NC for this and in no way a stealth boast.
AIBU to be sick of hearing this about myself.
Met DPs family for the first time. We went for dinner and I was polite, we had an interesting discussion about the elections, I talked to his mum about books, we had a good time. I sent a nice text the next day thanking them for paying for the meal.
DP spoke to them today. I asked him if they had a good time "yes they enjoyed it, they said how pretty you are". Um ok...anything else "no just that your pretty oh and my DM thinks your very slim"
Which is lovely. Unless your bored of bring pretty or having a nice figure. And yes I TOTALLY know how this reads (like I'm a conceited bitch). But I've heard this for years and just once it would be nice to be funny or clever or kind or interesting and not yes she's got good genes.
AIBU and should shut up or not? DP doesn't see the problem "but you are pretty" was his reply.
AIBU?
Oooooo she's very pretty - fuck off
Putthenerfdown · 12/05/2014 11:19
I think you're overthinking it a bit. It doesn't mean they didn't notice anyhing else about you; it's a non-offensive (in most people's eyes) compliment about someone they don't know very well yet.
I do think too much importance and dialogue is placed on women's looks, but like other posters have said, I can imagine similar feedback being given about a woman's new male partner. In fact, my mum's first impression of one of my exes was 'he's VERY good-looking', even though he was also clearly very intelligent and articulate. (Interestingly though, there was a hint of an unspoken 'watch out', when she said it!)
My MIL, after meeting me for the first time, opined that I was 'bolshy'. I think she meant 'loud, confident and opinionated' and she was absolutely right. I took it as a compliment 
We have become great friends over the years.
Waves at Sianilaa. I can't believe your MIL said that!
No there's no irony in noticing that when the DC are complimented by other people DS is complimented on achievements and DDs on looks.
Not quite the same thing, but I remember feeling bloody indignant as a 15/16 yo when I was at a family occasion and comparing the questions asked of me by elderly relatives compared to the questions asked of my male cousin who was the same age.
To him: What do you want to do when you leave school?
To me: Are you courting yet? 
Verity Thanks for apology.
ForForksSake I was being fairly facetious. However I think this is all quite interesting. The OP sounds to be uncommonly attractive and is angry that people focus on this as opposed to other things about her. Now, she can't possibly hope to change the world singlehandedly, and people have been fascinated and attracted to beauty for centuries (Helen of Troy 'The Face That Launched A Thousand Ships'?) and I don't see that ever changing.
There will be people out there who revel in their attractiveness and take pleasure in enhancing their beauty further through make up and their choice of clothes and hairstyle. If this all pisses off the OP so much then why not ditch all the extraneous stuff in order to discover if people actually then recognise her other qualities, instead of being unable to see past her face. It could be an experiment 
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only Oh I see. My dd is 5.
I don't see her playing nicely that much
Know what you mean now!
I wonder how some people manage to get out of bed in the morning without advice from mumsnet.
OP what do you expect them to say? Really? All their comment means is that you seem nice enough to look at... but they don't really know you very well so what else can they say? Maybe they don't even have that much interest in you.
MIL always goes on about me being clever but that my weight 'goes up and down.' 
"just once it would be nice to be funny or clever or kind or interesting"
Maybe you're just mean, boring and thick?
I'm joking of course, and I agree with the point that you should be judged on more than just your looks. I can see how it might get annoying after a while (and I say that as an ugly person.)
It could be worse though, I am often described as "bubbly" which we all know is just a code word for "very fat."
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OP, it gets equally boring when people only compliment you on your planet-sized brain...
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