To have said 'In a rush to wash that greasy hair eyy?'

[jessiaubrey]

Was in sainsburys today walking in between the barriers to get to the self-checkouts and tripped up on something someone had abandoned under where all the chocolate and sweets are. Then this woman walked past me and said 'excuse me hurry up this is an express lane don't you know' and I just blurted it out it was greasy though

Now fair enough that your in a rush but the space I between the bloody things could fit a rhino and the security guard told me she wasn't even actually behind me, she was to the right so it's not as if she actually had to stop!

AIBU?

You were really rude, but there's a little bit of me that is grinning at the come back to her comment which was also rude.

I'm going to throw you a Ben and ask if you reacted because you were embarrassed and flustered after you tripped?

Otherwise, alas you weren't being big or clever as DM would say.

How did the security guard get involved?

Why is the OP getting such a hard time? This woman was unnecessarily rude to her after she'd tripped up.

If your rude to other people then you have to expect it back.

A Ben?? A bone!!!

Damn you autocorrect.

How petty are you? I don't think asking you to hurry up in the express lane warrants a personal attack. It was totally uncalled for and down right rude!

But surely it's rude to tell someone else to "hurry up"

If someone was rude to me after I tripped up I'd be rude back. The OP could have hurt herself.

Telling someone to 'hurry up' is worlds apart from pointing out a personal flaw, someone might feel quite embarrassed to have tripped up but pointing out a personal flaw like that will last with someone all day, completely change their day and if they have actually washed their hair that morning might create real issues. My hair probably often looks greasy and unbrushed, I have young children and frankly looking 'great' all the time is far down my list of priorities.

I would still be mortified if someone was so personal and rude to me though.

As so often happens on threads like this, I disagree with almost everyone else, and don't think you were particularly unreasonable. She was incredibly rude to you, I don't blame you for hitting back.

Stop the press, it's greasy hair!

Did you trip close to the glue aisle? Or had you been drinking?

Eloquent OP, very eloquent.

It's a very weird and unhinged thing to say to a stranger.

Yes, what's an 'eyy'?

I'm with you minty.

In these circumstances, I prefer passive aggression so I wouldn't have said anything. Instead, if have proceeded at a snail's pace.

Whilst it was a rude personal comment, quite frankly anyone rude enough to push past someone and tell them to hurry up is asking for someone to be rude back.

She was probably assuming you would be too shocked to reply, and is probably like this to other people as she's been allowed to get away with it. Maybe now she'll think twice. (Or wash her hair first).

And greasy hair is something she can sort out - it's not like the OP said she was fat or ugly. Being told you have greasy hair won't distress you for life - especially if you're the sort of person who is comfortable being that rude to others in the first place.

KirstyJC

Wow, can you read minds of other people too?!

Yup! T'is very handy.

Well I think if you dish it out you should be prepared to take it. That woman sounded like a rude bully and the OP probably knocked her off her perch.

What if she finds it hard to not have greasy hair? I think I would have to spend a considerable amount of money for my hair to look half decent and I just don't have it.

FWIW I would have said something back to her but it would have been relevant to the incident, not randomly about hair (which just seems so bizarre)

This isn't an AIBU, you must know you shouldn't insult people.
The other woman was rude too, she didn't actually insult you though,but even so you really shouldn't have to ask. If you are genuinely unsure I think you need to shop online more.

What if she finds it hard to not have greasy hair? I think I would have to spend a considerable amount of money for my hair to look half decent and I just don't have it.

And what if the OP finds it hard not to trip up? I have some balance issues which cause me to trip quite a lot and if someone watched me trip and then told me to hurry up it would affect me.

Noarmani

Do you believe your argument below?

I think if the woman is the sort of person who says hurry up to someone who's just tripped up, she deserves to spend the rest of her day feeling crap about her hair.
Couldn't care less how she was left feeling, as I'm sure the op couldn't either.
I'd be too scared of getting a slap to actually say it, though; me speaking my mind always backfires .

I'm surprised she didn't respond, with something nastier. Did she hear you?

Noarmani Do you believe your argument below?

I don't just believe it in an abstract sense, I know it to be the case because I have had rude comments in the past for tripping up and they do affect me. I don't see why it's proving so hard for you to empathise and see that.

I don't think it was that bad in fact I applaud you for your quick thinking, most people would say nothing at all. It does sound like the sort of thing one thinks but doesn't say though.

I'd have just ignored her, not resorted to pathetic juvenile comments about her appearance.