to think no you cant take my picture without asking

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If I didnt see this with my own eyes I wouldn't have beleived it.

A bit of back story for some reason I get unwanted male attention, comments car beeps that sort if thing. Im not Samantha brick just a lanky bird whos hard to miss.

Tonight im walking to my car and I hear a van lad leans out the window and shouts alright babe, as I look up he takes a photo on his phone. I feel really violated, he didn't ask just did it.

Im really fuming aib over the top to be offended. Is this a new thing.

What are your thoughts.

You are not unreasonable - look up the everyday sexism project for loss of examples of this & a campaign to make people realise this is not OK and should be challenged.

KeepOn... You also have the right to not feel violated and to feel flattered but the men in your scenario were 'pissed'. Does that really make you feel good?

I have actually been violated and I know how that feels.

It's as if I said, "I've been beaten with a tire iron before so I don't think being punched is really a big deal."

I am sorry for what you've been through keepon. I object to your bringing it up here to minimise what happened to the OP.

Yanbu..poor you. Some men are pathetic and sad. Of course you would have felt violated, he probably has numerous random pics of women on his phone. .what an immature prick. Please dont spend time feeling like this, its not worth wasting your time over this idiots actions. Every day women are put into situations like this, and are left feeling as you do. Iv been there myself so I totally get what you're saying..what an idiot. Sigh.

matilda I am not trying to minimise what the OP has been through! I clearly stated it is subjective - like 3 times. You are clearly nit picking my posts. I was p

I was discussing the issue and sharing my experience of it, explaining for me I did not find it that objective but having been violated myself - I do empathise with the OP. Ease re read my post and please do not accuse me of me being insensitive to such a subject! People are allowed i share their own experiences and veiws, mine don't happen to mirror the ops exactly, but I am still showing support. Now how about you go nit pick another post? One that clearly objects the ops feeling of violation? I you feel so strongly this is your crusade ...

lying on that particular night out I was flattered for the attention. If I were to go out tonight would I be? Who knows! Depends in the context. I think a few of you are getting on your high horses here. I am allowed to feel how i feel about my experience- many would have laughed it off and felt the same too. Many would not.

I hve the mental capacity to be open minded to both stances :)

Yanbu.

I thought there was some privacy law for that. Maybe I'm wrong...

Just wondering if all the posters who would feel violated have photos of themselves in the public domain, ie Facebook - even on friends only settings.

There can't be a privacy law for it- impossible to enforce. I wouldn't like it. It must be a dreadful thing about being a celebrity - you can't risk popping into the supermarket looking scruffy.

It's not about the photo so much as it's an extension of 'normalised' sexual harassment

It's not illegal, nothing you can do...but that doesn't mean we should all minimise it in any way. The lad is an inadequate specimen.

Pax the people who I have on facebook know me theres none that I dont speak to.

Plus all the photos on there I have approved or taken myself,

This IS not the same, way more sinister.

I am often at the number of people who take random photos of other people on the train and then post it with a critical commet on Twitter.

It's not right, is it? Not sure there is a lot you can do though.