Doctor kissing my baby

[SparklyVampire]

I have been thinking about this over night and now I think I need some opinions. Ok so yesterday I took my DD to her 8 week check, the doctor was very umm, enthusiastic. She took DD straight away for cuddles and said it was the best part of been a doctor. She was very gushy about how beautiful and perfect DD is, then she started kissing DD. A lot.
I was a bit weirded out but I didn't say anything. I told Dh when he got home from work and he thinks that it is creepy and I should report her.
I think she just got a bit carried away even if it was strange, I'm not sure if it warrants reporting though.
Would you say it is unreasonable to report or would you shrug it off?

I love friendly doctors.

I went to see one of ours regarding morning sickness. 'Oooh! You're up the duff!' he shrieked.

He would run into the waiting room and scoop up baby DS when we had an appointment, carrying him for me so I could manage toddler DD. He cuddled him, tickled him...and called him a 'runt' (he was 'failing to thrive', according to the charts).

His lovely attitude made a stressful time much, much easier.

Hmm, I wouldn't be at all comfortable with a doctor kissing my baby. Cuddles and gushing, fine, but I think kissing is too personal.

When I worked for a while at a nursing home, I followed the Matron's lead and gave some of our residents a wee kiss on the forehead as we tucked them in for the night. Most would give our face a wee stroke as we did so. Everyone was asked if they would like a little goodnight kiss.

It was a small family run nursing home with a resident dog. Affection was the norm. Calling someone me duck, darling or sweetheart was the norm. It never seemed disrespectful, we followed their lead always. We would obviously respect an individual's wishes to call them Mrs X if that's what they preferred. I am proud I worked there, everyone knew they were safe and cared for.

When Matron had her much longed for baby, after many cycles of IVF, he was cuddled and kissed within an inch of his life by delighted residents. Matron looked so proud it brought tears to your eyes.

I don't have children, but if someone makes a fuss of LittleLab, I glow. if someone gets down to her level to give her a hug (she adores being cuddled and will coorie in to get extra close) I am touched.

Your doctor sounds lovely.

Can I just say, Comin, your post brought a tear to my eye. That is absolutely lovely, wish all nursing homes were like that

It would not have bothered me in the slightest...and I don't know our GP particularly well.

Why does it bother you? There can be a variety of perfectly valid reasons, but if it is a child protection issue (you use the word "creepy") I would think you and DH probably need to get a bit more perspective.

If you are still bothered then you need to speak to her direct. I would not "report her" (why an earth would you even think about that) or go through another party.

Dare I confess that I am a Headteacher and love seeing baby brothers and sisters of pupils and usually always get to hold them and have a kiss and cuddle. It's one of the pleasures of my job, I love babies.

Omfg, a medical professional showed human emotion. Shit, what should we do, this cannot happen, it must be creepy, there must be something sinister going on.

Ffs

OhFFS re nursery nurses kissing cuddling babies at nursery, to be honest the first time I saw DS be kissed by someone at nursery I felt a pang of jealousy. But now I am just happy that he gets lits of cuddles during the day and is obviously having a lovely time. It would be horrible to think of him crying and not being cuddled etc, and I am sure most people feel the same.

Sometimes being a HCP is like navigating a blazing, tiger filled gauntlet too friendly, too rude, too serious, too jolly

The DR thought you had a beautiful baby, everyone loves a cuddle with a lovely newborn. I wouldn't kiss a strangers baby but really? .....c'mon

YABVVU

No, wouldn't give it a 2nd thought, she's a woman and liked a baby, very normal. It's cute!

I agree with Macdoodle, you're being very unreasonable, OP. I wonder what the response would have been had it been a male GP? Very different, I would imagine.

People who are so completely obsessed with their babies, thinking that everybody else should coo from a distance are the reason why many people, including myself, will stay away from your PFBs or any other children that you have. I like children very much; I can't say that I'm fond of their parents in many cases.

I hope, that if you complain about this particular GP, they boot you out of the practice with a strong warning about vexatious and tedious complaints.

