To think that this is attention seeking behaviour and to wonder why people are taken in by it?

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An acquaintance of mine seems to have problem after problem in her personal life. She posts at least 4 different facebook statuses every day, and each time she does she will get heaps of concerned replies, and will not reply to anyone. She will then do another attention seeking status an hour later about something else.

AIBU to think it is attention seeking? Am I also being unreasonable to wonder why on earth some people bother commenting on everything of hers when she never acknowledges their replies or advice? Do people like being dragged into other peoples' dramas?

Don't fret it just don't follow.

she will get heaps of concerned replies, and will not reply to anyone

There are other ways of communicating. Perhaps it then goes to PM's, texts, emails or phone calls as that how thing work on my friendship group. Facebook is useful, but not the centre of our friendships, it's only the not so close friendships that get conducted by Facebook.

I have a few :( , at least I know where I stand, now I know who my real friends are etc posts popping up. Mainly from one individual. If people reply she either ignores or says it's nothing. If it's nothing don't fricking post!

Same fb friend will also do the na night facefuckers x, making tea lol........

Can't unfriend/unfollow really as she's DS's aunt, though I'm very tempted.

Seeing other peoples ridiculous updates does focus the mind on what not to post though!

It is surprising how many people are willing sycophants!

I guess that once the attention seeker has a few followers others tag along because they want to be part of what seems like an in group?

It can all get a bit 'emperors new clothes '

Usual, trouble is, I do like her in RL and she'd be upset if I never commented on her normal posts (proud parenting photos, pics of her artwork, holidays etc) so blocking isn't an option.

She'll often say "did you see xxx that I put on FB earlier" and is surprised if i say no, and she will send me PMs on there and then if I don't respond straight away I get "???" five minutes later! I think she just assumes everyone spends more time on there than they actually do. I pop on throughout the day but then walk away from my computer and forget about it until the next time I'm having a cuppa and a break.

Part of me is hesitant about getting a smartphone as I won't be able to get away from it!

Fwiw I tried giving up FB for lent but didn't last long, I'm a voyeauristic fucker!

Suzanne, 'Emperor's new clothes' sums it up perfectly!

I had a friend on Facebook who was like that. When pregnant she 'checked in' to the hospital complaining how much she hates them. When people asked if she/baby was okay and why she was there her response was ' I will inbox you babes I don't want everyone knowing my business'

Yanbu. I can't stand fb and this is why. It's a stage for the drama queens and their sycophantic followers.

They can be useful ways to see inside people though. I had a colleague I was friendly with who was always having a drama in real life, always a victim etc, and I thought how unlucky and hard done by she was and gave up quite a bit of time trying to support her - taking on work projects for her because she was having a crisis etc etc. Until I became her fb friend and discovered that on fb she is passive aggressive, a bully, and pretty nasty to the person she claims is victimizing her. Made me see the whole situation in a new light, and made me realise that she has a problem- and the problem is herself.

I had an ex friend like this. I don't have Facebook but I heard from mutual friends that she posted passive aggressive crap all the time and attention seeking nonsense. It was worse for me cos she did it to me in real life, usually over the phone.

We'd be having a mundane conversation and she'd suddenly announce something like "My MIL has cancer!!" or "I think I might be pregnant!!". None of these statements ever stood up to any scrutiny, basically they were lies. I got wise to her and distanced myself, never speak to her now but apparently she's as bad as she always was.

I don't think it is unique to fb tho'. Can think of a few MN threads / groups where people do this frequently .....

People who check in "so and so is at Beckenham Hospital". Cue the "aw Hun u ok xxx" "so worried about you xx". No updates from the poster for hours - then it turns out her kid was having his injections. Ffs.

Secondly-sanctimonious FB friends. Gotta love em. Always taking on some cause and being opinionated but never replying to the replies they get because they are only interested in dictating to their followers.