old whose name (not actual, for example) is say William Jonathan. They announced him to the world as Johnny, let's say, but for a long time now have referred to him as a different, non name related nickname. We see them probably four times per year at most and the derivative of the middle name is the only name I like for ds and have always done so. AIBU to use it?

I really don't understand why people get so upset over this. We're struggling for boys' names at the moment

Sorry - posted too soon! Was going to say I really like BIL's middle name but DH thinks it would be weird to use it (MIL stole all my favourite names in fact - very unreasonable of her ). But no-one in his family would mind if we did.

Particularly in this instance, where the OP barely ever sees the cousin and it's not even the first name, I'd say go for it. How would you feel if you didn't use it and then the other boy decides to go by his actual first name in years to come?

my cousins all share names. we love it and some of our children also have the same names. We are close but only see each other a few times a year so its no big deal.

I would use the name.

I don't see anything wrong with cousins sharing a name, but I also think it's slightly precious to insist that there's "no other name" that you like. What if you had another ds, or twins? You'd have to think of a second name then!

My DNephews middle name is, for example, Jon. I called my DS, Jonathan. I think my sister was okay with it. My dad's name was Jon (not Jonathan) so I think that's why she wasn't too bothered.
However, I did get a little upset when she wanted to call a dog Jonny but she didn't end up getting it in the end.

Name isn't really Jon by the way!! I think it's okay that you want to call your DS the same name!