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Doctor kissing my baby

134 replies

SparklyVampire · 04/06/2014 08:25

I have been thinking about this over night and now I think I need some opinions. Ok so yesterday I took my DD to her 8 week check, the doctor was very umm, enthusiastic. She took DD straight away for cuddles and said it was the best part of been a doctor. She was very gushy about how beautiful and perfect DD is, then she started kissing DD. A lot.
I was a bit weirded out but I didn't say anything. I told Dh when he got home from work and he thinks that it is creepy and I should report her.
I think she just got a bit carried away even if it was strange, I'm not sure if it warrants reporting though.
Would you say it is unreasonable to report or would you shrug it off?

OP posts:
AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 04/06/2014 19:03

I think she sounds lovely. I could burst when other people are as taken with my children as I am. It's only unusual because many people are so hands off these days, due to attitudes like your dh.
The nn's at dc2's nursery are forever kissing, snuggling, tickling and cuddling with him. He is a scrummy, funny, pudgy little thing though. Grin I love that he's formed such loving attachments with them. The more people to love them, the better.

OhFFSWhatsWrongNow · 04/06/2014 19:21

Op can I ask you a question? I work with babies in a day nursery (under 1s) and I frequently kiss them on the head. I cuddle them and nuzzle them to show affection. I think they need it. Would you be annoyed at this? Genuine question.

In fact would this bother anyone else on this thread?

CarbeDiem · 04/06/2014 19:21

yanbu to find it strange. I would have found the kissing part strange too.

No harm done. GP just sounds a little over enthusiastic but lovely.
I'd rather a GP like that than a miserable grump.

Molotov · 04/06/2014 19:32

I've got to say that MN is the only place where you'll find strangers (even if they are almighty doctors) kissing babies acceptable.

And you being the weirdo for being uncomfortable with that.

As far as I am concerned, strangers (because this is the real issue; second to professionalism) kissing babies/children is way, way off.

Bowlersarm · 04/06/2014 19:39

Well, MN isn't just one voice Molotov. It's a collection of different people's opinions so I never understand why anyone would say "only on MN". Very strange.

I think it must be a pretty fair representation of mothers across this country, and others as well.

Good for you macdoodle. I hope you don't feel the need to stop after reading some miserable posts here.

Scotinoz · 04/06/2014 19:41

Sounds fine really. I'm not totally okay with random people kissing my baby but I don't think its creepy. GP sounds rather jolly and probably one to hold on to. I'd rather a kind, baby living GP to take my child to than a weirdo.

ShineSmile · 04/06/2014 19:46

Babies are for kissing! Gosh please don't report her!

SauvignonBlanche · 04/06/2014 19:46

I've just had a vile day at work today as an HCP. To come home and read this shite is so funking depressing.Sad

WTF could you DH possibly want to complain about? Confused

Find a new GP ( you don't deserve the one you've got) and I'd get a new DH whilst you're at it.

ashtrayheart · 04/06/2014 19:50

I'd expect a cuddle but would be a bit bemused by a dr kissing my baby. I wouldn't report it though.

Bowlersarm · 04/06/2014 19:50

Sad isn't it Sauvignon, the life and fun being sucked out of everything and everyone.

Molotov · 04/06/2014 19:56

"Only on MN" is a perfectly valid statement, bowlers.

It has a certain demographic which is not broadly representational of the entire public opinion. It is neither qualitative nor quantitative data.

In simpler terms, it is just the opinion of the MN demographic.

bialystockandbloom · 04/06/2014 20:03

Agree with those who say cuddling and cooing fine, but yes, kissing a bit odd.

But then I can always manage to resist the non existant temptation to kiss other peoples' babies Hmm

But would be OTT to report her though.

NorksEnormous · 04/06/2014 20:09

You were actually considering reporting her?? For cooing over your baby?? What a horrible person you are, and how lovely she sounds. People go gushy over babies, they look adorable, they smell beautiful, maybe she was remembering when hers were so small. She will be this child's GP, she's not just a random woman who walked over in the middle of tesco and lifted him out of the pram and decided to kiss him! Hmm

Remember the saying Op, it takes a village to raise a child.

bialystockandbloom · 04/06/2014 20:12

ohffs imo there is a massive difference between this, and a member of nursery staff cuddling and kissing the children. It's a fundamental part of your job to be affectionate and caring as being in loco parentis

littlegreengloworm · 04/06/2014 20:14

I would love such a warm hearted doctor. We are HUMAN.

lottieandmias · 04/06/2014 20:15

I think it's fair to say that most doctors don't kiss babies but they often come across as cold to me.

I really would not report her unless you thought there was anything sinister about it and it does not sound like that was the case from what you say ...

Annietheacrobat · 04/06/2014 20:20

My GP used to pretend to eat DD's chubby thighs.

bialystockandbloom · 04/06/2014 20:26

annie that is just waaay too familiar imo Shock

CustardOmlet · 04/06/2014 20:31

This reminds me of the lovely GP who saw DS at the on call clinic in the early hours when he was 6wks old (coincidently working normally at our surgery) then he requested to see DS at his 8wk check. Felt lovely to have that continuity, and he appeared genuinely interested in my DS.

TiredFeet · 04/06/2014 20:38

She sounds lovely! Babies were designed to make us want to kiss and cuddle them.

All my gp's break off from the consultation to have baby talk with my little one, I think its wonderful!

Ooh and thinking about it, I had complications post birth and the male obstetric consultant stole some cuddles with my baby after the consultation, he went all gooey eyed at her

And when my little girl was poorly at 3 months old a lovely registrar cuddled her and shushed her to sleep and reminisced about doing the same with his boys while I had a good old snotty snuffly wail to him about how tough it was . She was only admitted to a and e because she was refusing to feed due illness, after he got her to sleep I managed to give her a good old feed as she woke and she turned a corner

Let's not end up in a world where dr's can't do this!

MrsCaptainReynolds · 04/06/2014 20:40

FFS. This country will have no GPs left with the utter shafting they are getting from the government, and this "should I report this?" nonsense. Have you any idea how bloody stressful recieving complaints at work is? I don't think I've read anything more idiotic on mumsnet ever...

RubyrooUK · 04/06/2014 20:45

My GP told me off for not responding to him properly during DS1's 8 week check. (I didn't know he needed an answer to the statement "and just hold him there" and was probably sleep deprived.)

Then he asked if I had any concerns. I said DS1 fed every 45 min for 45 min, even in the night. He told me I was overly concerned about my baby because I'd had fertility issues. I needed to toughen up. And a bit of leaving him to cry while I ate dinner wouldn't harm him. He said that his wife had found it hard to ignore their babies crying, but he never had.

I had him for DS2 too. He failed to recognise the sublime beauty and gorgeousness of my second born. No kissing offered. This time I was more experienced though and can't remember any crying advice as I was too busy kissing DS2 myself.

Your GP sounds a but wacky but kind. I think kindness goes a long way.

quietbatperson · 04/06/2014 20:48

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wobblyweebles · 04/06/2014 20:49

Me and DD2 just bumped into DD2's teacher from three years ago. Teacher immediately shrieked and hugged her.

Should I report her too?

:-/

theQuibbler · 04/06/2014 20:57

I had a lovely dr with DS at his 6 week check up. She had him away from me and was all tickles and cuddles and cooing. It was adorable and made me smile. She said he was irresistible :) Mind you, he was my 2nd baby, and I find folk a lot less precious about their children after the first.