To stop taking photos of anyone until someone takes one of me

[Pantone363]

I'm aware vanity is unattractive........but it would be nice to have a few candid unposed photos of myself.

I always seem to be the person taking photos at BBQs, parties, picnics etc therefore ending up with none of myself. I've asked DP before we've gone out and said oh would you mind taking some photos tonight, one blurry shot and he's done. The same with friends. We all went to a big party last night, before it started everyone's said oh let's get some nice photos, I took the pass code off my phone and left it on our table so nobody had any excuse not to take photos.

And again there is not one of me. I hate posed photos and selfies and actively handing my phone and asking for a photo because it comes off awkward.

I've woken up to two texts from friends asking to see/forward photos from last night to them and DP woke up 30 mins ago and wanted to see the photos. Looking through them you would have no idea I was even at the party!

AIBU to say 'oh sorry there aren't any something must have happened to my camera?!'

Some of us are absolutely shit at photography, though. I am pretty much guaranteed to get my thumb over the lens/be looking into the sun/cut heads off in the framing.

Though I do remember being a tiny bit put out that in all the mountain of pics my mother took of DS when he was born, there are hardly any of me holding him...

As a photographer, this thread makes me sad. We all want images of ourselves and our loved ones and if your DP isn't taking them for you, maybe you should book the family in for a few professional sessions, Pantone?

Chances are, as soon as he saw what you could be willing to spend for the memories that you want to save, he might consider using the family camera a bit more...?

YANBU

Exactly the same here.

I was looking through some photos of our holiday at half term last night. You'd have no idea I was even there.

When DH does take photos he so clearly can't be arsed so they're blurred/heads cut off/etc. He's not an idiot, he's perfectly capable of operating a point and shoot camera, he just can't be arsed to make an effort and do it properly

We have 100s of framed family snaps taken over the years going up our stairs, I'm in about 3 of them.

I have the same problem in our house. When I ask DH to take pics, he'll take 50, but he seems to get them when we're all gurning. And then thinks that's okay.

I invested in a gorilla tripod and have a bigger one for my SLR, and bought a remote control, regularly I set it up and take pics of me and the DSs. Especially a family one on each of their birthdays. That's quite good as they can see yearly how their family has changed/grown. Except for that year with DS1 when DH had 'manflu' and was being generally arsey, so I took myself and DS1 to the park and took pics of just the two of us.

He even ruins professional photo's I organise by acting like a grumpy teenager.

On my first ever trip to Paris with my mum I asked her to take a picture of me, she looked through the lens and said oh I can't be bothered with this! I made her take the picture but she wasn't happy.

LucySnowe said exactly what I was thinking.

People probably just don't realise how much it means to you. I've just had a quick flick on my camera phone and have taken less than 20 this year and that includes some papers I wanted to keep copies of but couldn't access a photocopier. I'm just not a photo taker - it doesn't occur to me.

Just because people don't think to take photos of you doesn't mean they are selfish! Not everyone takes photos and not everyone is bothered whether they are on photos.

As I said, I'm not a photo taker but I'll chat to someone on their own, make sure people have drinks, play with babies to give parents a break etc which I'm pretty sure are nice things to do.

If a friend said "oh I wish people would take photos of me" I'd be a bit but probably volunteer to take some and then forget because I'm doing other things which are more natural to me.

Lucy "I'm not photogenic, so am always DELIGHTED when it turns up that someone has taken a nice photo of me" - that's exactly why some of us would like someone to take a photo of us too! It is nice when you see yourself looking happy and having fun, but for those of us stuck behind the lens all the time, we never get to feel delighted!

Oh god, this has actually made me cry a bit... I hate that no one seems to care about my existence. And that is genuinely what it feels like to me... There are no photos of me apart from selfies and some ugly posed shots.

Dd took a couple when she had a working camera but apart from that noone ever takes a photo of me, ever.

My kids would have no record I was ever in the same room as them apart from a handful of terrible pictures over the 9 years of their existence.

This thread has actually made me decide to give dd my camera, my phone has a very good camera so I don't use it much anymore and she'd love it... That way at least somebody besides me is chronicling our lives.