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Original poster

AIBU to think if your child isn't in the buggy you should fold it down.

87 replies

gotnotimeforthat · 30/05/2014 11:52

I was was waiting for the bus yesterday and noticed that there was 3 pushchairs including my own waiting to get on. The lady in front noticed this too and folded down her pushchair as her daughter was walking around anyway.

We got on and the other couple with a baby had taken up the whole of the buggy spaces even though baby was sitting on mums knee.

They refused to fold the pushchair down so I had to fold my own waking my DS in the process. I had to stand the frame flat against the fold up seats so everytime the bus accelerated or used the breaks it would swing back and forth so partner had to stand holding the frame for the entire journey.

AIBU to think If your oversized bulky pushchair is empty you should fold it down if somebody else needs to use the bay?

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extremepie · 30/05/2014 12:28

Yanbu, especially since there were 2 adults there, one to hold the baby and and one to fold, completely inconsiderate not to fold IMO!

Why wouldn't they fold it? Did they actually give a reason?

Original poster
gotnotimeforthat · 30/05/2014 12:33

No there wasn't a reason given they just said no and went back to chatting away in another language.

I was really quite annoyed, especially as they had the cheek to tut at us because DS was crying after being woken up.

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Star8369 · 30/05/2014 12:35

yanbu

Lanabelle · 30/05/2014 12:36

I hate this politics of buggy on a bus thing - exactly the reason I drive everywhere I cant walk to. You would say they were unreasonable because theirs was empty, they would say you were because they were there first and yada yada yada. Makes me realise that ditching the little car for the big one was the best thing I did

WorraLiberty · 30/05/2014 12:36

You should have told the driver

Coldlightofday · 30/05/2014 12:37

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DrinkFeckArseGirls · 30/05/2014 12:37

Well, I would be able to fold our buggy because ot doesn't fold. You can take it apart, )chassis, seat, footrest and the bag that comes with it for the rain cover, etc) but then it would take much more space than originally. Plus it might have proven difficult to do with a fully boarded bus.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 30/05/2014 12:37

Wouldn't not would.

WorraLiberty · 30/05/2014 12:40

Why don't people use transport suitable buggies any more?

Before you were allowed to keep your buggy up on buses, everyone used strollers that could be collapsed and folded effortlessly.

parallax80 · 30/05/2014 12:44

I don't understand why so many people now have buggies they can't fold. Isn't it something you take into consideration when you buy one, if you think you're likely to use buses? (And how would you get one in a car??)

Original poster
gotnotimeforthat · 30/05/2014 12:44

cold

No they understood, they was speaking in English at times too.

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parallax80 · 30/05/2014 12:44

Cross post!

Original poster
gotnotimeforthat · 30/05/2014 12:48

parallax

I would of thought so, the main reason I got the pushchair I have is because it was easy to fold. I stood putting it up and down in the shop.

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extremepie · 30/05/2014 12:51

I don't understand why the drivers, in some cases, don't uphold the rules more often, have heard so many times on here about wheelchairs not being able to get on because an inconsiderate buggy user won't fold - the drivers have the ultimate say, if you don't follow the rules they should make people get off! If selfish people knew they would get chucked off if they didn't follow the rules then they would be a lot more likely to comply but more often than not the driver just shrugs like 'well what can you do' and carrys on!

extremepie · 30/05/2014 12:53

Fwiw I think the whole speaking in another language thing was just a clear sign from them that they didn't want to engage in any further discussion about it rather than anything else!

LadySybilLikesCake · 30/05/2014 12:55

I've seen people put an empty buggy in the buggy space and then go and sit elsewhere with the small child on a seat next to them. So 1 person (it's not that hard to put a tiny child on your lap) taking up the space for 4 or 5 people when the bus is packed and there's people standing. It doesn't register for some.

ikeaismylocal · 30/05/2014 12:58

Yabu. I never fold my pushchair as it is a huge huge faff and ds is not able willing to sit by himself on a chair. If the bus is full I just wait for the next one.

If you didn't want to fold then you should have waited for the next bus.

Ds always gets out and sits on my knee, he loves looking out of the window, it's quite a rush to put him back in the pushchair once the bus is stopped ( I don't stand up whilst the bus is moving as im pregnant and worried I might fall) I couldn't possibly reconstruct my pushchair whilst holding ds in the 5 seconds the bus is at the bus stop.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 30/05/2014 13:02

I get it into the the car in parts and the assemble it when out of the car Confused It's lying down flat. In the bus, I'd have to do the same. Tbh I had never taken DD out of the buggy on the bus when she was little and now we just use the car but I was just saying that not all buggies fold neatly.

Why did I buy such buggy? Because I didn't intend on taking DD put of it when she was a newborn; we never went anywhere too far
I suppose. Plus the buggy is slim and tall so we would take 1/3 less space than a normal buggy.

WorraLiberty · 30/05/2014 13:02

For goodness sake a buggy with a sleeping child in it should always trump an empty buggy.

If folding it is a faff, use a more transport suitable one.

It's common sense and courtesy.

sezamcgregor · 30/05/2014 13:03

Yep, if DS was asleep, I'd have given the bus a big FUCK THAT and asked the driver for a refund before getting off and waiting for the next one.

Another way around it is handing said sleeping child to the driver while you fold the pushchair.

ikeaismylocal · 30/05/2014 13:04

I'm not going to buy an easily foldable buggy incase someone with a sleeping baby wants to get on the bus, if your baby's sleep is so precious you should use a sling or wait for the next bus.

Original poster
gotnotimeforthat · 30/05/2014 13:05

ikea

It's not the fact I had to fold that annoyed me its that the pushchair was empty. There was no need for it to be taking up the spaces for two buggies.

The woman was not on her own she had her husband with her and I think the couple seated behind them were with them too.

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Nocomet · 30/05/2014 13:08

YANBU
My buggy was a total liability folded. Very awkward and dangerously sharp.

We walked, or used the car.

Had I wanted to use the bus,I wouldn't have owed a Mountain Buggy

WorraLiberty · 30/05/2014 13:08

At least you're honest ikea

I genuinely thought some MNetters exaggerated when they posted about meeting people with attitudes like yours.

I stand corrected.

LadySybilLikesCake · 30/05/2014 13:11

When ds was tiny I'd walk everywhere. I caught the bus once. I left the buggy at home and I carried him. I often see people on the bus with buggies who go a couple of stops, then get off (I'm aware that people can struggle to walk though so may need to take the bus for a couple of stops).

She should have folded it down.