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to stock up on toasters and just give them for wedding presents

40 replies

hjwhjw · 11/05/2014 10:35

I have three different weddings in the next couple of months. Cue long journeys to see the lists at different shops.

I get they all lived together and don't need anything, if so why do they need 12 fancy goblets and an ice bucket?!

Seen some reduced toasters for 1.93, all new .

Tempted to just buy 10 and finish this boring wedding shopping for the next few years.

Btw I didn't have a wedding list and stressed we didn't want gifts. Some insisted on buying something so we said something handmade or John lewis gift vouchers.

OP posts:
LaurieFairyCake · 11/05/2014 10:37

So you asked for money at your wedding (gift vouchers) and you want to ignore what other people want and buy £1.93 toasters?

Oookkkkkaaaaay..... Hmm

JennyPiccolo · 11/05/2014 10:39

A wedding list is just a guide, is it not? You can buy what you want but a cheap toaster does seen a bit mean.

BerniesBurneze · 11/05/2014 10:40

Err yes, yabu!

BeckAndCall · 11/05/2014 10:41

If you can't be arsed to shop, just get them all John Lewis vouchers. After all, you know how useful they are.......

SueDNim · 11/05/2014 10:43

Why do you need to go to the shops to see the lists? Aren't they all online?

Summerbreezing · 11/05/2014 10:43

That's a bit unfair Laurie. They actually said they didn't want any presents and only when some people insisted said Something Handmade (ie cheap) or a John Lewis voucher (ie no trouble). So people had the option of buying nothing (preferred by b&g), giving something very inexpensive but thoughtful, or just spending a couple of minutes on line purchasing a voucher.
Couldn't have been fairer in my view.

whois · 11/05/2014 10:43

A cheap toaster is a shit gift. I'd rather nothing than a £1.93 toaster.

Tinkerball · 11/05/2014 10:44

Laurie where does OP say she asked for money? Confused....all she said was she stressed no gifts, that's a big leap you made!

OwlCapone · 11/05/2014 10:47

She "stressed" no gifts and, when asked, then gave suggestions of what to get. Not really stressing no gifts is it?

Summerbreezing · 11/05/2014 10:48

Anyway, I don't think the OP is being 100% serious. Just wearied by the wedding gift circus. There was a time when it was all about helping a newly wed couple to set up home and presents consisted of practical stuff like sheets and pillow cases, saucepans, cutlery etc.
Now some couples just put together an expensive wish list in a dept store, others rudely demand cash gifts only, others actually include bank account details with the invite, and some try to hide their rudeness with a naff poem. I think people are just getting a bit tired of it all.

Shinyshoes2 · 11/05/2014 10:48

I'd do it .... I'm assuming the toasters look more expensive than £1.93

I was skint for a long time last year and all the parties my dd went to she gave a box of maltesers ..

Do it !! It's always handy to have a spare toaster

Summerbreezing · 11/05/2014 10:49

There are some people Owl who, no matter how much you stress 'no gifts' will absolutely insist on giving something. The OP's response was effectively 'if you're going to insist on giving a present please make it something very inexpensive or something that puts you to no trouble.'

OwlCapone · 11/05/2014 10:49

It's always handy to have a spare toaster

No it isn't.

OwlCapone · 11/05/2014 10:52

There are some people Owl who, no matter how much you stress 'no gifts' will absolutely insist on giving something. The OP's response was effectively 'if you're going to insist on giving a present please make it something very inexpensive or something that puts you to no trouble.'

No, if you were "stressing" no gifts you would offer no gift suggestions. Perhaps a suggestion to donate to a charity of their choice but you don't make a suggestion of to what to buy.

ClashCityRocker · 11/05/2014 10:52

YABU.

I'm sure the bride and grooms would prefer something a bit more thoughtful.

Unless they've put a poem in requesting your 'presence' rather than your 'presents' before going into a long-winded epistle on how they have 'toasters and coasters' (really, are coasters still a thing?!) but would really like you to pay for their honeymoon, so just gimme cash.

Then they deserve a £1.93 toaster.

cece · 11/05/2014 10:53

I want to know where you can buy toasters for £1.93

ILoveWooly · 11/05/2014 11:00

DH need a new toaster for the office, where do you get these bargains?

CoffeeTea103 · 11/05/2014 11:00

No just don't. It's a cheap gift. Rather just not give anything.

IceNoSlice · 11/05/2014 11:03

Why do you have to actually go to the shops? Are the gift lists not online? I have been to many weddings and bought many gifts from gift lists - but never actually in a shop. You just log on, find something about the value you want to spend and buy it, right? 5 mins, max.

Once or twice done on my iPhone in the car en route to the wedding Wink

Summerbreezing · 11/05/2014 11:03

I disagree Owl. I have seen situations where people go 'Look I'm going to buy you something anyway, so it might as well be something you want' or 'There's no way we're coming empty handed.' etc etc etc. Sometimes it's actually polite to just graciously give in and say 'well thanks very much. But please don't go to trouble/spend much. We'd be delighted with .'.

FoxSticks · 11/05/2014 11:03

Why don't you just look at the lists on line?

OwlCapone · 11/05/2014 11:08

summerbreezing that is not "stressing" no gifts.

And in the case of the OP, she would clearly have been happy to receive a cheap toaster if the guest ignored their wishes and bought a present anyway.

FoxSticks · 11/05/2014 11:17

Would anyone really be pleased to receive a toaster if you already have one? It's not like a chopping board or serving spoon where its conceivably useful to have more than one.

MrsGoslingWannabe · 11/05/2014 11:22

Cheap toasters are bad for the environment so yes YABVU.

FoxSticks · 11/05/2014 11:24

Why are they bad for the environment MrsGosling?

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