To think that if your feet are small enough to wear these shoes you are too young for high heels?

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I saw these shoes in a branch of Monsoon today. I see plenty of things for little girls which make me roll my eyes but these actually made me stop and stare and then a few minutes later go back into the shop to talk to someone.

The heel on these is a good inch high. My DD is 3 and her feet are size 9. The ones I saw were in a size 7 which I think DD last had when she was 2. She’s not particularly enormous for her age so I think these shoes are definitely for 2 – 3 year olds. I don’t know what size they go down to. AIBU to think that a 2 or 3 year old shouldn’t be walking around in high heels? This isn’t wearing your mum’s high heels this is ‘these are your new shoes’.

And yy I know ‘you don’t need to buy them if you don’t want to’ and I won’t buy them. But I care about the little girls who they are bought for. I don’t think any little girl should be put into shoes like this. Frankly I’d be worried DD would twist an ankle in heels this high. She certainly wouldn’t be able to run or play. And I’m sad that these are on sale for little girls. Not in some weird online place but in a high street shop.

I’m going to complain to Monsoon. I would have liked to have given them the feedback instore today but the sales assistant shrugged and said ‘I’m just a sales assistant’ and the manager was ‘too busy’ to talk to –annoying people who think girls should be allowed to be children-- me.

But you said, 'you don't want girls to get the message that prettiness is more important than comfort'

Therefore you must think that women should always wear comfortable shoes.

So you must think that The bride is wrong to wear pretty shoes.

This thread is weird.

I'm with you, OP.

I would not put either of my dds in those shoes even now, and they are considerably older than 3.

I hate the thought of little girls being trained (for want of a better word) into thinking it's right that they can't walk/run comfortably or safely. That looking pretty, and oyur outfit shoudl take precedence over what you might want to do all day - so many posters saying 'oh, but they'll all take their shoes off to enjoy the evening anyway' - err, not if they have comfortbale shoes they won't

and no, ballet flats are no better, but then, that's not the point is it? the choice is not between heels or ballet flats (or shouldn't be).

Try looking at pix of school shoes from 1950s/60s/70s. You might be surprised by the heel heights for both sexes.

My dad got married in 3 inch cuban heels.

I'm not avoiding your question - I thought it was rhetorical.

I wanted her to say 'Oh right, yes I'll feed that back'. Because I expect this kind of shit from some places but I think Monsoon is very middle of the road and I think these heels are too high for little little girls.

My DD is almost 5, I try and teach her that it ok to be you.

I don't wear heels often, only to parties.

If DD wants heels to go to a party I would get her some, but also pack a pair of sensible shoes

While I do see the point that perhaps women are putting themselves at a disadvantage by their choice of shoes, eg not able to run in them etc, I also see the counter argument that women have far more choice over what to wear to a wedding than men, who have to conform to a much more rigid dress code. So, not all bad.

www.scpod.org/easysiteweb/getresource.axd?assetid=3516&type=0&servicetype=1

The Society of Chiropodists and Podiatrists advice. It specifically mentions heel height of no more than 4cm and that fashion shoes are fine once in a while.

Agree with pp that ballet flats equal severs disease if worn too often.

I'm with you OP. It's part of the constant drip, drip, drip message giving a grim message to our children about what society values and it's not gender equality, that's for sure.

I really don't give a fuck what the bride at this non-existent, hypothetical, made up wedding wears. Either on her feet or elsewhere. Sorry to disappoint.

You've never worked in retail have you?

Store managers have very little contact with head office. They will deal with a regional manager. If the manager passes this on it will just get shrugged off. If you write a letter then they will take notice.

I agree that those heels are high for a little girl, but not for just one day. I know some children who get sent to school in shoes like this!

Well send a strongly worded letter of complaint to the CEO of Monsoon if it really offends you?

3 year olds are capable of choosing own shoes

4 year old DS knows exactly what he wants when it comes to footwear. He was very put out by the suggestions made my the lady in clarks last week when they didn't have the one pair of doodles that he approved of in his size!

You think those heels are too high for little girls to wear to be a bridesmaid for one day on a special occasion, but as you can see from this thread, most of us disagree. They aren't that high. Bridesmaid dresses aren't all that practical either, but we accept (on the whole) that being a bridesmaid is one of those 'impractical clothing' occasions.

(mid-30s and a size 2 here)

Thanks Alarmonsnooze and Lilithmoon :) I knew there were more of us :)

I'd be even more concerned about the pointy toes than the little bit of heel. The heel probably isn't a lot higher than that in a pair of trainers for a slightly older child (not a 3 yo, which is supposed to be the minimum age), but the shape of the shoe is terrible for any young feet.

No pipbin, I have never worked in retail :) Thank you for your advice.

Mary, I just don't get why they need a heel, or pointy toes. And no-one has really addressed that...

I think they're a bit grim too, OP. My DD's first shoes at 15 months were a size 4 so a size 7 could easily be for a 3 year old.

I'm sure it's not the most evil crime in the world, but why would you put a preschooler in heels? I think young kids look nicer in pumps.

In fact I still get a bit catsbumface when I go into Clarks and see a slight heel on school shoes and DD is 8 now .

Christ almighty my 14 year old doesn't wear heels. No way would I allow a child to wear those.

Blimey, are brdiesmaids supposed to put up with impractical uncomfortable clothes too?

clearly I was a shit bride, as my bridesmaids chose their own dress style (oddly, they all chose something very similar to the tpye they wore everyday - cotton party dress/simple A line style) and their own shoes (although I think there was input from their mothers on this one, as they had lovely comfy sandals )

I also didn't wear uncomfy shoes, fwiw. I do recall it being very hard to find comfortable bride's shoes though (spent more time searching for those than choosing my dress!)

unruly as you well know they don't need them. You don't like them, and that's fair enough. But many people have pointed out that they won't do any harm for occasional wear, the child might like them and our lives are not (thankfully) bounded by our needs.

I agree with Alarm, and you OP