To ask if you find it upsetting if someone doesn't like you?

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I know we can't all be liked by everyone but I have to admit I find it a bit upsetting when someone seems to actively dislike me for no reason.

I normally get on ok with most people, but lately I've come across a couple of women that don't seem to like me.

Firstly the mum of one of DS's friends (DS is in reception) is very frosty with me and very friendly and chatty towards everyone else. I got on fine with her when the boys were at preschool but she seems to be more and more off with me now. I'm always polite and friendly, and haven't been close friends with her so it's not like there was any opportunity to fall out or even for me to offend her in anyway. I know it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things but it's just a bit hurtful.

Secondly my best friend has in recent years become close friends with another woman. I've made an effort to get on with this woman, but she makes it obvious that she doesn't like me, and is actually quite abrupt and rude to me. Again I can't think of anything that I could have done to upset her; it was as if she had decided before meeting me that she didn't like me and that was that!

Like I said, I know this doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things but I can't help feeling a bit upset by both these womens' behaviour. I know I'm not a horrible unlikeable person as I have lots of friends.

Perhaps I'm just too sensitive?

I always know when someone does not take to me. I just feel it and have never misjudged. I remain polite with them.

I do not take to some people but am not rude about it and keep my feelings to myself. It may be because they like to dominate conversations, are smug/boastful.

It is very school girlish to make it obvious that you do not like someone - giving bad looks/whispering/turning your back on them.

A colleague isolated me from my team and had full support from other colleagues who she managed to 'win over'. Despite the fake smiles I knew she was bad news on my very first day. She was a very unhappy individual and enjoyed making me miserable.

Some women are spiteful - plain and simple. They bring the playground into the office and other places.

I actually find it quite funny that I've managed to get someone's "goat" so much.

I've noticed the less I show it bothers me, they actually start becoming nicer because they've realised they have no power over me.

OP I have this at school.

I tend to rely on a gut feeling which is usually proved correct.

THere is one person who is pretty unfriendly to me for no reason - I even went out of my way to be friendly to her and invite her for a coffee - but she didn't respond. She patronizes me, as well as being unfriendly too, somehow.

I sometimes wonder if she is in fact intimidated by me or envious of me -which seems incredible admittedly - as I don't really have anything for anyone to be envious of (in a material way at least) and am very easy going (other people have said) - but people's minds work in strange ways sometimes...

It is upsetting but as some other posters have said, just continue to be polite, try not to take it personally and don't descend to their level.