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AIBU to be concerned about DS1?

61 replies

Rinoachicken · 22/05/2014 08:48

Hi all

I'm looking for a bit of perspective here as to wether I'm being over anxious over nothing, or not.

Ok here's what's been happening (DS1 is 4.5yo)

  • His weight is dropping. He has always been slim but since Feb we have been concerned he has lost a lot of weight. I've no idea what he weighed before this time, but I weighed him in March and he weighed 14.5kg (and was 103cm tall). To DH and I he seemed pale, dark rings round his eyes etc. We spoke to preschool and they did us a food diary of what he eats there for a while, which seemed fine, and we put him back on whole milk. He put on 1kg in a month and I was pleased things seemed to be moving in the right direction. But now a month later and he's back down at 14.7kg. All his trousers are on the tightest setting and still seem to be in danger of falling down all the time. There's nothing to him when you hug him. He can be fussy over food but I'd say he eats as well as most other kids his age and has a balanced diet of fresh fruit, veg, etc. drinks and toilet all normal. He always was between 25th and 50th centile for his weight/age. Now he's on 1st/2nd
  • tiredness. He sleeps 10-12hrs solidly a night but will still seem tired all day, lying on the floor or sofa etc. We bought him a new better mattress in case his old one was uncomfortable, it has improved the quality of his sleep but not resolved the tiredness.
  • over the last couple of weeks he's had maybe 4 small nosebleeds, one during the night.

MIL thinks I'm overreacting, because 'kids are meant to be thin, better than all these fat kids you see around these days' Hmm

So what do you think? WIBU to take him to the GP?

Sorry it's so long, didn't want to drip! Thanks for reading this far

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PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 22/05/2014 08:50

Definitely visit the GP ASAP. Better to be told it's nothing than not go and it be something.

Trooperslane · 22/05/2014 08:51

He might be a bit anaemic.

Wouldn't do any harm to get him checked over.

Hope he's better soon. The skinniness in itself wouldn't bother me but along with the lethargy I'd be feeling like you.

KatraAllandra · 22/05/2014 08:51

Have you taken him to your GP and discussed this? If this has been worrying you for a while I would. Better to get him checked over.

Rinoachicken · 22/05/2014 08:56

Right, thanks ladies. Going to go with my gut. I've called the GP now and they will call me this morning to discuss his symptoms (didn't want to talk about him in front of him and get him worried!) and then appointment.

Thank you!!

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BauerTime · 22/05/2014 09:10

I was also thinking anaemia when reading this. Hope all is ok OP, might be a good idea to ask for blood test to rule out anaemia.

Flexibilityiskey · 22/05/2014 09:15

I'm glad to see you are going to the GP. Thin is fine. Tired after decent sleep, and dropping centiles are not so good. I hope the GP is able to sort it for him soon.

Rinoachicken · 22/05/2014 09:54

GP wants me to take him in today, got an appointment at 11:30

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DeWee · 22/05/2014 10:12

Similar happened to dd1, although less obviously, at age 8yo.
Then she complained of a painful shoulder. She never complains, so it was a bit of a red flag.
Took her to the doctors and she had pneumonia. When they weighed her she was lighter over 2 years (the previous time she'd been weighed) ago.

Looking back I should have taken her to the GP a couple of weeks sooner, but she never complains and kept going, and I couldn't see anything concrete to say to the doctor so I didn't.

I think you're doing the right thing by taking him.

CauldronOfFrogsLegs · 22/05/2014 10:24

I think you are doing the right thing. Glad to hear to got an appointment. Good luck.

Rinoachicken · 22/05/2014 11:53

I'm really glad I took him. Lovely GP, has referred him to te paediatric team at the local hospital and ordered a full set of bloods also. Thank you everyone for your support x

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herecomesthesunlala · 22/05/2014 11:56

Fantastic, hope everything turns out well for you both x

Andro · 22/05/2014 12:27

Very good that your GP is on the ball, hopefully it will set your mind at rest.

Tangerinefairy · 22/05/2014 12:31

So glad you went to the gp and that you had a good consultation. Now at least you can relax a little knowing that you've got the ball rolling. Hope your Ds feels better soon.

TakeMeToTheBeach · 22/05/2014 12:50

Hope you get some answers soon. Sounds a bit like coeliac? You've definitely done the right thing by getting it checked out.

Rinoachicken · 22/05/2014 13:04

GP just called me back, he spoke to the hospital and they want me to take him in today! Shock

I'm really worried now

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DenzelWashington · 22/05/2014 13:07

Oh that's worrying for you. But don't panic, could be something has come up that is easy to resolve. I'm glad you've had such prompt action. I will be thinking of you today.

StarGazeyPond · 22/05/2014 13:09

Thinking of you Rino and hope all goes well.

fromparistoberlin73 · 22/05/2014 13:10

thinking of you aan sending strong positive vibes your way x keep us posted

TakeMeToTheBeach · 22/05/2014 13:11

That's good that he's being seen quickly - I think they're always more cautious with children. Best just to get to the bottom of things - much better than waiting weeks to be seen and worrying all that time.

Andro · 22/05/2014 13:11

With the extreme tiredness and the nosebleeds, the hospital probably want to rule out anything too serious - obviously worrying but it's better that they move fast.

Thinking of you and hoping for a positive visit.

deakymom · 22/05/2014 13:12

my son has this he also got stomach ache bad we worried but it turns out he has acid indigestion gaviscon sorted it out (we were all thinking cancer)

Barbie1 · 22/05/2014 13:14

The hospital might of had a late cancellation or something. I know you will be panicking right now. I'm wishing you all the best and your son is back to his normal self soon x

gotnotimeforthat · 22/05/2014 13:18

rhino I'm a little confused. Did you already go tithe hoosital today and have his blood taken? As are now being asked back? Or is this the first trip to the hospital?

If the latter then I would guess that they just want to get the tests out of the way to rule out anything potentially serious and I would try not to worry easier said than done i know

In any case best wishes and good luck. Please do keep us updated.

gatofeliz · 22/05/2014 13:20

Goodluck Rino, we had the same with Ds at a similar age but it went on for 7 months before the G.P finally referred him for blood tests and an xray.

Within hours of getting the results, Ds got the right treatment and finally started on the road to recovery.

Your G.P sounds great.

Rinoachicken · 22/05/2014 13:22

Hiya, this is the first visit to hospital.

I called GP this morning to describe symptoms and he asked me to bring DS1 in to the surgery. Did that at 11:30 and he said he was going to refer him for blood tests and to the paed team at the hospital to be seen 'sooner rather than later.

He then called me at home to say he's spoken to the hospital on the phone and they agreed that he should be seen at the hospital today, rather than waiting for the referral to come through. My GP has written a letter for the hospital that I have to collect on the way.

Sorry for the confusion!

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