to think taking about how much you've "made" from your property is vulgar and rude

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Firstly you haven't made anything unless you move and secondly this money isn't magiced out of thin air - people below the chain have to pay for it by working longer,having 35 year mortgages and having less of a life while they pay it back.

Also its really inconsiderate braging in front of people that cant afford to buy!

I think it was ghandi that said there is no greater evil than money earnt without work

Rant over, just had a friend round and I'm still fuming. Its bad enough at dinners

I mean talking, damn no edit button!

Although in this context taking makes some sense.

I think yabu try being happy for your friends good fortune instead of jealous. Btw I can't afford to buy either.

"money earnt without work"?

So you think people don't work for the money they put down as deposit or to go towards the mortgage?

I'm not jelious, just find if vulgar. You wouldn't go and brag to someone poor about how much you were paid at work. No difference.

YANBU to dislike inconsiderate bragging. It's crass. YABU to resent someone a little pleasure at discovering their home has gone up in value or place a heavy guilt-trip on them about those who can't afford a property. No-one's home is magicked out of thin air... unless it was an inherited gift, everyone has had to buy it with something.

YABU do you not think they had to have a mortgage and the people before them probably did as well. These people probably made money on the sale of their house as well. If you live somewhere long enough of course the property will increase in value. If this person is your friend as you state above, you aren't much of a friend if you aren't happy for them.
Obviously, buying a house was a priority for them.
You sound very jealous.

I also remember when friends used to brag when they were in negative equity...or does that not count as bragging, rude or vulgar because it is negative equity?

Sorry brt, but you do sound incredibly bitter that that particular ball hasn't bounced in your direction. It has fuzzed your logic

YANBU. Bragging about financial good fortune re home ownership in front of people who can't afford to buy is really self-absorbed and irritating.

Perhaps others shouldn't talk about their job, holiday pay and prospects prospects as I don't have a job!

I'm happy to appreciate that everyone is different. It bugs the shit out of me that nobody can talk about anything just is case others are worse off. I don't get pissed off that others are doing better than me, in fact I'm glad for them. Shame others can't be glad for others.

YABU. The notion that you cannot make a profit on the sale of your home as it would mean the sellers having to work harder for it is ludicrous.

YANBU about people bragging about how much money they've got.

Yabvvu these people have probably also earned and work hard for what they have, it's good that they are seeing the fruits of their hard work.

*buyers not sellers.

Ffs buying something and doing nothing is not hard work or something that should be applauded, its one of the main reasons the coubtry is down the pan as money has been diverted away from doing something productive like making something and now its just tied up in a speculative property bubble.

Ffs buying something and doing nothing is not hard work or something that should be applauded, its one of the main reasons the coubtry is down the pan as money has been diverted away from doing something productive like making something and now its just tied up in a speculative property bubble.

I wouldn't go on about it to anyone and everyone but I have told some of my friends the outcome of our house valuation recently.

If I'm honest i haven't shared the actual numbers with people who 'cant afford to buy' or with anyone who likes to talk about money as I, as a rule, don't. But i don't see why i shouldn't be able to talk about my life just because I'm 'doing better' than someone else.

Honestly? Just sounds like you have a bad case of sour grapes.

Buying something, paying the mortgage, the original price plus the interest, and keeping the house in good condition, decorating, replacing white goods, carpets etc - all things renters don't do.

Yep, you are right brt, no-one with a mortgage is entitled to live, bastards!

But I would agree that the absolute fixation on being a home owner is ludicrous.

We have rented for most of our lives. We bought a flat in the 80s cos it was cheaper than renting. Sold it and rented, we couldn't afford to buy another property at all. A couple of decades later we have bought another house, again because, with our savings, it is again cheaper than renting.

I appreciate that you will read that as boasting, but it should give you hope. Even when renting you can save enough money to buy a house. In the meantime you can often rent a property you couldn't afford to buy.

Well all bragging is vulgar

But discussing the sale and profit of your home with a friend, isn't necessarily bragging...it's just discussion.

I guess it's the sort of conversation you'd have to be party to, to say whether they were bragging, or whether you're just resentful of their financial position.

Its quoting amounts I find boasting, fair enough if they renovated it and did hard work fair enough. If they just got handouts from parents re mortgaging and then painted and out twigs in a vase, I find boasting oh I've made 80k distasteful.

Friend I'm talking about, hasn't sold it. Has no intention of doing so. Just got estate agent round to make her feel rich and clever.

So if they fulfill your criteria for boasting then it's ok?

Oooh! She really did piss you off, didn't she?

May I offer a sit down with and ?

I could up it to a G+T if needed!

Well maybe she feels shit about something so she needed cheering up?

She was probably just making conversation but you were obviously resentful of what she had to say.