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To think that if your feet are small enough to wear these shoes you are too young for high heels?

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unrulysun · 12/05/2014 21:10

I saw these shoes in a branch of Monsoon today. I see plenty of things for little girls which make me roll my eyes but these actually made me stop and stare and then a few minutes later go back into the shop to talk to someone.

The heel on these is a good inch high. My DD is 3 and her feet are size 9. The ones I saw were in a size 7 which I think DD last had when she was 2. She’s not particularly enormous for her age so I think these shoes are definitely for 2 – 3 year olds. I don’t know what size they go down to. AIBU to think that a 2 or 3 year old shouldn’t be walking around in high heels? This isn’t wearing your mum’s high heels this is ‘these are your new shoes’. Sad

And yy I know ‘you don’t need to buy them if you don’t want to’ and I won’t buy them. But I care about the little girls who they are bought for. I don’t think any little girl should be put into shoes like this. Frankly I’d be worried DD would twist an ankle in heels this high. She certainly wouldn’t be able to run or play. And I’m sad that these are on sale for little girls. Not in some weird online place but in a high street shop.

I’m going to complain to Monsoon. I would have liked to have given them the feedback instore today but the sales assistant shrugged and said ‘I’m just a sales assistant’ and the manager was ‘too busy’ to talk to –annoying people who think girls should be allowed to be children-- me.

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EatShitDerek · 12/05/2014 21:12

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usuallysuspect · 12/05/2014 21:13

They look like 'one off' bridesmaid shoes to me.

I think you need to chill really.

WooWooOwl · 12/05/2014 21:13

They are marketed as bridal, so they are clearly intended for a special occasion. Children probably wouldn't be able to play or run that much in the dress that would go with them anyway.

ilovepowerhoop · 12/05/2014 21:14

they are occasion shoes e.g. for a wedding/other special occasion so it wouldnt bother me really.

Lulu1083 · 12/05/2014 21:14

Yab a bit u. I don't know if you're daughter has large feet or mine has small feet but my 5 year old is a size 10. I would let her have these as very special party/wedding shoes, not 'wear to the shops' shoes. It also says not suitable for under 36 months so they're specifically not meant for a 2 year old

SaucyJack · 12/05/2014 21:15

They're bridesmaids' shoes that are labelled as not suitable for under 36 months. Hardly everyday wear. I can't get a froth on, sorry.

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unrulysun · 12/05/2014 21:16

No, because a child of 2 or 3 likes to sit quietly at special events as everyone knows. And not being able to play in the dress that goes with it makes it all fine...

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Edenviolet · 12/05/2014 21:17

My dd2 has some sparkly pink shoes with heels from h and m as dress up shoes, she can't walk in them so sits on the chair admiring her feet!

CoffeeTea103 · 12/05/2014 21:17

What a ridiculously long post over something even more ridiculous. Confused

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unrulysun · 12/05/2014 21:18

DD is at 50% percentile for just about everything so it's definitely not a problem with her extraordinarily large feet. :)

Can't believe people think it's OK for little little girls to wear a one inch heel. Fuck me. What the fuck happened to children being children?

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freezation · 12/05/2014 21:18

They do say not suitable for children under 36 months. But I agree they are impractical for 3 year olds. Not sure I'd complain though. I can think of many things to get cross about and put my energy into but I don't think a pair of Monsoon shoes is one of those things.

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Picturesinthefirelight · 12/05/2014 21:18

It says not suitable for children under 3

I know at the age of 5 dd was a size 6 shoe. Think she was a size 9 at around the age of 8. She was wearing shoes with a similar heel in her dance classes (character shoes)

Fine as a one off wedding type shoe.

She's now age 12.5 & a size 1.5.

usuallysuspect · 12/05/2014 21:18

They are not meant for everyday wear.

I'm sure my DDs would have been able to do the Macarena at a wedding Do in those shoes.

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unrulysun · 12/05/2014 21:19

I think 'she can't walk in them' might kind of be my point...

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onedogatoddlerandababy · 12/05/2014 21:20

It also specifically states as unsuitable for under 36 months. I think my dd would probably be ok in those walking down an aisle as a flower girl for an hour before we changed them for better running around in shoes.

From reading your OP I thought they were everyday shoes. They really are not being sold as that.

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unrulysun · 12/05/2014 21:20

Woowoo Owl said 'They are marketed as bridal, so they are clearly intended for a special occasion. Children probably wouldn't be able to play or run that much in the dress that would go with them anyway.' That was the point of my post about the dress...

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usuallysuspect · 12/05/2014 21:20

They can still be children in fancy shoes.

CocktailQueen · 12/05/2014 21:21

Says on the monsoon website 'these shoes are not intended for children under the age of 36 months' and I agree. Yanbu!

hoobypickypicky · 12/05/2014 21:21

YABU.

In fact, YABU and irrational. You actually went back into the shop to complain about an item of merchandise because you don't like or approve of it? Wow! If all the vegetarians in the country did that you'd wait a hell of a long time to get served with your pork chops. No wonder the manger was too busy to talk to you!

Have a proper look st the words which go with the pictures. "Special occasion" shoes, clearly bridesmaid type. I.E. not likely to be worn on a daily basis. Not the sort of thing you'd put a child in to go to the park so not likely to have any effect on being able to run and play and "not suitable for children under 36 months".

Would I put my daughter in them? No, I don't particularly like to see little girls in heels either. Would I go into a shop to complain that some people might want to buy their daughter a pair of satin white shoes to wear for a special occasion? Do I think it's worth making an issue of?

Um, no!

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unrulysun · 12/05/2014 21:21

If they're not suitable for an under 3 that means they are suitable for a three yo. BUT THEY'RE NOT ARE THEY?

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WooWooOwl · 12/05/2014 21:21

How does a shoe with a slight heel worn by a child bridesmaid stop children being children?

Shoes like that have probably played a small part in some people's very special childhood memories.

I don't think anyone saying it would be ok to send a three year old off to pre school every day in shoes like that, but if they're just going to be worn for a wedding ceremony and some pictures and maybe a couple of hours on top of that, I really can't see the issue.

ThePinkOcelot · 12/05/2014 21:22

Before I clicked on the link, I thought I was going to see red, sparkled stiletto heels. I think YABU. They look like bridesmaid shoes to me.

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unrulysun · 12/05/2014 21:22

They can't be children (running, playing children) in shoes they can't walk in though can they?

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Jojay · 12/05/2014 21:23

As a rule I can't stand high heels on little girls but these really aren't very high.

They're aimed at older children than toddlers I think. All my children had much smaller feet than your dd at the same age. Ds2 is 5 1/2 and is a size 9.