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AIBU to have wanted to bring my BIL's dog to Vet

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JessicaFletcher2014 · 10/06/2014 20:19

My sister & brother in law have a dog that was hit yesterday by a car as she walked alongside the kids to the bus stop on their way to school. They live in the country and they were coming around a bend when in my niece's words the driver was "flying" and she hit the dog. The dog was knocked down but managed to get up and hobbled back home. My niece came running back home to tell my sister what happened.
My sister said to her husband that she would take the dog to the vet and his response was "let her rest and if she doesn't heal herself then you know what I will do". That would be him shooting the dog. He said he did not want vet bills.
So I went out today to see the dog and the poor thing cant put her hind leg down. I felt so bad for her and said to my sister "put her in my car and I will bring her down to the vet". She told me no because I would be interfering with my BIL's dog. I said I am not asking for the money and I would pay the vet myself. She refused saying it would cause a fight. I am totally disgusted with them for not getting the dog looked at. So am I being unreasonable for saying I wanted to take the dog to the vet?

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SelectAUserName · 11/06/2014 05:56

OP, well done for trying to do something in difficult circumstances. I hope the fallout isn't as bad as you fear.

I'm not sure who Animal Welfare are, but assuming you're in the UK they may not be able to do much. The RSPCA is the organisation you need here - please give the number quoted upthread a call. You've already taken the difficult step of reporting it to someone, so it may as well be the right someone.

Giles, I think it's clear that the OP isn't "just letting things go because it's family". Firstly, she is trying to do something and secondly, it doesn't seem to me that the limitations she's had to place on her actions are because "it's family". It's because there is the real possibility of serious consequences to a real live woman and her real live children from a controlling, abusive, possibly dangerous man who has access to a gun. I love dogs like nobody's business and I want this one's suffering to end one way or the other, but in the OP's position I would not be clod-hopping over the situation gung-ho if I knew, or had strong grounds to suspect, that by doing so any woman was likely to suffer harm because of my actions, much less my sister.

newsecretidentity · 11/06/2014 06:08

Bernard has a good point, and it's worth looking at that angle as well.

JessicaFletcher2014 · 11/06/2014 11:15

Update. BIL told my sister to bring the dog to the vet this morning. That's as much as I know now. My complaint is still lodged with the helpline.

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Oldraver · 11/06/2014 11:43

From the OP's language ...I assume she is not a UK citizen ?

Oldraver · 11/06/2014 11:43

Sorry meant to say not in the UK

everlong · 11/06/2014 12:30

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Funnyfoot · 11/06/2014 12:35

Good update OP.

I think you have done all you can. I hope you and your DSis are going to be ok.

Writerwannabe83 · 11/06/2014 14:08

I really hope the dog can be healed or if needs must, his suffering ended Sad

Let us know how he is Thanks

Topaz25 · 11/06/2014 17:40

That's good news. Thanks for letting us know and for trying to help the poor dog. I really hope she recovers and that your sister LTB.

KiwiJude · 11/06/2014 21:41

Better news OP. I hope you can help your sister now.

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