Dd is 7, yr 2 at school. She started nursery at 3 and from then until October 2013 didn't speak a single word to any adult or child at school or nursery. She was seeing a speech therapist but in the end a family trip triggered her talking about it at school and now she talks confidently. It is a huge turnaround and she's visibly happier.
In December she asked to join a drama group with her friend as she loves the theatre. Keen to build her confidence, I agreed and she's been attending weekly since. Back in March she was picked for a role in their annual show, a speaking part! I was so pleased and proud and dd was clearly very proud of herself too. She's been rehearsing since and has come on leaps and bounds.
When dd was offered the part, I emailed her father to tell him as obviously it's a huge deal for dd. He didn't respond. It then transpired that the shows are on 'his' weekend with dd. She has to be at the theatre from 5-9 on the Friday and Saturday night. I emailed explaining this and said I was happy to swap weekends if he wanted as the theatre is ten mins from us and 30 from him. He kicked up a fuss saying contact is more important and shouldn't be disrupted and that he refused to take her or swap weekends.
I replied reiterating how important this is to dd and offering a variety of alternative contact dates, and indeed additional contact in place of the show times/weekend. He ignored me. He's obviously been hearing from dd for months that she's been rehearsing each week but only now, three weeks before the show has he decided to tell me that she will not be doing the show because he isn't prepared to change contact dates or take her to the show or allow me to takeher and rreturn her to him.
Theres no court order in place. Aibu if I override him and say dd can do the show? If I change contact he'll probably take me to court but if dd has to drop out it could put her back to square one.