AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

It's better than letting DS2 play with them in the bath, in all fairness.

I do let Ds1 stamp on them first and then put them in the recycling, usually - but sometimes it's just easier to bin 'em.

If my mum saw bogroll inners in a rubbish bin, she'd go loopy.

Same for cans, she'd picked them out.

My mum is slightly weird.

Dh puts them on top of the bin, and I am then the "baddie" who puts them in the bin.

I'm a bit mortified that I've never thought to provide guest sanpro ... don't use it myself, being ancient and anyway, I've had it All Taken Away. Still, did a quick inventory of my downstairs, guest bathroom: little tin of lip salve. Posh soap. Nail brush. Towels. Notice telling guests NOT to put anything apart from wee, crap, toilet paper down the munching-toilet. Bin for things that can't go in toilet. Eighteen bottles of perfume.

I am quite relaxed about people having a dab of my perfume except when they pour on my expensive Caron 'Bellodgia' that's now been discontinued

"...she'd go loopy..." - was that pun intended?

No it wasnt intended Thumb

It's annoying being witty without realising it

WHAT WOULD JASON STATHAM DO?

That's something we could all live by

But what would Jason Statham do - wouldn't he just shoot everyone? Or is that too stereotypical thinking?

I would hope whatever he did he would take his shirt off first!

Should I say something to my friend? When she stayed the other week she used nearly a full tube of my guest hemorrhoid cream, and she didn't clean the nozzle for the next guest.

No YANBU - if someone asked I would oblige if I could - however I do not like the thought of someone rummaging through my bathroom looking for sanitary products and I certainly would not provide such services. Weird - how do you respond to that!?!

I must confess, I did have a go at my friend once, who had a shower in my house and used my razor. It irked me for some reason.

But she was a guest in someone's home, and therefore had a right to think that her basic needs should be catered for by a good hostess,

Pretentious twaddle, and she was only there for 2 1/2 hours FFS !! In that short time your only basic need is an air supply.......

When you're saying 'guest bathroom' is that the downstairs loo or an en suite attached to the guest bedroom. Or a second bathroom downstairs complete with shower etc?

Because you might want to consider Guest Shower Gels if it's the latter.

I'd find that gross Tali

eighteen bottles of perfume I'm coming over to yours Old

BMW6 -- what is the minimum time requirement before one is considered a guest then?

If she wasn't a guest, could she expect to use the loo?

'It's not uncommon to want your guests to be well cared for.'
Bonsoir, it seems you are completely mistaken.

And you are going to have to justify calling your guests 'guests' based on length of time within the walls of your home.

Coumarin -- how long would a wad of tp have lasted you at age 16? 2.5 hours?

math - time is irrelevant when considering what constitutes a guest. It is the act of inviting someone into your home that makes them a guest.
Obviously someone who has not been invited into your house could not expect to use th loo, because they would not be in your house. they would have to ask your permission to come in and you can chose to say yes or no.
Caring for your guests does not, for most people, mean that you provide sanpro. In fact, most people on this thread find this suggestion laughable.
It is irrelevant how long toilet paper would or would not last based on different remember their menstrual flow at age 16, because only the individual knows this fact. We do not know if this incident happened at th beginning of th visit (in which case it appears that the loo roll was indeed adequate or OP would have noticed) or at the end of the visit, in which case DD and her mum could have found somewhere to buy sanpro on the way home.

rather than concentrating on what lengths a hostess should go to, it is more reasonable to say that menstruating women (and girls) should make sure they have sanpro. In this instance, even if DD did not have a tampon, it's rare to find an adult woman who does not have at least one tucked away in her handbag - so she should have had th basic sense to have a quick chat with her mum, not go rootling around her hostess's cupboards and abusing her hospitality.

I'd find that gross Tali

Thank you for validating my annoyance at her doing that.

My God....I feel sorry for the daughter....i can remember being a teenager and being 'caught out' when not use to having periods yet adn think I would have been MUCH more embarassed about my mother texting you and telling you then about having to make do with toilet paper!!

OP should text back and say "OMG I can't believe DD went through my bathroom cupboards. Please teach her to respect other peoples privacy and while you're at remind her of her individual responsibility to carry tampons. My loo is not the local branch of Boots."

Has anyone thought that maybe the friend was texting as a response to her daughters wingeing?

Daughter: "Mummy, can you believe that I've had to put toilet paper in my knickers?! Not a tampon to be seen in that woman's bathroom!"

Friend: "It's your job to make sure you carry some round with you"

Daughter: "rant about how hostess should have had some, it not my fault"

Friend: "Well I'll text her and see what she thinks! Guest tampons indeed!!" Gets out phone.....

Have spent an hour cleaning the cabinet in my downstairs bathroom thanks to this thread! It is now perfectly acceptable for a guest to look in although no sanitary products. Also have cleaned the taps properly and the cold tap that looked like the elephant man through years of caked-on limescale now looks like a normal tap! Thanks mn for making me shift my arse into gear

Math I already said I would've had my own tampons with me. Other than that I've no idea. Probably not 2.5 hours so I would've kept going to the loo to replace it. I wouldn't ever have expected wherever I was to provide sanitary wear for me.