to make an appointment with dds doctor about but not with her?

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Dd is 7. Though she looks pretty much fine (though with a protruding tummy) she is technically classed as 'very overweight.' She is extremely active - she does three dance classes and four other sporting activities each week and is otherwise always scooting or trampolining. She eats healthily with me, but her diet and exercise during contact with her father is appalling.

He sees her every other weekend plus one weeknight every other week for tea. She eats up to triple the recommended daily calories for her age each day there, and tea is always a massive take away. My mum has type 2 diabetes and is seriously ill with it, it is known to run in families. Everything dd eats with her father is sugar-laden and I'm terrified that these massive sugar binges are putting her at risk of developing type 2 diabetes too.

I'm no medical expert, though, so was thinking of making an appointment with dds doctor to discuss the matter but without her there as I need to mention she's overweight but don't want her to be conscious of it. However, my sister said it's unfair on dd to make an appointment behind her back and that the doctor won't advise without seeing her anyway. What do you think?

I have similar issue with Grandparents.
Constantly wanting to give DD cakes, chocolate, ice cream etc.
It does become annoying
dD is 50% currently weight and height but i can imagine i had given her all her GP wanted to then she would be much higher.
So i completely believe it could make a huge difference.
Eating stretches stomach so you are then hungrier.
1 biscuit a day 100 cal can add a stone a year so takeaways could make a huge difference to a child that likes food.
Should OP not be able to ever treat child herself as someone else is overfeeding?
But op height also matters you said Your DD was small
Have a look at the percentile charts surely they have these up to 7. If weight percentile is much higher than height...
My DN became very overweight and only has now grown out of it as a teenager by getting much taller. Of course a girl may not do that and what happens when they stop growing?
It is something i really dont like about iLs it does feel a bit like pushing an addiction at my DD.
And like im having to justify how i want to raise my own child
'Why cant she have this, that?'
Im worried about when she is old enough to stay over.
They used to give DN as a child a huge bottle of lucusaid
It ends up ruining the relationship.
I am also concerned about diabetes as i am at risk despite being thin.
Thin people can also have sugar problems

Fat just takes up more space..