To think that a lot of the time having someone in the family with a disability does mean being long term poor?

[extremepie]

Obviously this is not the case for everyone but it certainly is for me!

I know that families with a disabled member do get extra help in the form of extra tax credits, DLA, carer's allowance ha! etc but aibu to think that due to the often extra expenses that are incurred by having someone with a disability in the family all this doesn't go as far as you might think?

Due to my current circumstances, I am not able to work and I can't see this changing in the near to moderate future unless something drastically changes. This is not unusual, as a lot of us just can't work around all the medical appointments, time off required to look after them etc so working is just not feasible but I hate the idea that this current situation is all I have to look forward to in the future and that my financial situation will not really improve :(

Aibu to think I'm not alone in this and that for a lot of people having to manage the needs to someone with a disability means they are struggle in the long term? In most circumstances if your money situation is tight you can either try and earn more money or cut your expenses but often people with a disabled family member can't do either!

It's a city in Thailand Pixel.

Fairy

full benefits as it's paid for in full anyway
Wrong. again.
And if you want to debate on a site with Adults, behave like one. Accept that you are on occasion in the wrong, that you don't know it all and that people struggle, no matter what you may think.

I was going to comment but being as a certain poster has popped up (as they always do) saying parents of disabled children should just try harder (as this poster always does) when they have zero idea then I can't be arsed.

Having 'Happy' in a username when you're so bitter is a bit weird tbh.

Fuck me...HappyMummy is on a roll I see.
I actually think she is misnamed. "Miserable mother of singleton" might be more apt given her attitude to ANYONE unfortunate enough to have to claim a single bit of Govt money.
God how entitled those disabled folk are....how bloody dare they be disabled enough to not work.

She was on a thread the other week about changes to CSA. Spouting venom at single parents.

I sincerely hope that one day her hubby doesnt leave her, her child doesnt get diagnosed with a life threatening illness or disability or her house doesnt get repossessed. She would implode if she had to lower herself to claiming any kind of benefit.

Cue:

"Well, I've made sure than if those things ever happened we are insured so will be covered and can continue working and setting an example to our child"

*that, not than

She would implode if she had to lower herself to claiming any kind of benefit.

Don't be silly Nahidontthinkso, she won't need benefits, she'll show us all how easy it is to find suitable work under those circumstances.

YANBU

It's the difficulty planning ahead that gets me down. I can't be reliable because I never know when we're going to need an ambulance/trip to A&E. That sounds horribly selfish, I know.

Posters like that don't give a shit that their posts make parents in an already stressed place want to self harm.

I know a few.

Makes the ethos of making other parents lives easier a mockery, doesn't it?

Thanks Smilesandpiles. Probably a bit different to our sort of beach hut which is a place to keep your deck chairs and a camping stove in .

You know, if you were more organised, Devon, you could work around that. Surely you can arrange for all those A&E trips to be out of office hours

You could even have a kip during the 4-5 hour wait to been seen!

Pixel, it's lovely! Australia reported that many people on disability were living in SE Asia. I don't blame them, the Aussie $ goes much further. Food is 50 cents to $1 (rice, veg, meat, and soup) and coffee is 25 cents (maybe 10p. That's one reason I still can't cook....

Or get a job in a&e and just stay there all the time?

Hmm. Never mind that both of us have been up most of the night trying to stop the kids killing each other we should just go get a job.

Sleep is soooooo overrated.

The others posters name begins with a C

Pixel

You taught me something new... I like my beach hut better though! Although it put me in the hospital for a week!

Actually they tend to be between midnight and 6am, as nights are the worse

So I can usually show up for work..!

tripe

Actually for everyone here. Including chelsy, as i suspect her heart is in the right place.

And to happymummy too, for demonstrating that no matter how much shit we all deal with, at least we can be happy that we dont think like her.

*worst