To think that a lot of the time having someone in the family with a disability does mean being long term poor?

[extremepie]

Obviously this is not the case for everyone but it certainly is for me!

I know that families with a disabled member do get extra help in the form of extra tax credits, DLA, carer's allowance ha! etc but aibu to think that due to the often extra expenses that are incurred by having someone with a disability in the family all this doesn't go as far as you might think?

Due to my current circumstances, I am not able to work and I can't see this changing in the near to moderate future unless something drastically changes. This is not unusual, as a lot of us just can't work around all the medical appointments, time off required to look after them etc so working is just not feasible but I hate the idea that this current situation is all I have to look forward to in the future and that my financial situation will not really improve :(

Aibu to think I'm not alone in this and that for a lot of people having to manage the needs to someone with a disability means they are struggle in the long term? In most circumstances if your money situation is tight you can either try and earn more money or cut your expenses but often people with a disabled family member can't do either!

No, you're not.

DH and I were saying this would happen four years ago too.
I clearly remember him saying "A £25 charge to see the GP is not so far away."

The reason she hasn't been banned for trolling is because that would mean all the times she has been reported that MNHQ's judgement has been off and they would have to admit to getting it wrong.

There is such a thing as a cumalative evidence.

And much though I hate nearly every opinion she ever expresses, in many cases I agree she has a right to express it

Problem is, she's getting nastier.

She can express it. Somewhere else.

Started a thread about those contracts here as I don't want to derail this one.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2094594-to-wonder-who-can-survive-on-3-hour-contracts-19-a-week

She tends to appear on the Relationships board woman blaming too if anyone posts and mentions the word finances.

I'll comment on that thread another time.

DS has just gone to sleep so I'm going to try get some kip myself before he wakes up again.

Night all.

So what do we understand site rules to be then?

A farce.

Night smiles

G night smiles

Sorry that wasn't clear - I meant she has a right to express harsh even nasty views but not on sensitive forums/threads, necessarily. As it is she shits wherever she likes.

Site Rules?

1. Trolls are allowed if they mirror the views of MNHQ.
2. Parents of disabled children, carers of people with disabilities and people with disabilities themselves do not fit the advertisers' demographic. Therefore someone who does fit the demographic is always more important and their view stands no matter how much hurt is caused.

There used to be 3. Parents of children who have disabilities have to 'educate' the ignorant and trolls who poke them for kicks.

Well, that one does still exist but MNHQ pretend it doesn't.

You're never going to sleep Lefty. Have a ?

Goodnight all

Perhaps if we stop using the word troll then there is a slim chance this won't become the thread that no longer exists

I hope tonight's baiting isn't judged acceptable. That would be v disappointing.

Good idea amnesty.

Maybe those of us who are unsure about are own posts could withdraw them?

I have massive insomnia. Believe me would be amazeballs but I'm too skint

Goodnight Beyond

I have also report thread re upsettingotherpostersmakesmehappymumofone. I recognise her posts on any thread straight away.

I'm not allowed due to meds lefty I am doing visualisations