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To please, please ask for your positive stories of people getting well having been on HDU/ intensive care

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grobagsforever · 18/05/2014 12:30

DP was admitted last week and moved to HDU last night. They don't know what's wrong. He has fluid on belly, some kind of infection and impiared liver function. There is talk of moving him ti ICU. We seem to be waiting on endless tests. He is 35 we have a three year old and I am 7 months pregnant. I need him . Please tell me your positive stories of recovery from these situations.

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LuluJakey1 · 22/05/2014 00:04

Oh, I am so sorry to hear about your DH. Will be hoping for the very best outcome for him and an amazing recovery. I hope you have family around who are able to help.

Congratulations on getting married. Thanks

My cousin had a huge tumour and very aggressive breast cancer and has been cancer free for 3 years now. There are miracles.

Thinking of you both.

Thumbwitch · 22/05/2014 00:48

So very sorry to hear about the diagnosis :(
Congratulations on your marriage Thanks
I hope that they can treat him successfully xx

DrFunkesFamilyBandSolution · 22/05/2014 06:15

So sorry to hear his diagnosis. Fingers crossed he stabilises soon & can start treatment asap.

Congratulations on being Mrs.Grobags, x

Bunbaker · 22/05/2014 06:43

Oh no. So sorry to hear the diagnosis. I hope the treatment is successful, and congratulations on your marriage Flowers

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grobagsforever · 22/05/2014 06:57

Thanks all. Just bumping in case others have cancer survival stories. I will be on ICU all day making sure DH gets as much rest as possible.

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daisychain01 · 22/05/2014 07:13

My DP had metastatic melanoma 2 years ago last week.

He got through an 8 hr operation, in ICU then eventually recuperated at home. He has fully recovered and looking healthier than ever.

Thinking of you and your DH, it is lovely you got married.

londonrach · 22/05/2014 07:20

Congratulations on getting married. Thanks holding your hand re dh. I see patients daily who told they wouldn't survive and they still here x number of years. Hoping that dh is one of those xxx

Itsfab · 22/05/2014 07:54

I have been thinking of you and are so happy to hear your wonderful news of your marriage Flowers. I am sure it was a lovely but hard day. I would love to send a card if you would like one.

So sorry to hear the news was not as you hoped but he is in the best place and I hope that he responds to treatment.

Cancer survivor story - my friend had breast cancer in her 20's when she had 2 children under two. They are both at secondary school now and she is with us still.

Will be thinking of you.

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grobagsforever · 22/05/2014 08:18

Thanks everyone.

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Mama1980 · 22/05/2014 08:22

I'm so sorry to hear the diagnosis. Am here along with all these other ladies for hand holding and support.
Congratulations on your marriage.
As far as cancer survival stories go, a friend of mine was diagnosed at 29 with aggressive breast cancer, it was a long flight but she's been in remission for 2 years now and runs marathons.
I am thinking of you x

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 22/05/2014 09:25

My friend had aggressive cancer at 25. She is cancer free 13 years later. The best of luck to you both

isabellavine · 22/05/2014 09:40

There are not enough Thanks in the world for you, OP. Hang in there.

AndHarry · 22/05/2014 09:41

Congratulations on your marriage Thanks

I hope you get more information today.

AndHarry · 22/05/2014 09:44

On a practical note, do you have enough support from family and friends? I know you didn't tell his parents at first - do people know that you need help? Can we do anything to get food for you or bring anything else you need?

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grobagsforever · 22/05/2014 12:41

Thanks all, I have good support. Just met DH oncologist who was a cow. Very negative and arrogant. Not what we needed, going to get her changed. Prognosis is very bleak. Any personal accounts or links to against the odds survival stories are so welcome.

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Thumbwitch · 22/05/2014 12:54

Oh I'm so sorry that she was unpleasant to deal with! Do they know what type of cancer your DH has yet?

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 22/05/2014 12:57

Congrats of your marriage.

Thinking of you and DH Thanks

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grobagsforever · 22/05/2014 12:58

No not yet. When we do she will be replaced.

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Overtiredbackagain · 22/05/2014 13:05

Can't offer practical advice but hand holding x

notaflamingclue · 22/05/2014 13:07

grobags I'm so sorry for you and your DH and I hope that things start to look up for you all.

It amazes me that HCPs who work with the most vulnerable patients and relatives can be the most unsympathetic sociopaths. Get the bitch changed and remember - nothing matters except your DH, you and your children.

Thanks Thanks Thanks

extrasleepneeded · 22/05/2014 14:17

hope hes on the mend very soon

AndHarry · 22/05/2014 14:39

Sorry she was awful.

SallyMcgally · 22/05/2014 15:00

Congratulations on your wedding Thanks
So sorry to hear your husband's diagnosis, and that the consultant was a cow. People who are horrible make the fear so much worse.
Forty years ago, when survival rates for breast cancer were very poor, a friend of my mother's was diagnosed, and I remember my (doctor) mother being certain that her friend wouldn't survive. Today her friend is a fit and happy grandmother. Another friend diagnosed with cancer that had spread twenty years ago is now cancer free and doing well.
Thinking of you. xxxxx

ButchCassidy · 22/05/2014 15:09

Congratulations on getting married. I'm so very sorry for the diagnosis. Although I have no practical advice or words of wisdom I'm here hand holding from a distance Thanks

grayling57 · 22/05/2014 15:25

Congratulations on your wedding.

My cancer didn't adequately respond to the initial six months of chemotherapy and radiotherapy. This is not associated with a good prognosis. I had a high dose chemotherapy and a stem cell transplant "to prolong my remission", and got some viral infections and pneumonia while I was there. I looked it up afterwards and the prognosis in that situation was not good either.

That was almost twelve years ago. I'm doing great. :)

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