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Original poster

to think no you cant take my picture without asking

64 replies

mrsbucketxx · 21/05/2014 16:59

If I didnt see this with my own eyes I wouldn't have beleived it.

A bit of back story for some reason I get unwanted male attention, comments car beeps that sort if thing. Im not Samantha brick just a lanky bird whos hard to miss.

Tonight im walking to my car and I hear a van lad leans out the window and shouts alright babe, as I look up he takes a photo on his phone. I feel really violated, he didn't ask just did it.

Im really fuming aib over the top to be offended. Is this a new thing.

What are your thoughts.

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StarGazeyPond · 21/05/2014 17:02

I feel really violated

Really?

RobinSparkles · 21/05/2014 17:04

That would really piss me off, TBH but I hate having my picture taken.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/05/2014 17:07

Legally if you were in a public place anyone can take your picture, no permission required.

However, he sounds like an arse.

springbabydays · 21/05/2014 17:07

I think if you're in a public place you're fair game.

springbabydays · 21/05/2014 17:07

I agree though, in this instance it's creepy. You could contact 101 and ask their advice?

HoneyDragon · 21/05/2014 17:08

They do that round here in the summer and then post on The Spotted page that they think your hawt/milf/gawj etc.

Thankfully, not an issue for myself Grin

tripecity · 21/05/2014 17:12

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Andrewofgg · 21/05/2014 17:26

One of those things which is nasty but not illegal.

TheScience · 21/05/2014 17:29

Unfortunately legally they can - but it does sound creepy/harrassing and I would feel violated too.

EverythingsDozy · 21/05/2014 17:32

I was at the football the other week and got my face on sky sports! I was mortified but there wasn't really anything I could do! Obviously I know it's a little different but what can you do about it now?
A few days later, someone showed me a video on YouTube from 1993 where my mum and dad walk by with me on my dad's shoulders Grin

eurochick · 21/05/2014 17:35

It would piss me off but it's completely legal.

kinsorange · 21/05/2014 17:42

I am going to be controversial here, and will get flamed. Hey ho.
But I will still be careful!
I know that it is spring and warm, but what do you wear? This can draw attention to yourself. Up to you of course.
But if you are lanky, and then wear say something short on top and short elsewhere, young lads, particularly in some areas, are going to look.
What time of day was it?
Do you think that he fancied you?
Maybe the taking photos like that is a new phenomen?

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 21/05/2014 18:01

It's not illegal to be photographed in a public place. Celebrities have been trying to get it stopped for years, without success. You can take whatever pictures you like in public, even ones with other people's kids in them!

DogCalledRudis · 21/05/2014 18:07

Depends. One thing if it is for artistic purposes, another if its for a lame joke, like women eating on tube.

MrsWinnibago · 21/05/2014 18:14

"a van lad"? Confused is that the same as a "White van man".

These are terms I've only ever heard on mumsnet. Yanbu by the way....but I do question what "Van lad" means and if it's the same dehumanizing term as "white van man"

Original poster
mrsbucketxx · 21/05/2014 18:27

Ok I was wearing a black knee length pencil skirt, a short sleeve blouse and heels. Kinda like kim kardasian

Id been at work so it wasnt risqué at all

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SirChenjin · 21/05/2014 18:29

Legally there is nothing to stop someone taking a photo of you in a public place without your permission.

Morally, of course, there is.

Original poster
mrsbucketxx · 21/05/2014 18:29

No probs with white van men, mst have sorted a problem in my home at some point, just pointing out that it happened to be a white van, and he was a lad a real man wouldn't have done this.

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neverthebride · 21/05/2014 18:31

YANB unreasonable to be pissed off but you weren't 'violated' and as previously posted, it's not illegal.

I agree if it was a named company van you could maybe tell head office or whatever that their employees are doing this?.

kinsorange · 21/05/2014 18:33

YANBU to be offended.
The law hasnt changed yet. If celebs cant get it changed, I dont think that it will be in a hurry
[though I suppose a lot of celebs want to be photographed publically sometimes]

SirChenjin · 21/05/2014 18:33

Actually, I disagree that she wasn't violated. One definition of violated is " To disturb rudely or improperly; interrup" - I can see exactly why the OP felt violated.

Original poster
mrsbucketxx · 21/05/2014 18:34

It was just plain white, no markings.

If there was I would report it.

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SirChenjin · 21/05/2014 18:34

interrupt

partialderivative · 21/05/2014 18:39

to think that you can't take my picture without asking

As you have probably realised from the responses above...'well, actually yes you can take my pic without asking'

It might be unpleasant (esp. for celebs) but how on earth would you enforce the alternative?

HolidayCriminal · 21/05/2014 18:45

You don't own your image, that isn't how it works. I wouldn't like it either, but I don't agree with right to ban or report it.

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