To have said 'In a rush to wash that greasy hair eyy?'

[jessiaubrey]

Was in sainsburys today walking in between the barriers to get to the self-checkouts and tripped up on something someone had abandoned under where all the chocolate and sweets are. Then this woman walked past me and said 'excuse me hurry up this is an express lane don't you know' and I just blurted it out it was greasy though

Now fair enough that your in a rush but the space I between the bloody things could fit a rhino and the security guard told me she wasn't even actually behind me, she was to the right so it's not as if she actually had to stop!

AIBU?

I think it's funny

YABU, what a horrible thing to say.

Yes she was rude, you could have responded a number of different ways but you chose a personal insult, intended to upset and hurt this woman in a very specific way. No different to calling her fat/ugly/stupid or whatever.

Why not just say, "I'll take as long as I need to!" And ignore her?

Totally unpleasant and unnecessary.

When I had depression I rarely washed my hair and when I could bring myself to go to the supermarket I just wanted to get home as fast as I could.

I really hope that you're bored and invented this sorry tale for kicks, because if you had said that to me when I was really really down, it would have crushed me.

You sound either silly or stupidly nasty.

So she didn't offer to help you up or see you were ok before telling you to hurry up?

I'm with Mintyy, be as rude as you like, she was horrible to you.

What a bitch.

Well done you someone was a little bit rude to you (and I don't think it was that bad) so you reciprocated by being nasty and rude back and commented on her appearance. You could have said she was rude and actually commented on something relevant but you chose to be personal. Brilliant, how delightful you are.

I'm NOT with Mintyy or Laurie above, I know who I'd consider the bitch in this situation.

You sound deeply unpleasant tbh.

I just cannot envisage that scenario from your description. Between the barriers? Tripping? Her behind and to the right? I have the most confusing mental image ever.

You were probably U to have said it, but who of us hasn't had an uncharitable thought about someone who has wronged us in some way. OP did you start this thread because you are feeling a bit guilty?

OP hasn't mentioned the lead up to this though. sounds like a very odd thing for the lady to randomly come out with. My guess is that the OP had caused big delays prior to this. doesn't excuse it but would make more sense

What is so depressing about this thread is that as usual, the greatest, "cleverest" retort one woman can give another pertains to their appearance. You could have handled it so much better and more intelligently. You do women a disservice.

You were totally unreasonable to be so personal and nasty.

What a nasty piece of work you are, OP... I wouldn't defend her comment either, but that was just a breathtakingly horrible thing to say to anyone, regardless of the circumstances. You should be utterly ashamed of yourself.

Thinking an uncharitable thought is one thing, I dare say we all do it often. Actually articulating those thoughts to a stranger is quite another and most of us wouldn't dream of doing that.

I still think the OP came on here to brag about how clever she thought she was being when actually, she was just being nasty.

YANBU - if someone is prepared to be rude to a perfect stranger who has just tripped up, then they have to accept the 50:50 chance that the target will be equally rude back.

She was rude, jessiaubrey, but you were nasty, vicious and personal.

It''a not "equally rude" though, is it?

I think she asked for it. Obviously, in an ideal world, OP would have counted to ten and said nothing. But we're all human and maybe that lady will think twice before she's so unpleasant again.

I think it's sad that every one can't just be a tad kinder. .. That goes to you OP & the lady

You would have kept the moral high ground if you'd simply said "no need to be so rude, can't you see I nearly fell?" and made her look/feel bad without making personal comments about her appearance. Much more satisfying. I can understand the impulse to retaliate but it's her behaviour not her appearance that you should have focused on.

The most unpleasant behaviour I have seen on here is from the poster who told the OP that she is a 'nasty piece of work'. I find that pretty disgusting and objectionable and that poster should be ashamed of themselves.

It's all a bit unpleasant.

I think she deserved it. Rudeness breeds rudeness.

"It's all a bit unpleasant"

True, but there's a certain irony in posters making personally insulting comments in order to berate the OP for making a personally insulting remark to the rude woman. Some of the posts on here are pretty nasty and the posters should probably take a look at their own behaviour before castigating anyone else.

It would have been a 'human' response to tell her to "Eff off" or similar. To look her up and down and pick out a physical aspect to have a go at her about isn't a knee jerk response.

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