Reporting the GP sounds mean-spirited and vindictive. Presumably if you didn't want the GP kissing your baby, your desired outcome of any action would be for her simply to stop kissing your baby. The way to achieve this outcome would be to speak to her directly and have a tactful word in her ear.

Reporting her suggests you want at the very least to have her discplined, for her seniors to get involved and to admonish her, for all of this to be investigated and get put on record, and potentially to have an excellent GP's career go up in smoke. That is the only reason you would blithely go and report her. For kissing your baby. What a shame.

Molotov what a load of nonsense. There is no 'MN demographic'. The only thing that MNetters have in common is that they are, in general, women. Mnetters are women from all walks of life, with widely differing opinions.

Nothing like taking the joy out of things. Your poor Dr will be afraid to even smile at a baby again if you report her.

I think people tend to look for problems and things to get suspicious about sometimes.

No, I disagree nolm. There is no data to back up who uses MN so no-one can possibly say it correctly/adequately reflects the opinions of the population en masse.

Also, threads only go in the direction that those who answer take it. Some will be afraid to disagree with what other posters say for fear of being challenged, which inadvertently alters the course of discussion. I'm not going to argue the point anymore because I don't have the time. I stand by what I said.

Molotov you had the time to read the thread and post, min twice, but as soon as you know you're wrong and your argument isn't going anywhere you're suddenly far too busy to respond!

Oh and I stand by my point. There is no MN demographic.

Glad you commented on that invented statement NoImSoartacus, I couldn't be bothered. It's pretty obvious if you spend (too much!) time on threads there is a huge variation in ages, backgrounds, geographical location, income etc etc. of posters. There will be an average/median MNer but only in the same way as there would be with people in a school say, or occupants of a town.

It's crazy to say "only on MN" to justify the fact that whole load of posters aren't agreeing with you.

Poor Drs (and other hcp's) dammed if they do and dammed if they don't.

Thankfully the hcp I saw today recognised that my baby is amazingly cute and responded appropriately with lots of cuddles, coos and kisses, this made me one happy mummy.

My DS's teacher gets down to the kids' level every morning as they are coming in the door. She speaks to each one individually, looks them in the eye, asks them a little question about something random and gives them a quick hug, head stroke or hand hold (depending on the child's comfort level). I think it's adorable and wasn't planning on reporting her. YABU.

Yabvvu so you want some Doctor who clearly loves children to loose her job because she kissed your baby! Please don't do anything op, please don't. We need more lovely Doctors like that. Just feel happy that someone admired your baby today!

Ladies, let's get this straight: I'm too busy to waste my time in arguing with nit-pickers like you, who, if I'm completely honest, irritate because you negate the obvious points I make in order to denigtate my posts.

As for spending too much time on here: I look at 'threads I'm on' just like anyone else. Especially if I've got some extremely ignorant person calling what I say out as being "nonsense", when it isn't. I disagree with you and I have my reasons, which were carefully explained. It is too easy to say it's "nonsense", and when there is a gang of ignorant people also posting on a thread, it isn't difficult to get a following.

If you wish to remain ignorant about marketing; how it works, that MN employs advertising to hit an audience open to its message, which attracts a demographic of a particular mindset, etc, then clearly what I say ain't gonna change your mind.

I'm hiding the thread now because - seriously, I've got better things to do.

G'night

What a lovely doctor. I still remember my childhood gp who never let us leave without a cuddle & a tickle.
I was never scared or worried about going to the doctor.

Fuck me, I'm embarassed to be British some days.

A GP was so delighted by your wee baby she gave her a kiss; you think it was weird, your DP thinks it's creepy. I'm afraid I think you two sound weird and creepy. Well, not really, but Christ on a rubber bike, cop on to yourselves!

mygrandchildren are you my head? If so I did melt a little when you cuddled PFB dd and went all mushie over how gorgeous she is!
Babies are adorable and irresistible. It's just near impossible to not kiss and cuddle them. Mine is sleeping next to me right now and I'm doing just that.