About SIL wedding

[Harrycarry]

DP sister is getting married later this year. My dd has been asked to be a bridesmaid along with dneice (ages 7 and 4) .

Of course dd is delighted to be asked and is really looking forward to it. SIL has bought lovely dresses for them to wear and she can't wait.

AIBU to feel a bit put out for my ds (age 5) that he has not been included?
Obviously he would not be a bridesmaid, but he has been ignored completely, as has dnephew, although he is much younger so prob won't know what's going on anyway.

I understand that it's her wedding and she can do what she likes but I feel that he has been excluded from the wedding party simply because he is a boy and feel sad for him.

I am not planning to make an issue of this. DP doesn't seem to mind at all and doesn't really understand why I'm bothered about it.

He's not being excluded.

I repeat I am not planning to say anything to anyone!
It's SILs day and I wouldn't want to do anything to spoil it or make extra stress for her!
I do actually like her, believe it or not!

I will have a ds2, due anyday soon and I'm not expecting him to be involved either as he will be just a baby!

I'm not sure whether my op makes me come across as crazy and out to ruin the wedding for revenge!
I am really not!
I am looking forward to enjoying the day with family.

I try very hard to ensure that my dc have equal opportunities, of course there are plenty of times when one does something the other can't, like parties or activities that are only age appropriate for one child.
They (and I!) understand and accept that.

On this occasion it just seems that he will see the girls being part of a huge family occasion (there are also a good few adult bridesmaids and ushers) where he won't have a role, for no other reason than he is not a girl.
Again I repeat, I will not be saying anything, nor projecting any disappointment, nor making him up a job.

I have accepted IABU.

I am presuming its down to late pregnancy hormones. Once dc3 is born I can get over this non-issue and get a grip as kindly suggested

On this occasion it just seems that he will see the girls being part of a huge family occasion (there are also a good few adult bridesmaids and ushers) where he won't have a role, for no other reason than he is not a girl.

He's 5. I doubt he will make the connection. He will see that not everyone has a specific role other than being there to witness the ceremony and celebrate.