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To ask you where or how you met your DH/ DW?

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Onwardsandupwards2014 · 10/05/2014 14:50

Just out of curiosity really! I have come through a hard time, but am feeling great now, very happy in myself and about to start a new job. After being single for a few years I feel ready to get out there and start dating again. Unsure at this stage if I will get to meet many new people through my work, but it's possible. Thinking of trying online dating.

Where did you meet your partner? Was it purely by chance or were you looking for a relationship?

OP posts:
JoandMax · 10/05/2014 15:32

Pub crawl at university, he was year above on the same course and although I'd seen him around had never spoken before then. We got chatting and that was that, inseparable from that moment. I had never planned on settling down so young or even having a boyfriend at that point, I was loving single life but he made me happier than I thought possible (and still does 14 years later).

chipshop · 10/05/2014 15:36

We worked for the same company, me in London, him oop North, had to communicate on a daily basis on the phone and by email. We got on but nothing personal.

After about a year he asked me to go for a drink when I mentioned I would be visiting family who lived in his city. We got hideously drunk on our date, had a long distance relationship for years and we're now in the same city, same house in fact.

It does remind me a bit of Gavin and Stacey. Grin

RockinHippy · 10/05/2014 15:41

I first saw him in the street near where I worked many many years ago & he caught my eye, but we didn't meet until a few months later when he started to work close by, he's from the same part of the country I am originally from & we sort if made a connection because of that, but I was living with a boyfriend at the time & didn't really think too much of it.

He turned up at a wedding as the new boyfriend of a close friend a few months later & they were together for a few years,mew all ended up living in the same street & socialising a lot, becoming very good friend & though I always thought him very handsome, thought a lot of him as a friend & felt a strong connection to him because if our shared roots, I never really thought of him in that way as we were both in relationships with others & neither of us operate that way.

We were friends for many years, but never single at the same time - due to us both having dodgy insecure & controlling partners at the same time, we lost touch for about 4 years. I split with my ex & had no interest in meeting anyone new at all, I'd had enough & was happily single - but his ex from years back who was still my friend couldn't understand how I could be happily single & kept hassling me for to know what I would look for in a man - I rember one day just to shut her up making this long list of what wasn't acceptable to me anymore & what the next man would need - she piped up with OMG - that's future MrRockinHippy - to which I pulled a Hmm face & told her to lay off

Then a mutual close friend died, I had the job of letting some people know about a memorial that was arrange for him - so ended up getting the number for & ringing my old friend, but only as a friend - turned out I was visiting the town he now lived in with a couple of friends that weekend, so we arranged to meet up -

next night I had a bizarre dream where I visited his house, married him & didn't leave. I clearly remembered the decor in his living room - quite a shock to arrive & find it was exactly as it was in my dreamShock

The rest is history - we've been happy together over 15years now, married for 12 - DDs due date was given as the birthdate our friend whose death had got us together , though she was late

Andrewofgg · 10/05/2014 15:54

Visited a friend (married woman) in hospital. She was visiting her too knowing her through another connection. Click, click, never looked back, 35th anniversary soon!

catgirl1976 · 10/05/2014 15:56

Saw him across a crowded lecture hall in my first lecture at university 16 years ago.

Been together ever since

Betrayedbutsurvived · 10/05/2014 15:57

On holiday in a karaoke bar, I was with DD then 15 and I'd just chased off a much older man who'd tried to chat her up. DH asked me what on earth I'd said to send him scurrying for the exit like that.

jeanmiguelfangio · 10/05/2014 16:10

My university halls kitchen, 3 weeks after we started. He was doing first aid with my hallmate. He used a particularly cheesy first aid related chat up line. Apparently my 18 yo self ignored that and its been 10yrs now. 5 years married, and a very cheeky 14mo dd.
Anyone else look at old photos and think- what was I thinking? Dh is much more attractive now!!

raffle · 10/05/2014 16:21

In the pub, 3rd year at uni, 14 years ago :)

EndoplasmicReticulum · 10/05/2014 16:25

School (that sounds bad for those who know I am a teacher but we were both 6th formers!)

