to think we should be allowed to have different opinions on threads without being insulted?

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I hesitated between an AIBU and a "Flouncers'corner" I decided to go to AIBU because it is not personal , not something that was directed at me in particular but sadly something I see more and more on threads.

I could have chosen "flouncers corner" because I am not going to post again (I shall carry on lurking)

YANBU. Except in the case of obvious stupidity of course! In fact, could we include being patronised in that too? Especially by stupid people!

Tongue firmly in cheek.

Obviously with this being mumsnet, if you are a pro-Government supporter, talk about Scottish independence, not left wing, or a landlord, you are akin to being a babykilling sociopath, and not fit to air your views in public!

I read a thread a couple of days ago that was so irrationally ranty it was like being trapped at the bus stop between two screaming drunks. And I don't think it's even a genuine OP, either.

There is more of that than there was, but there is always an ebb and flow on MN so I'm hoping it gets better.

Zen diagram

Maybe we should start posting this when the fuck offs start flying about.

There's definitely a flow to a lot of threads.

OP says something.

Loads of people who've been hanging around looking for an argument wade in, nitpick, misread, misinterpret, and generally tell the OP what a stupid thoughtless person they are. Often repeating each other over and over.

A few more people come in with a lot more thoughtful posts.

It turns into a reasonable discussion.

I keep my Puffin handy in times of strife. It's very comforting.

All the folk that would fit right in elsewhere have been dragged in by awful threads like penisbeaker etc. After all the crap at ny, P&B and all the rest it's taking a bit longer to settle down than it has previously ime. Firstly because 'regulars' are sick of the onslaught of both troll/gf threads and the type of humour vacuum hun style posts that swiftly cack up a thread. Secondly all the new people are simultaneously dealing with troll threads, suspicion if they haven't judged their tone correctly and only posted a couple of times and a lot of people that may have had lots of run ins already that day with same so have a low bs tolerance.
Last week I had 12 deleted threads in TIO. That's bullshit. I've also noticed more people saying 'I don't like swearing/humour/ moderation/whatever here. You should all stop doing that because I'm offended/leaving/writing to the mail/whatever' and then seeming genuinely surprised when the answer is 'MN is not compulsory, just piss off somewhere else and see if you prefer it'.
Sometimes people are just cunts - if the same thing keeps happening to one in various threads or boards it's often wise to think 'now could this possibly be me or are all the other people wrong?' Because we've had a few proper batshit rant threads which are followed up by the poster starting another rant thread about how everyone is wrong and should indulge me be nicer because their first thread was deleted or someone said 'no, no there's no science that proves spider bites make superheroes' and that is just bullying...the concept of the hivemind. It makes it boring and tiring until it finds it's new rhythm. Also we disagree robustly and enjoy spirited discourse, usually with evidence too, if we didn't we'd be a different site.

Imo. YMMV.

It didn't post my Puffin so here it is.

Opinions are like penises. It's fine to have one but don't go forcing it down other people's throats unasked. And even if you are invited to share yours, do it gently.

Zen diagram

I love the idea of a zen diagram. There should be such a thing

I don't think anyone is allowed to say anything about anything on MN any more are they?

Feel like I am walking on eggshells most of the time.

No sorry. If you dont agree with me could you kindly fuck off as Im right.

Sparkling that's ridiculous, of course anyone can say anything on MN, you must be stupid if you think otherwise.

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Love it!

Hahahahaha . And true.

MN will never be like it was in 'the good old days' - it's bigger ( which probably means brasher ) & the sense of 'small community' has long gone. If Mumsnet was a country it would be as big as Croatia or Denmark, & there must be a few angry people in those countries. I just accept it for what it is.

I have only been here nearly 3 years and I have noticed the change in that time.
The community feel is long gone unless in a specific topic with like minded people. Litter Tray for instance.

Posting in Chat/AIBU it's every man for himself.

I agree.

I like hearing other peoples opinions - that's kind of the point of mums net isn't it?

On a recent thread I seemed to be in the small percentage of people with a different opinion to the majority and soon became the dart board for people to throw insults at.

I just left it alone and didn't go back.

Some people just don't want to hear an opinion that's not the same as theirs.

There is one poster who is insulting in the extreme.

I've reported her posts on numerous occasions and they are promptly deleted but nothing seems to happen beyond this.

I'm amazed she hasn't been banned to tell you the truth as her posts go way Too Far!

There are quite a few topics that go round in circles every single time. People feel strongly and many hours are spent debating and it's all futile.

If you feel very strongly about something a bunch of internet strangers are not going to change your mind.

'Hide thread' is a very underrated function.

True, although you have to open the thread in order to do so!

I don't know what an insult is, any more.
I told someone "Sticky beak out" (exact words & only those) the other day on AIBU when they were thinking to interfere with someone else's business.

They jumped down my throat saying how rude I was.
I thought "If you think that's outrageously rude, Lord help you on the rest of MN." I'm not sure what folk expect online, now. Maybe it's changing everywhere.

I'm not a big fan on reporting people, or even banning them ( unless they're outrageously offensive to absolutely everyone ) - I like a good mix of people, & let's me honest, if MN was all kittens & fairy cakes we'd be bored senseless within a week.
I know they'll never introduce it here, but a hide poster button really works for those rare occasions when you literally can't bare somebody.