To refuse to clean the blender?

[IAmNotACleaningService]

DH goes through phases all the time that last for a month or two. It was swimming for a while, and now it's smoothies! Whenever he is in one of his obsessions phases I am expected to facilitate it.

Anyway, when he makes smoothies he uses the blender. And every bloody piece of fruit and drop of milk we have in the house. He then forgets to clean the blender and worktop and leaves a smelly, sticky mess for me to clean up. Our blender doesn't go in the dishwasher as it needs taking apart to clean, and takes ages to do.

He made a smoothie yesterday afternoon and left the blender jug, the blender machine and loads of spilt smoothie all over the worktop. I left it and left it but to be honest it looked gross so I've had no choice but to clean the worktop today. DH then phoned me from work and asked me to wash the blender up because "He'll fancy a smoothie tonight" Oh and can I go and get some bananas and strawberries too?

I told him no to both of the above, and apparently I am being unreasonable because I have Mondays off work. I would wash the blender if it was easier to clean but it is absolutely caked with thick dry smoothie as he didn't even bother to rinse it after use.

AIBU?

I bet she ended up doing it.

Yep, I reckon she did too. And probably bought the fruit :(

Just going back to the rather bizarre point about men not caring about cleanliness or whatever it was.

Can I just ask then if every single adult male lives in a pig sty?
Because surely if men don't see these things, as I have read on here before, how are they not dead from starvation or killed by food poisoning or living like hoarders, surrounded by mouldy blenders and pizza boxes?

People really need to stop making excuses for fuckwits who expect their wives to run around after them.

Of course they see fucking dirt and washing up and people needing dinner and toilets that need cleaning and clothes that need washing.

If you didn't do it, they would notice?

And the pp who said "men do care about things like that? The ops H cares enough to remember he hadn't done it and phone the op to tell her to do it

So yes. Men do "care" about stuff like that. Sadly a number of men just do not want to do the actual work because that's what their wife is for.

Indeed Tantrums. As foslady said upthread, her DH saw the grime building up in the shower. He just didn't think it was his job to deal with it.

I would be LIVID!

If an older child/teenager did this - every single person on this thread would be telling the OP to leave the mess so that they understood that their actions (or lack thereof) have consequences.

But for some reason because he's an adult man a few of you think she should just shut up and do it?

It's massively disrespectful.

*I have never been so on edge before re a kitchen blender.

Please please please OP just tell me what happened.*

YES! Tell us! Hope you didn't end up doing it, but if you did I hope you have some subtle payback in mind for when he's least expecting it (I rather like the body hair waxing idea).

I'm hoping she hasn't been back because she's been detained down the cop shop for shoving that blender up his arse.

No Mumsnet jury would convict.

suspect she's washed it up

Please don't have washed it...

Hope this isnt the OP

Hows that for a smoothie?

bogeyface

Didn't John Wayne Bobbitt manage to get his (unblended part) reattached?

If you don't scrub that kitchen floor
You ain't gonna rock and roll no more
Yakety yak Don't talk back

ReggieJones, I love that song, just thought it was addressed to a lazy teenager. If it's to a wife, I'm going to be horrified - that's real LTB material!