To stand up for my son?

[mrsruffallo]

DS2, aged 5. Took him to a swing park today and he was on the swings going really high, happy as Larry. A toddler- I'd say between 2 and 3- ran in front of the swing and to his dismay was walloped as my son hit her. Her mum runs over when she hears the screams and shouts at my son about being 'careful when there are little one's around'. I told her it was her responsibility, not Ds.

He slowed it down for little uns to get on, then pushed it fast

Oh so he waited till they were on first before he scared them. Pleasant.

Nope sorry OP still UR in fact even more so than before.

YANBU about the swings. DS has ASD, and has no danger awareness whatsoever - the amount of times I've had to whisk him out of the way of swings is unbelievable. Luckily he's never been hit, though he had a few close calls, but I'd never blame the child on the swing.
Strangely, he's wonderful at being careful when on the swing, and will always stop if a small child comes near him. He's extra careful with DD who's 2. Bless him.

If little ones get on I always tell my dd's to not push to fast and keep my eye on them. Ds would just fall over if someone pushed the roundabout too fast, so I think you are being a bit unreasonable on that one.

He said he wanted to do it for them.

Walk in front of the swings, you get wacked - end of story. All my kids have done it and now keep a decent distance. I do wish there was a small fence or something around swings though as my younger two seem drawn to children on the swings

I mean, he saw it as a grown up thing to do as they were all tiny. I thought it was sweet.

My DS wanted to feed his sister sugar from the sugar bowl when she was 1 yo but being a responsible parent I told him no with a brief explanation.

I would think the same applied to the roundabout situation OP.

Well, I was laughing, cheering him on. I don't think that makes me a bad parent.

No but it makes you an idiot.

It is nice that he wanted to push them, but some children get scared by the roundabout going too fast or are a bit wobbly and fall, so I would always make sure it was fairly slowly.

I did tell DS to make sure they were holding on tight.

Huh? 'Cheering him on'?

OP are you bored this evening?

You have come back to the thread and seem intent on posting daft replies designed to goad.

Well, I was laughing, cheering him on. I don't think that makes me a bad parent

Think we'll have to agree to differ there then.

Not goading, trying to explain. I think we should end this now before it gets nasty.

Thanks everyone for your support.

Caused by your own hand OP.

PLease stop harrassing me ff. I am trying to bow out gracefully, you should do the same.

I agree the OP is just on the wind up now.

But anyway, the mother of the toddler was unreasonable to have a go at the boy. It was an accident and neither child's fault.

A roundabout is different and the boy should learn to adapt when with littlies.

The swing incident is not the same as going down a slide before it is clear - all children should be taught to check first and get an adult to intervene if a child is refusing to move or walking back up the slide.

Then leave the thread and hide it OP tis the simple answer. I am afraid you cannot stop people posting on it....well you can but you will need to report your own thread to MNHQ and give a reason.

You were completely right about the swing but wrong about the roundabout. Roundabout etiquette is that bigger kids let smaller kids set the pace.

I spent 3 hours helicoptering my 22-month old at the big park yesterday, I was knackered! Met up with a group of friends for a pic-nic and my ds was the youngest by at least 2 years. This meant I was unable to sit and chat with my friends until ds finally passed out for a nap! But that's toddlers for you, you can't take your eyes off them for minute (well, not mine anyway, as he has demon speed combined with all the sense of a deranged lemming )