To think that this is attention seeking behaviour and to wonder why people are taken in by it?

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An acquaintance of mine seems to have problem after problem in her personal life. She posts at least 4 different facebook statuses every day, and each time she does she will get heaps of concerned replies, and will not reply to anyone. She will then do another attention seeking status an hour later about something else.

AIBU to think it is attention seeking? Am I also being unreasonable to wonder why on earth some people bother commenting on everything of hers when she never acknowledges their replies or advice? Do people like being dragged into other peoples' dramas?

She is a drama llama with acoloytes who thrive on vampyring from her

Or something

Absolutely attention seeking but you have to ask yourself why. Lack of self-esteem? Loneliness? There's always a reason.

Oh there is one of these on my Facebook too, so tedious.

With this particular person, I think it is a case of her being spoilt by mummy and daddy and thinking the world revolves around her.

I think the main thing I cannot understand is why people are so taken in by it. It's like everyone seems to thrive on her dramas.

Generally, her statuses will be very dramatic things, almost with a cliffhanger, which she will never update.

For example, when pregnant with her youngest child, she would post that she hadn't felt him moving for hours. Cue about 200 comments telling her to get checked out.

She would then go AWOL and then do another status hours later about some other drama, such as a row with her husband.

It's a fairly recent thing for me to notice how many people validate attention-seekers. It's like an industry.

You see it on here all the time, completely implausible dramatics with legions of posters practically drooling waiting for the next instalment of made-up shite.

Authenticity is far less valued than I would have hoped.

Some folk need to be involved in the drama, they need a llama

IYSWIM

What Kelly said

I never reply to their statuses or threads but I watch with interest...more at the people who swarm around them than the actual OP.

I also hate cryptic updates

If you're going to say something, just say it or don't bother.

I feel this vindicates my decision to delete my Facebook account, this sort of behaviour just drove me mad!

YANBU steg, its very sad!

That kind of status makes me irrationally annoyed! Yes, it's completely attention seeking and just weird.
I think she's obviously very insecure and lonely and all the people who reply probably just like to get involved in the drama.

The fawners/swarmers fascinate me too.

Nothing makes me avoid a person more than if I feel that they need constant validation/attention.

I do have one of these people on my FB and I keep her there because she is basically a nice person but mostly because the attention seeking bollocks she posts is endlessly entertaining.

"OMG I just made SUCH a fool of myself in the Co-op" + some long spiel about something that clearly didn't happen + loads of "you're so great, X" comments - it brightens my day no end.

Hassled, our attention-seeking FB friends sound very similar!

My one is always having 'incidents' in Morrisons, which she posts about and gets 101 people telling her what a fantastic mum she is

I seen a comment last night

"really tired, going to bed"

then this person got like loads of likes....whats to like about that?

dont get it at all

I deleted someone for this recently. Every day without fail something like 'Not happy!' or 'So fed up of certain so called friends, they know who they are!' or even just a

And then loads of people would say 'Whats wrong hun?' And she would say 'Can't say on here, I'll PM you hun.' Arghh.

I don't get why their followers comment again and again when they get nothing back. If I comment on someone's statuses a few times and they repeatedly ignore me then I just don't bother with them again on FB. Yet some people just seem to go back again and again.

I find it hard not to respond though. One of my friends will post those vague "grr some people should really... blah blah blah..." or "feeling so let down " and if nobody responds I feel guilty that she's sitting there feeling cross or sad and no one cares.

Quite often if there's a joke to be made then I will post a lighthearted comment, but will not specifically do the "what's up Hun, PM me" crap.

However, I can't just let it go unnoticed as she's my friend. I wish she wouldn't vague-book, but I can't change her, so I'll just have to try an let her know that someone's listening but I'm not biting and if she wants to tell me something either post about it properly or message me privately if she doesn't want to spill in public (which surely is kind of the point of FB?!)

Ssd

Lol at vaguebooking! I have a couple of 'friends' who do this and legions of people 'Hun' at them.

I mainly use my status for humour or to provoking discussion. If life is bad I stay away.

I always wonder whether my acquaintance genuinely has all these dramas in her life, or whether she makes them up whenever she needs an attention fix

I used to have a friend on mine who used to repeatedly post about how awful her 'migraines' were.

Apparently "Get off your fucking computer then" wasn't acceptable advice and she blocked me

Who knew?

Ah yes, vaguebooking attention seekers often have a catalogue of medical problems to moan about