to think SIL is in denial about my nice?

[Chucara]

my nice is 16 months old. At the moment she can't sit by her own unaided, does not crawl or walk, does not talk, does not point to things, and her eye contact is poor. My SIL thinks she is just too big and chubby to be bothered to move around and that it is a matter of time until she catch up. Apart from the fact that she is clearly developementally delayed in all aspects, my gut feeling is that there is something wrong with my nice and that she should be seen by a specialist or relevant person asap.

the thing is that i'm not close enough to my SIL to talk to her about this delicate subject and dont want to either hurt her feelings or maybe be wrong about it and regret having said anything about it!

Help Mumsnetters! what shall i do?

You post was what it was ZZZZZ.
The 'as I'm sure have many of the posters on the sn board'.

comment made it very clear that you had me on one side and you on the other of the 'industry'

Seriously wtf is that about? Do you realise how many of 'us' work with children with SN?
I work in my home borough. Think about that for a minute. What that means for me.

I wouldn't be working if I didn't have to. Its a struggle with a child with severe SN as I am sure you know. Because I have to I chose to do something that matters a lot to me and can help make some sense of the loss of DD.

Anyway. At the risk of sounding passive aggressive and like a martyr, I am knackered and stressed but at least I did some good stuff at work. I can't always.

I am going to make some lunch for the DCs.

Its ok.
I accept what you are saying.

Lets forget it