AIBU to have wanted to bring my BIL's dog to Vet

[JessicaFletcher2014]

My sister & brother in law have a dog that was hit yesterday by a car as she walked alongside the kids to the bus stop on their way to school. They live in the country and they were coming around a bend when in my niece's words the driver was "flying" and she hit the dog. The dog was knocked down but managed to get up and hobbled back home. My niece came running back home to tell my sister what happened.
My sister said to her husband that she would take the dog to the vet and his response was "let her rest and if she doesn't heal herself then you know what I will do". That would be him shooting the dog. He said he did not want vet bills.
So I went out today to see the dog and the poor thing cant put her hind leg down. I felt so bad for her and said to my sister "put her in my car and I will bring her down to the vet". She told me no because I would be interfering with my BIL's dog. I said I am not asking for the money and I would pay the vet myself. She refused saying it would cause a fight. I am totally disgusted with them for not getting the dog looked at. So am I being unreasonable for saying I wanted to take the dog to the vet?

It's now 20.40pm. It's unlikely the dog will get medical treatment tonight. Which means it will be sitting there with serious injuries for the next 12 hours at least. If they won't seek medical attention it would be better for the dog to be humanely shot. Assuming your BIL is proficient and has a high calibre shotgun?

I have no one to mind my baby to go there tomorrow (45 minutes away) and manage the dog and the baby. I am going to ring my vet & see will he make a house call.

It would have been better if your BIL had done the decent thing and shot the poor dog immediately, rather than let it hobble round in pain 'to see if it mends'. I would phone the RSPCA and report him for animal cruelty.

God I don't want the dog shot. I would hope the dog can survive with proper treatment.

Itsfab the OP is not in the same category as BIL nor is SIS tbh.

The OP is doing all she can to help the dog while ensuring she does not make life difficult or dangerous for SIL and the children. It is clear that they are scared of him.
Should the OP report him he could then cut all ties/contact leaving SIL and children isolated from family support which is never a good thing.

As much as I feel for the dog there is a bigger picture here and it is not a cut and dried situation. Plus the OP has her children to think of and cannot just go and remove the dog which has been suggested.

Hi Jess I'm sure it can. But it needs to be treated. Or put out if it's misery. Not left to rot. I know you're doing your best. Unless your sister is a DV victim her behaviour is disgusting. Who sits in the house with a maimed dog just because their husband says so?!
Good luck with the vet, out if hours house calls are expensive. This is all so avoidable if they had taken it straight away!

I will agree to disagree as I obviously feel differently. The OP has known for 36 hours there is an animal in terrible pain and hasn't done enough to help him.

I'm with you itsfab

To have done nothing is unforgivable. Relationships with people who would do that are not worth saving IMO the dogs suffering for nothing

Im sorry to say it OP but You Must do something about this, you are being as cruel as the owners. If you can't take the dog then you must ring the RSPCA. I don't know how you can sleep?

You are wrong its fab I did not know for 36 hours. I found out late last night and went there today when I could physically go with my small baby.

If you can't get the dog to a vet yourself then please call the RSPCA immediately and make sure they understand the severity of the situation. Your sister and BIL are neglecting the dog by denying her veterinary care.

I am concerned about your sister as well given that she is scared of your BIL, who has a gun and has threatened to shoot the family pet. Is he threatening towards her too?

I'd call the police on that. And the RSPCA.

Have you phoned the vet and/or RSPCA yet OP? Is there another friend or family member that could help?

Please phone someone, for god's sake. Don't just rant about it on here to a bunch of strangers. Please tell us you've actually done that. People like your Bil can be banned from keeping animals for treatment like that. That would rather fuck up him having any more dogs wouldn't it?

DH is a farmer and would never treat any of our dogs like this. It's disgusting. I would never have stood by and watched any animal in pain either. Report them both. Animals just don't heal themselves when their hurt. What an awful situation OP.

Id have reported them as soon as you found out! Not taking it too the vet is disgusting. They should be banned from ever having pets. Report them, ask a neighbour to babysit or take the baby and take the poor dog! That poor thing.

I called animal welfare and left message. There is no one i know I could call. I wish the situation was as black and white as peoole seem to think it is.

Sorry, I can't think of any situation short of a house burning down (and even then I'd give it a bloody good try) that excuses leaving an animal in pain with broken limbs or at risk of being shot!

She will be in danger regardless of what happens to that dog. Of it wasn't that it would be something else.

Call someone for her too of you think the dogs going to be a problem for her

Which bit is grey?

You are clearly as scared of your BIL actions as his wife but that does not justify letting the dog suffer. An injured in pain dog might attack a child. There is more to this but as the BIL won't step up and your sister is too scared to it is down to you being the only other option left.

Report to RSPCA or police. They are committing an offence.