Gurnie · 10/05/2014 16:27

On a gay dating site called "The Pink Sofa". Her pic popped up with a request to chat. I was at my parents' house at the time. My mum looked at the photo and her profile and said "My god, she sounds amazing, you at least have to meet her". I messaged her for 2 weeks, felt weirdly connected to her. When we finally met we were instantly wild about each other. We never looked back. She lived in a different part of the country then so we had a long distance relationship for some 18 mths. It was fine really because I had Dd and wanted to take it very slowly. The we got married and she moved here. We've been together for 10 years, couldn't be happier.

Good luck OP. It's well worth a try. I cannot think of any other way I would've met someone like her.

GemmaTeller · 10/05/2014 16:30

At work.....he was introduced one day as a new senior manager and I took one look and thought 'yes please' Smile

...apparently he thought the same....

We've been together 23 years

McPie · 10/05/2014 16:31

My mums back garden at my nephews 1st birthday party.

MrsWinnibago · 10/05/2014 16:33

At work. I wasn't looking. He walked into my section and I thought "Oh no...he's the one!"

It was such bad timing but I knew the second he walked through the door and I really wasn't up for anything serious...but I knew that was it. It wasn't love at first sight but a recognition sort of thing.

TheRedQueen · 10/05/2014 16:34

At university: he was a lecturer, I was a student ... ;-)

Sallyingforth · 10/05/2014 16:36

Friend and her DH tried to fix me up with someone they said would be 'just right for me'. I resisted for weeks.
Eventually to get some peace I agreed to a foursome meal at a hotel. We got on very well during the meal and afterwards the friends went home leaving us to have coffee in the bar.
We talked for hours until the staff wanted to close up, so we booked a room to continue our mutual interests.
In the morning my friend phoned to ask how it went and I answered evasively, but while we were talking DP's phone rang. Friend's DH had rung him to ask the same question! Friend heard the ring and answer so knew we were together, so we had to admit we were having breakfast in bed.
DP moved in the following weekend and has been here six years now.
He keeps asking me to marry him but I'm going to wait a bit longer.

SpiderRoaster · 10/05/2014 16:44

At a funeral......we both knew we end up together, but didn't do anything on the day other than talk and get very drunk.

Met up a week later and we're still together 9 years on.

Tanith · 10/05/2014 16:48

At a classical music concert.
I hadn't realised that my seat in the upstairs balcony was so very close to the edge on my left side. I hate heights and I couldn't stay there, so I asked politely if future DH would mind swapping seats and he very gallantly did so.

Years later, he admitted he knew the venue well, had deliberately chosen not to sit on the end, and spent the entire concert in terror because he hated heights, too Blush

They demolished the venue some years ago and rebuilt a much safer gallery in the new venue.

callmewhatever · 10/05/2014 16:49

On a night out. Was invited out but was tired and in bed at 10pm, then decided I wanted to go out. I randomly put my drink down on her table and she stole it Grin . We had a drunken snog and exchanged numbers. She's not got rid of me since. Married with 2 dc.

exexpat · 10/05/2014 16:50

Same faculty at university, different years/subjects - I think we got chatting in the common room.

I8toys · 10/05/2014 16:53

At university 20+ years ago. I was seeing his flatmate and he used to cook for us all. Fell for his sausage casserole! Dumped the French guy and hooked up with him.

KipT77 · 10/05/2014 16:54

On t'internet (my single friend. com) . Lots of interesting dates and then my DH.

KipT77 · 10/05/2014 16:54

... That reads as if my date with DH wasn't interesting. It was ace, he was the last internet dateGrin

Lanabelle · 10/05/2014 16:56

Highschool. 14 years later and he's almost fully house broke Wink nah, I was 13 and he was 15, I was the new kid in the tiny school and he had moved about 7 years prior form the same county I was from. We had the same funny accent which got us talking and would both take train journeys back on holidays to see friends and family together. Everyone thinks its weird that we're still together

MeadowHeartshimmertheFairy · 10/05/2014 17:03

On match.com and about to give up!

Now living together and engaged. Didn't imagine after leaving hideous XH that I would ever be lucky enough to find one of the good ones. I did Smile

ICanSeeTheSun · 10/05/2014 17:05

My ex cousin, we didn't fall in love but I was ready for sex so was my FB