To please, please ask for your positive stories of people getting well having been on HDU/ intensive care

[grobagsforever]

DP was admitted last week and moved to HDU last night. They don't know what's wrong. He has fluid on belly, some kind of infection and impiared liver function. There is talk of moving him ti ICU. We seem to be waiting on endless tests. He is 35 we have a three year old and I am 7 months pregnant. I need him . Please tell me your positive stories of recovery from these situations.

I think its time you sought professional help if you are having more suicidal thoughts.

Ask one of the nurses to arrange an urgent consult with a psychiatrist.
They have been so helpful and kind so far I am sure they can arrange it.

You need to speak to the Samaritans.

None of us are qualified to help you with suicidal thoughts, and this is the second time in a week that you have mentioned them.

Please call them on 08457 909090

Good idea secret but I a bit concerned that this has gone beyond The Samaritans IYSWIM and as the OP is staying at the hospital she could get direct face to face help as a matter of urgency.

It's fine, I wouldn't do it whilst pregnant. I doubt I'd have the courage anyway. I'll just accept an utterly miserable life of grief.

There is a third option, Gro.

It's not a choice between death or grief. There's also the really great option of asking for help.

That's the one I'd go for.

Go on.

Go. ON.

Do you have concerns about what would happen if you told the staff about how you are feeling? Goannie put them on here? I'm sure the MNMind could help dissect it so you can figure out what best to do next.

Do you mean you will wait til you have had the baby?
This is very concerning OP.
I really do think you need to ask for help now.

I don't have to do anything.

Please gro bags phone a friend in Rl. So many people dare for you and you have almost two children and dh that love you. I care about you as foes everyone on mn. 22 pages shows we are all there with you holding your hand. Read the positive stories. Doctors get it wrong (no fault of their own). I work within in the nhs and see a lot of patients of the older she range and I can ensure you if the unthinkable happens life goes go on. If in hospital please ask a nurse, tell them you struggling and support! Please for your children and your dh. Xxxxxxxxx

Care not dare

No you DO have to do something. You have responsibilities to people in RL and actually to the many sweet people (I am not describing myself) who have given of their time and painful experience to help you at this time. You are consistently describing very distressing thoughts. There are people, professional people who will support you. Let them do their job.

Samaritans

Its the advice anyone who expressed suicidal thoughts regularly on MN would get gro
Regardless of circumstances.
It is because people care and are concerned for your welfare and that of your children.

Does not foes. Sorry Grobags for my silly tablet correction. Please please tell someone. If not keep posting someone will be here for you! You matter so much!

Of course you don't HAVE to do anything.

But, you'll feel a lot better if you choose to speak to someone. Promise.

Gro Take each day hour by hour. Keep putting one foot in front of each other and know without any doubt whatsoever that the grief you feel will pass. Your children need you and will comfort you.

It should be relatively simple to arrange an emergency psych appointment.
As the parent of a terminally ill child I was able to access MH services from the ward.

As you can imagine it was fairly common for parents to need extra help.

You absolutely do need help and you owe it to your dc to get it.

No you don't have to do anything, but if you actually want help you must ask for it.
MH services are not psychic and they do not know that you need help without being approached.
Please speak to someone.

Grobags please do contact someone. Unfortunately the ward nurses won't be able to arrange anything for you as you are not their patient. I would be phone your GP practice first thing and asking for an emergency appointment or to speak to the duty doctor.

Are you getting any sleep? Are you eating? Do you have relatives close by.?

Oh Gro I'm so sorry.

Don't think about ending your life, your DH is still here. So is DD and so is that baby.

DD can't risk losing two parents :(

You have been very strong so far, and I know you can find it in you to keep on going. It's what women do best - we cope. And I know with all my heart you (and the combined strength and love of MN) can go on.

Hour by hour. that's all it takes.

How is DH doing today? Did you see DD last night?